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pH balance in your mouth, and how it affects your teeth! Inspired by my dentist scolding me for my daily energi drink consumption, cause it’s apparently detrimental to the health of my enamel… whatever that means
why does battery acid have to taste so good…
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I feel like ODD being an official disorder in the DSM should be the thing that makes everyone go “hm” about how psychology is practiced
[looking a child directly in the eye] i diagnose you with Shitty Bitch Syndrome. this makes it legal to do medieval german tortures to you by the way
cmon man
Hi I have an undergrad psych degree! I also have ADHD! In my motherfucking TEXTBOOK, the authors said, “Research describes ADHD as a neurodevelopmental disorder in the same vein as Autism. We are putting the (miniscule) section on ADHD in the same chapter as ODD, though, because we believe really these disorders both boil down to ✨️ people not doing what we tell them to because they are lazy✨️”
So my actual TEXTBOOK admitted that it was biased and teaching these disorders based on opinion and not up to date research. And, as described above, the section on ODD was basically just, “these are bad kids. We will not look into why or how or what comorbidities exist and we will also not be exploring the possibility of ODD really being a manifestation of trauma/undiagnosed adhd/autism/pathological demand avoidance/persistent drive for autonomy. We will however be mostly focusing on how annoying these kids are to their parents and teachers ✨️”
It’s fucking crazy. “Yeah we know lots of people with autism struggle to follow demands. They may either ignore/not register demands or have meltdowns when demands are placed. They may engage in physical aggression, verbal aggression, and property desctruction when directed to complete tasks or be exposed to uncomfortable sensory input. They may need to know the why behind demands and consequently argue with authority figures. They may be easily upset by sensory input or social interactions and have emotional outbursts when pushed beyond their limits. Some children with autism seek attention and may engage in maladaptive behaviors to elicit the attention of peers and caregivers if positive attention is not given freely/if they are ignored when behaving appropriately. All of these are symptoms of their underlying neurological differences and should be met with compassion and understanding. They are not bad children. Their brains process information differently and therefore they have executive functioning, sensory processing, and emotional regulation challenges that cause these behaviors.
Those kids over there? Yeah they have all the same symptoms but they are just Morally Wrong and Bad Children. They have Oppositional Defiance Disorder. How can I tell? Well that one hand flaps and that one doesn’t.”
How would you even measure that?
Things adults wrongly identify as arguing:
Asking for clarification
Asking any kind of question
defending yourself
answering a question teh adult has just asked you
breathing
Existing
Oh, also:
Race and the Mental Representation of Individuals Diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder: Implications for Diagnosis
Results: Classification images (CIs) showed that the children selected as having ODD appeared more prototypically Black in facial appearance than children not chosen as having ODD. No differences emerged in the gendered appearance of the two group-level CIs. Judged rates of ODD were higher for the children who appeared to be Black. However, diagnostic judgments of clinical trainees and practitioners were unaffected by appearance factors, suggesting that formal clinical training might attenuate the influence of stereotypes on judgment. Discussion: These results indicate that an overlap in Black stereotypes and diagnostic criteria for ODD might contribute to elevated diagnosis of ODD in African American children.
Overwhelmingly Black diagnosis.
Pathologizes problems with authority to dismiss them as irrational.
2021:
Researchers focused on whether kids that are spanked are more likely to share or, conversely, more likely to have anxiety, years down the li
2021:
Spanking found to impact children's brain response, leading to lasting consequences.
2018:
The American Academy of Pediatrics says new evidence and research not only show that spanking affects a child’s brain development and increa
2016:
Kids who are spanked tend to act out more and have more problems later on.
2012:
A study reviewed more than two decades of research on the effects of spanking and found nothing positive to report, only that physical punis
2010:
A multiyear study shows spanking kids makes them more aggressive later on
I haven’t pissed people off lately by reminding them that ALL types of physical punishment of kids has been proven beyond ANY reasonable doubt to have only negative long term outcomes.
So let me scream it from the hilltops:
Stop hitting kids. End of sentence.
If you think, “but I was hit and I turned out just fine” let me pre-reply: NO YOU DID NOT. You think hitting a child is ok, how the fuck does that qualify as “fine”?????? From one abuse survivor to another: please start healing yourself.
This post needs a "it's been 5 years" update, so here we go:
2022:
Spanking is a risk factor for children's social competency. However, establishing causality is a challenge, given selection bias in samples
Background There is a vast literature on the negative associations between spanking in childhood and various psychosocial developmental outc
2023:
The use of corporal punishment in schools is not an effective or ethical method for management of behavior concerns and causes harm to stude
Spanking has been linked to multiple maladaptive child outcomes. However, previous research linking spanking with children's executive funct
2024:
Corporal punishment is believed to precede various forms of violent behavior, yet prior research has yielded inconsistent findings, partly d
2025:
This technical report describes the prevalence, risk factors for, and consequences of child corporal punishment, which it defines as “any pu
Physically punishing children in low- and middle-income countries (LMICs) has exclusively negative outcomes -- including poor health, lower
YOU GOTTA BE FUCKING KIDDING ME TUMBLR
So annoying. So GD annoying.
The World Health Organization report I highly recommend because there are so many conclusions that are shocking and yet completely obvious.
For example, being exposed to corporal punishment as a kid makes it more likely for a person to commit domestic violence against a partner. In places where corporal punishment is normal, people are more likely to think that rape and intimate partner violence are normal. Kids who are spanked are more likely to be violent with and to bully other kids.
Spanking is literally teaching a kid that violence is okay and normal and it affects the whole society.
It also talks about how corporal punishment affects the brain in its development. It changes the structure of the brain and slows the development of mental abilities. Kids who get spanked have much stronger hormonal responses to stress.
