idkhow fan safe space

It has come to our attention that people are calling this blog a “hate page”. This is not the case and was never the case. It simply serves as a way for people to discuss things in the fandom that have been bothering them, with a safe space to talk about it without fearing anyone harassing them or causing drama.   

From the beginning our focus has been protecting the identity of those who submit to the blog and those mentioned in the posts. In fact, if we get a submission that seems to be targeted hatred we have made the decision not to post it. All names and details that make anyone involved vulnerable have been redacted. You can see these redactions four yourself in our posts... 

We would never want to hurt anyone involved and would never break the trust of anyone who submitted to the blog. Nor are we asking anyone to go and be nasty to people. Our goal here is to try and repair things between fans, anyone calling us hateful are simply misinformed.

Also, do not submit anything of a gossipy nature about Dallon, Breezy, or anyone close to them. It will be ignored and promptly deleted. We are here to help with issues between fans only. 

So, for the short time this blog has been around we’ve noticed a couple things and want to add some clarification. 

We here have noticed that most of the posts on this blog are about one person in particular. The last thing we want is to make the idkhow fanbase look like one big toxic place, which it isn’t! This one person has thus far been accused of multiple awful wrongdoings to fans. These things include bullying, harassment, spreading rumors and lies to damage their reputation, and going way too far in a number of ways. 

This one is long, so buckle your seat belts.

At first the fandom was inviting, everyone was nice, and it seemed like an overall happy place. But ever since March, it’s gone downhill.

I have three experiences, so I’ll dive straight in.

Back in March, I had dealt with this girl who is notorious for starting drama just for follows, likes, etc. Her followers don’t see that(which is unfortunate)and she is one of the fakest people ever. She confronted me in my DMs accusing me of things, calling me “self obsessed”, “ungrateful”, “fake”, etc. All of this because I “didn’t follow her back”. I had unfollowed one of her friends, and she of course wasn’t happy about that. In her words, she said that since she “helped me get noticed by Dallon that I should follow her”. To which I’m thinking, “Dude, I’ve seen your posts and the shit you talk about. I don’t want to be following you because of that.” We talk it out, block each other, and all is well. Or so I thought.

A few days later, I woke up at one in the morning and I see that I had been tagged in a hateful confession about me. The girl had anonymously done it, twisted everything around to make me seem like this annoying piece of scum(when in reality, I’m very nice to people), and gotten people to hate on me as well. The confession was taken down ultimately because the account asked me if I wanted it to be deleted. The girl in question is still starting shit to this day, and I really hope her followers soon see how problematic she is.

Experience Two:

So this year, my friend and I had started a project for the band to show our love and to say thank you. It was pretty successful during the East Content Tour, but it was a semi flop during the London shows. The only one that worked was the last show. Leading up to the London shows, Breezy had found out about our project and had gotten into contact with us through our account. She posted our promo on her story, and immediately people started to follow, say that they’d love to help out, etc. We were beyond ecstatic. However, drama surfaced too. The same girl from my previous experience started talking shit about the project, calling it dumb, stupid, “there’s no point”, etc. But then turning right around and saying that she participated in the p!atd hearts(which is essentially the same thing)(I’m not trashing this project, I love it). That drama only lasted a day, and that night I had DMed Breezy on our account thanking her for hers, Dallon’s, and Ryan’s support(she had told me firsthand that they support it)and I told her what had happened that day. She was completely sympathetic and told me to message her if there was any harassment, threats, etc.(to which there have been none yet, thank God). Cut to after the London shows and hate resurfaced again.

A different account in question started saying the same things that the other girl had been saying, and calling it a flop because it didn’t work in London or Manchester. That made me realize that not everyone is going to participate/it’s not for everyone(which is fine). They did the same thing but said that it was stupid because it “didn’t have a deep meaning like the hearts” and apparently our message of showing love was an idiotic message. I ended up dming the person explaining the message but then ended up unsending my messages because I didn’t want to start drama. Two hours later, the person posted calling me a pussy in the caption.

Experience Three:

This one is on the shorter side. A few months ago, I was on my explore page and I kept seeing posts from one account that I was very tired of seeing. I had blocked them so that the posts didn’t show up anymore(this was before Instagram had the mute posts option). Cut to next month, and the account messages me on a different account saying they’d like to follow me but they can’t because I have them blocked. I immediately freak out and start apologizing profusely. They have a large following and when I remembered that, my anxiety kicked in saying that shit was going to start, they would post hate about me, etc. They forgave me, but I still had that anxious feeling. They ended up unfollowing me the next month, and now things have gone around about them in the fan base. To be honest, I had always had a weird/bad feeling about them and now the tea going around about them confirmed my beliefs. My friends have had the same feelings as well, and they told me that they had been tired of seeing the account as well, but they were too afraid to come forward and say something due to the fear of backlash.

Before I end, I’d like to add that at some point, I felt unsafe to go to future shows because of the people I had dealt with. I was scared that if they saw me, they’d talk shit, try to start something, or talk shit on social media after the show. My main fear came from the bigger accounts that I had conflict with. It’s sad that people like that can make it to the point that you feel unsafe to attend shows/have fun now. After talking with friends and having venting sessions with them, I’ve now realized that I should still take the opportunity to see the band if I have it. Fans can’t exactly “ban” you from going to shows, and they’re the ones who are going to look bad if they try to start shit face to face. So to anybody who’s feeling that way at the moment, that is my advice to you. Your fear will soon subside, trust me. Yes it may take time, but it will. Take it from a person who experienced that fear.

With all that has been happening in this fandom lately it’s been pretty heartbreaking. People have disregarded Dallon and his family’s privacy, many people have had to deal with toxic individuals in the fandom, and shows have become stressful in the hours leading up to the show when you have people all fighting to get as close as possible. Not to mention that during the shows people have been heard yelling disrespectful things, like calling Dallon “Daddy” which he has already said makes him very uncomfortable. SO, heres what you as a person can do to make this fandom a better place:

1. When attending shows, be nice and respectful to everybody around you. See them as people who have a common interest and are going to have a fun night together, do NOT see them as competition to get closer to barricade or hate on them. If you're nice to those around you, you’ll have a better time and might walk away with some new friends!

2. During the show, please show courtesy to those around you, and have respect for the band! Please don’t scream at them like animals, its not worth it and probably annoying to everyone around you. It’s okay to be excited, just be polite!

 3. If you see anything happening online that can potentially harm anyone at all, try to put a stop to it in a nonviolent way. Don’t encourage any inappropriate behavior. Example: if someone jokes around about finding Dallon’s address, maybe tell them not to do that. 

4. Be respectful to Dallon and Ryan always, if they cannot come out to meet people be understanding! And please don't wait outside of their tour bus if they say they cannot come out after the show! Remember that everyone wants to have a moment to meet Dallon and Ryan. Also, don’t crowd them and overwhelm them. They are people just like you and I. 

5. Remember that we are all united by one thing; our love for this band. We really aren’t all that different. Imagine how great shows would be if we were all kind and polite to one another! We can fix this by stopping the spread of toxicity. Love one another. 

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thank you for creating this blog. Here is my story..

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