Hrefna's Domain In The Woods

My longtime friend has two wonderful kitties who’ve been dealing with some health issues, and those have really run up some vet bills!

Binky didn’t end up needing the ultrasound, but ended up getting other, even more expensive tests and medications:(

The goal is $800, and the fundraiser is currently at $386, can we help my friends out a bit? (Or even boost if you can’t?)

Luckily, Rain (our cat) is seemingly feeling better.

Any help you send send two mentally ill, disabled trans women would be greatly appreciated 💜🙏💜

Any help would be greatly appreciated 🙏

And my paycheque after missing so much time was not even $200, that disappeared quickly into groceries, gas and some other essentials. I've been trying to pick up extra hours, but I think I might be overdoing it lol

We could still use any help people are able to offer 💜

Thank you for all the help so far 💜💜💜

Edit Dec 24

Home in Suffolk, UK

"why are you barging into trans men's spaces to bully them?"

i'm a trans man. i'm not anywhere i'm not already welcome.

"why are trans women allowed to have their own specific term for their oppression, but trans men aren't?"

in greater society, men are viewed as the default while women are viewed as the other. women are subjugated under a patriarchal society. this is the foundational concept of feminism, that women deserve equal treatment as men. society also views cis as the default and trans as the other.

trans women's experience differs from trans men in that they experience intersecting oppression, both as trans people and as women. the term "transmisogyny" was coined to describe exactly this.

trans men experience gender based oppression on the basis of being trans. the term to describe the oppression of trans men is transphobia. "transphobia toward trans men," if you want to really be specific. there is no way to create a word for that without directly implying cis men also face gender based oppression.

"i can't believe you'd say trans men aren't oppressed."

this is not what i said.

like i said, i'm a trans man. i grew up ostracized as a teenager for expressing gender in a way that wasn't "normal." i've had family members tell me, to my face, that they'd be happy if republican politicians stripped away my right to hormones and surgery. i've been denied jobs after telling hiring managers i am trans. i understand this intimately, i've dealt with it my entire life.

this is a semantics issue. guys are ascribing trans men's oppression to the term "transmisandry." and then, when people say transmisandry doesn't exist, that gets interpreted as "trans men do not face oppression" rather than the actual, intended point of "misandry does not exist because men are not oppressed on the basis of being men. therefore, trans men's oppression is based on being TRANS, not as men."

"trans men experience misogyny since they're afab. shouldn't they be allowed to use the term transmisogyny to describe that?"

trans men should be included in things like abortion rights and discussions of menstruation. we agree on that.

i'll try to draw a parallel. a common form of gay male homophobia is to say things like "anal sex is unnatural. men aren't supposed to have sex with each other because they both have penises." but some trans women have penises and have anal sex. should straight trans women be use the term homophobia to describe disdain towards the type of sex they have? the answer to that is: sort of.

misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, intersexism, and so on all exist in this big, ugly, interconnected ball. they all stem from the same idea: there is an ideal standard that all men and women should adhere to. any deviation from this norm should be met with social stigma and violence.

this is why the mainstream terf movement is closely tied pro-lifers and right wing pundits. when you define womanhood with a set of strict, natal rules, you also attract the type of asshole who is against women's liberation, against queer liberation, against intersex visibility.

anyways. another semantics issue. transmisogyny does not just means "transphobia + misogyny." it is specific to trans womanhood, which is why trans men should avoid using the term to describe their experiences.

"but cis men do experience gender based oppression! what about gender non-conforming men?"

see my above point regarding misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, and intersexism all being connected. if a man is experiencing oppression, its likely tied to one of these.

"you sound like a terf, op."

i am saying trans women experience misogyny because they are in the social class of women. this is the opposite of what terfs believe.

"we should kill op with hammers because he uses reddit."

But I just saw a video of a TT user explaining that they decided to do their own little social experiment — by walking up to drug dealers on the street, telling them there's a young woman with a baby who needs help with formula, and literally all of them immediately reached into their pockets. In this story, the OP did have a real neighbor with a baby who ended up getting some much needed baby supplies. Thanks to the charity of local drug dealers.

We're two disabled, mentally ill trans women and we could really use your help.

Overdrawn account - $175.68/$202.58

Phones - $0/$276.94 made payment arrangements so this is fine for a while

Gas - $0/$50

Groceries - $0/$150

Meds - $0/$250

Paypal, ko-fi and dm for direct deposit in Canada

Edit: Oct 2627

Gas - $0/$50

Groceries - $67.21/$150

Ireland is coming to the end of a three year pilot of Basic Income for Artists.

2000 artists received €325 a week for three years, and every euro paid to participants resulted in society receiving €1.39 in return.

Israel hasn’t been beaten. Netanyahu is still in power instead of being behind bars. Palestinians are fed into a meat-grinder.

I never thought I would write these words… 😔

I never imagined waking up to endless screams,

Running barefoot through smoke and fire,

Searching for my mother among the rubble,

Only to find nothing but silence… a heavy silence telling me that no one will answer me anymore. 💔

In one moment, everything changed.

Our home became a memory, my mother’s embrace became the past,

And my father's face, now absent, is the last thing I hold in my memory.

They’re gone… and left my heart burdened with unspoken grief. 😢

But despite everything, we are still here… trying.

I survived with my younger siblings.

Yes, we survived… but who are we after survival?

Children without warmth, without a roof, with no place to return to.

We were displaced to an unknown place, carrying a bag empty of everything… except pain. 🥀

We slept in the open, waking every morning to a life that holds nothing for us,

But despite everything… we keep trying. 💪

I write to you today not to cry, but to ask for hope. 🌱

I ask you to be a small light in this vast darkness,

To extend a hand that can mend what the war has broken in us.

Your donation will give my siblings a chance to sleep safely,

It will provide us with food, shelter, and maybe even a new beginning. 💖

✅️Vetted by @gazavetters, my number verified on the list is ( #586 )✅️

Any amount, no matter how small, is big for us

It’s a prayer, it’s love, it’s life. 🌟

In conclusion...

From my heart, and from the hearts of my little siblings,

Thank you to everyone who has donated,

Thank you to everyone who has read,

Thank you to everyone who has shared.