Ideas 101🍓

I’m always a bit taken aback by questions like this.

It makes me think you’re asking whether I’d like somebody inspite of being ‘chubby’, which probably means two things: 1) you think chubbinessis in some way a deficiency; and 2) you are – to some extent – defining yourselfby your chubbiness.

Let’s break it down.

Firstly, I don’t like the term ‘chubby’. It belongs to afamily of pejorative terms that ought to be disused. Forget reclamation, let’snot normalise terms that are too often used to hurt. Let’s not concede to theassholes who carelessly throw these kind of terms around. By doing so, we allowtheir abuse to creep into our culture through the language we use. Give them noexcuse.

Ask yourself this: how do I define myself?

I want you to do something. Next time you weigh yourself,whatever the numbers say, look at the result and say out loud: “that’s not me”.Do this every time. When you feel somebody looking at you and you’re convincedit’s because of your size (which, by the way, we all do about our different physicalobsessions), say the same thing mentally. “That’s not me.” Do it to reject thatdemon. Do it to break the mental chain that has you believing your size is yourmost significant identifier. Do it to embrace and empower your true self. Do itbecause it’s true. That’s not you.

Why am I banging on about this? Because ‘chubby’ is not aclassification. At best it’s a minor description; an irrelevant observation. Yourbody is the shell in which the real you lives. The you that cares that yourfriends are OK. The you that worries whether you’re doing the right thing. Theyou that enjoys a little cry at a Pixar movie. The you that struggles every daybut still holds hope that things might be alright. The you with somuch potential to live for.

Do you think anyone cares how much your heart physically weighs?And yet that’s the most valuable organ you have. So let that become the way youself-identify. If you did that, questions like this sound silly. You’d look atthem and think ‘wha?’ – because ‘you’ are not how heavy you are, and however heavyyou actually are, doesn’t register on the scale of what’s truly important.

Sure, Jan

[Satoshi + Celebi]