stop! just stop. eat the special snack. drink the expensive hippie tea. use the incense or the bath bomb or whatever you paid way too much for because you were feeling really bad and retail therapy makes u feel alive

when we save things for special occasions/rainy days it contributes to us feeling like A.) our day to day existence is lackluster and B.) you have to be feeling a certain level of Bad, or have to reach a certain level of Socially Accepted Achievement, to enjoy things

just give yourself stuff. there are definitely sometimes reasons to withhold things from yourself - as motivation, if it’s something you consciously want to use sparingly, etc - but at least for me half the time it just turns into self-flagellation and also cool things and cool experiences and nice treats just collect dust while i wait for some fabled day when i convince myself i finally Deserve it

Ariana Grande

Ariana Grande is socially aware when it comes to preferred pronouns and is best friends with agender activist Tyler Ford; also uses correct pronouns

She left her church when they didn’t allow her brother in because he was gay

Genuinely gave a wonderful advice to a fan on how to deal with homophobic bullies

Made a statement panning sexism and double standards in society

Actively shuts down misogyny and shut down two radio talk hosts when they said “men” couldn’t use the unicorn emoji 

Incorporates LGBTQ+ in her songs

Miley Cyrus

Miley Cyrus makes date rape jokes

Made her eyes slanted in a photo pretending to be asian

Appropriates black culture

Further appropriating it by wearing dreadlocks

Used a trans slur