Fuck Fake Feminism

The project is called Safe Passage."

"Every day I talk to moms that have lost their children and they can't find them," said Lynne Groulx, NWAC's CEO.

She said that as a mother herself she can't imagine not being able to find the remains of her child.

The final report of the national inquiry into missing and murdered Indigenous women and girls found a significant lack of data on cases.

"If we don't know the scope of the issue, then it's very hard to actually really deal with it," said Groulx.

So far, the map has been populated by just over 300 pinpoints where someone was last seen or remains have been found.

(2/?) I have an extremely deep voice. I've lost some of my hair due to the testosterone and it's... pretty male-looking. When I look at myself in the mirror and try to imagine myself in a female-only space, I only envision myself as an imposter. I feel like I'd scare the women there, thinking I'm a trans woman or even just a man breaching on their privacy. I'm a lesbian and I can't envision another woman wanting to date someone who destroyed their body with hormone treatments.(3/3) I know that the general consensus on here is that detransitioned women are still women, but I had already decided to shed myself of that label as a stupid teenager and now I feel like no matter what I do, I am stuck. None of my friends know that I am/was transgender. My family spent so much money on me to ensure I could transition. No matter what, I'm letting someone down. I'm sorry for all of this, I just wanted to let it out somewhere anonymously. Thank you for listening.

It sounds like you are experiencing Sunk Cost Fallacy - the belief that too much has been invested to back down now, despite the fact that backing down makes much more sense than going deeper.

I'll tell you this - you get one life. And you can live it for other people, or you can live it for yourself. And living our lives for ourselves is often messy, and uncomfortable, but it is always worth it.

Your parents didn't waste that money. They made an investment in your happiness at the time, and it probably made you happy then! There wasn't a way for you to know what would make you happy long term, you were a kid. And they love you, and when/if you tell them you're detransitioning, they'll love you then, as well. And you can even phrase it as "thank you for always investing in my happiness, I cannot thank you enough".

So my advice is to not go deeper when you want to stop. There is an amazing community of detransitioners on here, Twitter, and even IRL who I know would welcome you with open arms.

Your friends, if they truly care for you, will accept you as a detransitioner as well. It might be a bit of a shock for some of them, but vulnerability is the root of connection.

Overall, you can only make the decision that's best for you. You don't have to rush anything. Maybe it starts with quitting Testosterone and seeing how you feel. Nothing says you have to update friends and family that same week. Take your time. Trust yourself.

anon, like you i was on T for many years (over 5 for me) and i felt “too far gone,” but now, 3 years detransitioned, i am relieved to say i wasn’t too far gone, neither are you! i passed very easily, i had a deep voice and a masculinized hairline. both of those have changed. my hairline has grown back completely, something that until recently has still been changing. my voice is still deeper than it was originally, but it is not as deep as it was on T. i’ve heard a lot of mixed experiences from detrans women on this front, but my experience shows me it’s possible for change to happen, and i haven’t done any “voice training.”

i was so afraid of being seen as an imposter in women’s spaces or of other lesbians no welcoming me or being attracted to me, but women recognize other women. it’s scary at first, but i’m confident you will find acceptance and community among women, of you want it.

I wanted to post this because I thought it was sweet, but I think it’s also a good reminder to allies and also fellow lgbt members that people seeing you is important and for lgbt+ people when you are ready to come out, if you ever are (if you aren’t that’s also okay, and you should only come out if you are ready), it can make a world of difference to other people and you are doing something good!

Also I think it’s important to remember, amongst the discourse and the horrible things that happen in the world, we have allies and we have each other ✨

My parents and legal guardians don’t agree with me compressing my chest,damaging my lungs and deforming my ribcage. I know better them and so I’m asking you, random stranger, if you wouldn’t mind helping me go behind my parent’s backs to do myself physical damage!”

This is not a yay. This is a “holy shit where are the fucking adults?!”

Because some trans people look like this:

Like, if I saw them out and about I wouldn't even think they were trans.

And so what if a gay person is superficially attracted to a trans person for a moment? The attraction will quickly evaporate once we realize they are not our same sex. Because we are gay.

When I was in HS, I went to see le tigre with a straight classmate who thought JD Samson was hot based on the gig poster. Once she realized JD is actually female, my classmate was no longer attracted because she is heterosexual. The fact of JD's biological sex was enough to kill any surface attraction she initially felt. Similarly, some heterosexual men may be superficially attracted to feminine transwomen, but lose any attraction when they learn he is male.

And the notes are stating bs like "feminists changed the law to protect female rapists" "As long as you have a pussy you can break into someone's home and rape them" "

I cant imagine that "female privilege" is real tbh but im a bit unsettled by this. Im curious what you think about it ❤️

TW: rape.