Querencia

12 Things Happy People do Differently

Stay close to the things that make you feel alive. Listen to your favorite song on repeat. Watch the sunset. Fall asleep to the sound of rain. Build a pillow fort. Let the sunshine from the window pour over you. Gaze up at the stars and count as many as you can until you lose count. Binge your favorite t.v. show. The smell of old books, daytime moons, that feeling of deja vu, thrift shops, long car rides. It’s the little things in life that make everything worthwhile. And when you feel like you wanna give up, when you feel so alone that the aching in your chest won’t go away, when you convince yourself that you don’t matter, try and remember this: There are so many foods you have not tasted. Books you haven’t read. Songs and albums you have never heard and fell in love with. Words you never even knew existed. Spices you have never smelled. Cities you have never explored and gotten lost in. People you have never met. Maybe you don’t love yourself. Maybe you hate the way you look. Maybe you’ve said something you shouldn’t have. Maybe you miss someone. Maybe you’ve lost someone. Maybe it feels like the world is against you and that you can’t do anything right and that it would be better off if you just disappeared. You are here right now. That’s all that matters. What you have done, what you have said, what you have felt, it doesn’t matter. Your mistakes, your fears, they do not define you. You are alive. You are still standing. Your heart’s still beating. The sun still shines in the morning. The rain still falls from the sky. The flowers still bloom in the spring. The world goes on, despite everything. You have survived through everything you have ever went through, gotten over every hurdle they have placed before you. Don’t give up now.

I will love you if you don’t marry me. I will love you if you marry someone else… and I will love you if you have a child, and I will love you if you have two children, or three children, or even more… and I will love you if you never marry at all, and never have children, and spend your years wishing you had married me after all, and I must say that on late, cold nights I prefer this scenario out of all the scenarios I have mentioned.

You’re lucky if someone writes for you, because they write what they feel and you can feel it came from their heart. You may not hear them say it, but just by reading every word, it feels like it touches your insides. They’re like bullets that aim straight in your heart.

Do you imagine at night someone going to bed the very moment you are going to bed? Turning out the light? And isn’t it so quiet you swear the heart is telepathic. Isn’t it?

Love is when

1. Stop replying to unworthy messages just to keep a conversation going. 2. Don’t start forced conversations. 3. Stop waiting for Fridays, live for Mondays, live for everyday, your weekends only make a fraction of your life. 4. Be happy being alone, but learn to appreciate company. 5. Stop holding grudges, learn to forgive. 6. Be enthusiastic about everything! 7. Learn to put the past behind you. 8. Stop being afraid of silence. 9. Talk less, watch more. 10. Don’t wonder ‘what if’. If it was meant to happen, it would have happened. 11. Read more, you’ll be glad you did. 12. Learn to be apathetic about people leaving, hold the door open for them. 13. Know your own self-worth, love yourself most. 14. Accept mistakes, perfection is often fake. 15.  Draw stuff, make stuff, make art. 16. Spend more time outdoors. 17. But know that sometimes just getting out of bed is enough of an achievement. 18. Listen to happy music, listen to sad music, listen to something that keeps the silence from your ears. 19. See your friends more often, but also find comfort in spending time just watching the world go by on your own. 20. Don’t be afraid of terminating toxic relationships. 21. Smile more, smile at everybody. Sometimes they’ll need a smile more than you. 22. Find a reason to get up every morning, and a reason to go to sleep smiling. 23. Follow through with your ideas, no matter how small or silly they may seem. 24. Take more pictures, they’ll be perfect for nostalgia later on. 25. Plan for the future, but don’t live in the planning, things can change in the present while you’re too busy looking ahead 26. Get good sleep. but stay up until 4am every now and then, and observe how you change. 27. Write. Write songs, write stories, write poems. Write. 28. Sing, nobody really cares whether you’re bad. 29. Stop waiting for people to miss you, if they’re not with you, they don’t deserve to be. 30. Curse less. 31. Love more. 32. Become as happy as it’s possible for you to be. 33. Repeat.

I’d be the type of wife who owns a heart locket with a photo of her husband within.

If you end up with a boring, miserable life because you listened to your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest, or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit, then you deserve it.

don’t dwell on the past: you can’t change it. don’t dwell on the future: you can’t control it. focus on what’s happening right now and go from there.

I want to hold your hand when we’re 80 and say we made it.