yall i dont give a shit about your bodies but you have to AT LEAST agree that thinking 24/7 about being fat and having a whole damn blog about how you're sad isnt good for your MENTAL health. as someone who struggled with being fat and with depression and with the self pity void I gotta warn yall... this is not the way to feel happier. no need to lose weight just... get out of this hellsite?? live?? not everything is about weight ?? chill a little stop taking everything so seriously
β¦. I feel like you have no idea what this blog is about, because this ask makes no sense.
βthinking 24/7 about being fatβ
Fun fact! I only think about how I am fat when other people put me in a position where I have to recognize that I am fat and they are not!Β
I donβt think about it until Iβm in a tight space that hurts my body because it wasnβt designed for people like me!
I donβt think about it until someone makes a rude remark reminding me that they hate me or think Iβm ugly because I am fat!
I donβt think about it until I receiveΒ hate mail for it!
I donβt think about it until I hear an offensive comment on TV about how fat people deserve to die, donβt deserve love, etc.!
I donβt think about it until society reminds me that I am fat, and therefore amΒ βwrongβ for existing!
I would literally never think about it if only society treated me like there is nothing wrong with being fat! But we donβt live in that society, and the point of this blog is to call out the things that contribute to the problem, to call out the things that hurt fat people, to demand an end to our bullying and mistreatment!Β
βhaving a whole damn blog about how youβre sadβ
Buddy, this is a social justice and activism blog, full stop. Itβs not about how we areΒ βsad,β itβs about how the treatment of fat people is cruel and unjust, and how we need to change how society views fatness.
βas someone who struggled with being fat and with depression and with the self pity void I gotta warn yallβ¦ this is not the way to feel happier.β
Well as someone who is fat, who is depressed, and who has crawled out of theΒ βself-pity voidβ a long time ago and learned to love myself, your warning is wrong. I feel great about myself because this blog has helped solidify for me how much of the awful things that have happened to me- the bullying, the desire to starve myself, the pain, the longing for death- were not my fault, and this blog has really helped me and a lot of others to learn to love and accept ourselves and our bodies and stop hating ourselves just because other people donβt find fat bodies attractive or valuable. Itβs taught me to recognize my own value and worth and to channel my pain not into self-loathing or destructive habits, but into activism and fighting to make the world a better place, so no one else has to hurt like I did.Β
My mental health is better than it has ever been. So keep your mouth shut about it. You are not my psychiatrist and yourΒ βadviceβ is not wanted.
βget out of this hellsite?? live??β
Buddyβ¦ you realize Iβm still fat offline, right? That 98% of the bullying, hate, discrimination, and mistreatment I have faced for my weight happened offline? That this hellsiteΒ is not responsible for fatphobia and that the fatphobia that exists here is a result of fatphobia that exists offline and fatphobic people I could easily meet offline? Do you understand that? Do you?Β
You really have no idea what youβre talking about here.Β
βnot everything is about weightβ No shit? But as fat people, we are constantly reminded about our weight, constantly treated poorly for our weight, constantly made to feel bad about our weightβ¦ I mean look at me, I am queer, poor, mentally ill, etc., and the thing I have been mistreated most for is my weight. I have barely ever experienced queerphobia or classism when you compare it to the fatphobia I have faced, and uh, Iβve experienced a lot of queerphobia and classism.Β
Itβs not our fault as fat people that the rest of the world wonβt let us just live. Itβs not our fault we constantly must be on the defense and must constantly prove that we have a right to live and a right to be happy despite being fat.Β
Again, I would never have to think about my weight if society didnβt keep reminding me. Itβs not my fault I was born in a world that hates fatness.
βchill a little stop taking everything so seriouslyβ
Thatβs hilarious coming from someone who was so offended by our blog existing that they had to come here to tell us to stop blogging and to get off Tumblr.
Maybe youβre the one who needs to chill? Let other people live?
- Mod Bella
I feel like jumping off the cliff walking around feeling depressed and dealing with my own crap while random strangers feels itβs okay too put you down and make you feel worse
