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The winery is a frequent spot for league players bachelor parties, the owner being a former player and all and so Ilya knows that he will finally meet his idol, his teenage crush, his bisexual awakening.

So tipsy Ilya keeps inventing situations where the owner’s presence is needed. Someone breaks a glass, he searches Shane out to ask for a broom. Someone knocks over a bottle of booze, he goes to Shane to ask for paper towels, allegedly worried about ruining the hardwood floor. Someone spills some red wine on his fuckass leopard print shirt, he goes to Shane asking if he could borrow a tshirt.

So one of the guys decides to run away into the fields of grapevines, he asks Shane for a flashlight and maybe for help to find the man (the other guys are blasted drunk, Shane, im just gonna lose them in there too). Shane goes with him, no questions asked, and they talk and get on like a house on fire and suddenly Shane is like ok so what’s going on here? don’t fuck with me dude, i know there’s rumours about me but if you’re pulling some sort of weird prank on me we’re gonna have problems and Ilya is taken aback because maybe he’s more drunk than he thinks and he’s been coming off as some sort of homophobic jackass so he says well I have been trying to flirt with you all evening and Shane is just like hmm interesting

I think some folks are conflating lifestyle curation with presenting a capital-L Lifestyle for others to consume.

This isn't about neatly capturing, tagging, and running filters on every facet of your life. It's about being mindful of who and what you choose to let into your life.

I'm willing to bet we all have things in our lives that cause pain/frustration that we could let go of or otherwise change, from toxic "friends" to that coffee mug you never use that takes up space in your cabinet.

These are all examples of questions I have asked myself that led to more mindful curation in my life (ymmv):

Did I buy [object] just to have or will I actually use it?

Would I be friends with [increasingly toxic person I've known since childhood] if I met them for the first time as an adult?

Do I use [room in my house] for its typical intent, or do I do something that's specific to my lifestyle knowing that may impact my home's resale value?

Does it take me 30 min to pick out an outfit because I like everything in my closet, or is it because I like nothing?

Am I holding onto [object] because I like it, or because [family member] guilted me into keeping it?

Do I pull over during errands to check out [roadside stand/attraction] or keep going, because of some imaginary timeline I have in my head?

Do I stop reading this book or watching this TV show because I'm not really into it, or slog my way through because I'm not a "quitter"?

Do I alter [common antique object] because it will make me happier, or do I leave it as-is because age somehow makes it "sacred"?

It really helps to have a little voice in your head that pipes up when you make decisions on autopilot, especially when the reason is "that's just how it's always been".

There's a lot we don't have control of in our lives, and a lot we where do have control, but are either afraid to exercise that control, or have never even *considered* we have control.