NerdandNarcissist

• Orgasms

• Receiving money

• Receiving compliments

• Pretty privilege

• Being smart

• Dressing up

• Menstrual cycles

• Emotions and being sensitive

• Expressing our sexuality

• Resting and relaxation

• Asserting our sexual needs

• Maintaining our standards

• Saying No

• Wanting or having children

• Choosing to be childfree

• Our body count

• Our nude body

• Wearing makeup or not wearing makeup

• Having boundaries and protecting ourselves

• Our spiritual practices

• Using witchcraft

• Being ambitious

• Going to college

• Being a housewife or stay at home mom

“I am a spoiled princess”

“Everything I need, I already have.”

“My days are filled with stability, peace, comfort & happiness.”

* Track overall trends, not daily fluctuations.

* Measure your consistency before you measure outcomes. Sometimes progress is stagnant or delayed, but if you are consistently doing the work that moves you forward, that’s all that matters and the progress will catch up in due time.

* Use your progress to gather information, not to belittle yourself. You can neutrally acknowledge where you haven’t been doing your best and then improve. There’s no need to beat yourself up in the process.

* Take progress photos because mirrors and memories can be misleading.

* Remember that healthy progress is rarely perfectly linear, especially if it’s a long term goal.

* When you reach a plateau, consider that a test of whether you will continue to be consistent or not. It’s pretty much the breaking point between the have’s and the have-not’s.

* Build routines that still work on your worst day, not just your best one.

* Decide in advance what "good enough" looks like when your energy is low.

* Keep your standards flexible but your commitment non-negotiable.

* Notice the excuses that you frequently make because they usually follow a predictable pattern that you need to learn to break.

* Reduce the number of decisions you make daily so your goals don't compete with decision fatigue. Put your goal related habits on autopilot, ideally as early in the day as possible. You should never have to guess or ‘figure out’ what you should be doing.

* Let your goals determine your actions instead of letting your mood decide them. You don’t study because you feel like it, you study because you want to be a competent lawyer.

* Create a ‘minimum’ version of your routine that keeps your streak alive. Literally the most embarrassingly low effort task that just barely counts as doing the work. But you are indeed doing the work and you haven’t abandoned your mission, and on days like these that's all that matters. Keep moving forward even if it’s millimeter by millimeter.

* Stop checking to see if you feel like it before you do something. Who cares, just do it.

* Learn to recognize the difference between needing rest and simply seeking comfort. Half the time you take a social media break while studying isn’t because you truly needed a break, but because you are experiencing the friction of not knowing something and are retreating to something easy and comfortable. 

* Pay attention to the first habit you abandon, because it often predicts what comes next. Like an evil domino falling. 

* Make restarting/continuing so simple that one missed day never becomes a missed month. Remember, the itty bittiest actions can be the spark that's needed to ignite big changes. Sounds cliche but it’s true!!

* Healthy habits are built through small actions repeated consistently. This is extremely important for you to internalize. Small actions + long term consistency = a healthy habit.

* Start with one habit at a time so you don't overwhelm yourself or burn out in a matter of days.

* Make your first step so easy that it's almost impossible to skip.

* Increase the difficulty gradually as your habits become automatic. You’ll reach the ‘automatic habits’ territory a lot easier and faster if you make your starting point suuuper easy. It will actually require nearly the same amount of mental effort to just do 30 seconds of jumping jacks as it will to go to the gym for an hour. If you’re not in the habit of exercise, putting your phone down to get moving will still have friction either way. So by making your habit formation set to extreme easy mode, you will get to the point of “I am someone who wakes up and immediately exercises” with less suffering, and then you can increase intensity. 

* Make a daily attempt, even if you only do it at a 30% level instead of 100% perfection. 

* Tie a new habit to something you already do every day to make it easier to remember.

* Create an environment that makes healthy choices the easiest choices. This includes your phone btw. And your dating choices. And your friends.

* Remove small obstacles that make good habits harder to follow. Don’t try to negotiate yourself out of this. Willingly allowing something that prevents you from reaching your goals to take up real estate in your environment/life is a huge reason why you never reach the success you crave. Stop that?? 

* Accept that missing one day isn't failure, just don't let one missed day become a pattern. Reflect on why you had a ‘miss day’ and consider what you can do to prevent it from happening again tomorrow. 

* Replace unhealthy habits with healthier alternatives to take up that space. Sometimes the healthier alternative may not be more so-called productivity, but actually rest and relaxation. 

* Build routines that fit your dream life rather than copying someone else's. For example, the routine of a mega successful CEO may seem like peak performance, but are you even into the work work work go go go type of life? If not, idk if that 5am ice bath is necessary for you to recreate but that’s up to you lol.

* Be patient because lasting change is measured in months and years, not days.

* Trust that tiny improvements made every day eventually create remarkable results. It’s really that simple.