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2021:
Researchers focused on whether kids that are spanked are more likely to share or, conversely, more likely to have anxiety, years down the li
2021:
Spanking found to impact children's brain response, leading to lasting consequences.
2018:
The American Academy of Pediatrics says new evidence and research not only show that spanking affects a child’s brain development and increa
2016:
Kids who are spanked tend to act out more and have more problems later on.
2012:
A study reviewed more than two decades of research on the effects of spanking and found nothing positive to report, only that physical punis
2010:
A multiyear study shows spanking kids makes them more aggressive later on
I haven’t pissed people off lately by reminding them that ALL types of physical punishment of kids has been proven beyond ANY reasonable doubt to have only negative long term outcomes.
So let me scream it from the hilltops:
Stop hitting kids. End of sentence.
If you think, “but I was hit and I turned out just fine” let me pre-reply: NO YOU DID NOT. You think hitting a child is ok, how the fuck does that qualify as “fine”?????? From one abuse survivor to another: please start healing yourself.
This post needs a "it's been 5 years" update, so here we go:
2022:
Spanking is a risk factor for children's social competency. However, establishing causality is a challenge, given selection bias in samples
Background There is a vast literature on the negative associations between spanking in childhood and various psychosocial developmental outc
2023:
The use of corporal punishment in schools is not an effective or ethical method for management of behavior concerns and causes harm to stude
Spanking has been linked to multiple maladaptive child outcomes. However, previous research linking spanking with children's executive funct
2024:
Corporal punishment is believed to precede various forms of violent behavior, yet prior research has yielded inconsistent findings, partly d
2025:
This technical report describes the prevalence, risk factors for, and consequences of child corporal punishment, which it defines as “any pu
Physically punishing children in low- and middle-income countries (LMICs) has exclusively negative outcomes -- including poor health, lower
YOU GOTTA BE FUCKING KIDDING ME TUMBLR
So annoying. So GD annoying.
The World Health Organization report I highly recommend because there are so many conclusions that are shocking and yet completely obvious.
For example, being exposed to corporal punishment as a kid makes it more likely for a person to commit domestic violence against a partner. In places where corporal punishment is normal, people are more likely to think that rape and intimate partner violence are normal. Kids who are spanked are more likely to be violent with and to bully other kids.
Spanking is literally teaching a kid that violence is okay and normal and it affects the whole society.
It also talks about how corporal punishment affects the brain in its development. It changes the structure of the brain and slows the development of mental abilities. Kids who get spanked have much stronger hormonal responses to stress.
when I was in high school I had a literature teacher who had a policy of unlimited extra credit. All you had to do was read a book by a notable author (his discretion) and have a little chat with him after school to prove that you read it. No limits, no need for variety (one month I decided I really loved Kurt Vonnegut and just read everything of his I could get my hands on).
Yes, I was tearing through books constantly, and talking to this teacher at least weekly. Because even though I always loved reading as a kid, literature was always a very weak subject for me in terms of a teaching-to-standardized-test school setting (I just do awful on "what color were the curtains" type multiple choice questions. Those details don't stick in my memory THEY JUST DON'T). But that didn't matter for this class. I could just read my way out of any bad test score. I have always had fond memories of how I "fudged" my way through that class and "abused' the extra credit policy.
I was thinking about it again today, and only just now realized that he absolutely tricked me into being well-read, while my teenage self thought I was totally getting away with something. THAT MOTHERFUCKER. I hope he's doing well.
i hate when rich people condescend with the whole 'money can't buy happiness' argument like listen. just because buying your fourth car didn't fill the void in your deluded disconnected-from-reality life doesn't mean not having to worry about food/ bills/medicine wouldn't greatly improve the mental health of literally everyone else on the planet
Fun fact: they've done studies and money DOES buy happiness, but it tops out after a certain amount (nowadays around $500,000)
So yeah, having food / bills / medicine & a fair amount of leisure covered by income DOES buy happiness, but excess wealth depletes the effect exponentially.
On Discomfort and Morality
My father finds gay men uncomfortable.
He's told me before that it's like a knee-jerk for him. Something he doesn't consciously control. He sees two men behaving romantically, and his body reacts with mild discomfort.
In the 1960s, when he was in high school, most of the boys in his form thought he was gay on the simple fact that he wasn't homophobic. He wouldn't participate in insulting queer people, he didn't care if someone was gay, he wouldn't have a problem hanging out with gay people. So people thought he was gay. That's how prevalent homophobia was in his formative years.
When I was 10, my dad told me very seriously that Holmes and Watson were gay. That it was obvious from the literature and the time period that they were meant to be a gay couple. When I was 14 and I came out to my parents as bi, when my mum was upset my dad ripped into her for it. Told her that she was being stupid, that it was my life to live how I wanted to and that she needed to get over herself.
My dad formed my views on censorship: that being that it was completely ridiculous and thoroughly evil. He didn't believe in censorship of any kind. If I asked him a question about sex, he answered it honestly. When I was 12 and I asked him about homosexuality, still young and uncertain, he told me that there was nothing wrong with it. That it was just how some people were. That there was likely an evolutionary reason for it. And that for some people it was uncomfortable on an instinctual level.
He taught me that just because you're uncomfortable with something, doesn't make it wrong. He also taught me that most people don't understand this.
I see a lot of this on the internet as of the last few years. The anti shipping movement, the terf movement, the anti ace movement. It all stems from discomfort that people have crossed wires into believing means wrong. Really every -ism and -phobia out there stems from this same fundamental aspect of humanity.
The next time you see something and you automatically think it's disgusting, or wrong, or immoral, I invite you to ask yourself: is this actually wrong or does this just make me uncomfortable?
this is so fucking funny I love sharks
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Tim: I have a policy when my relationships end.
Tim: you have 24 hours to come get your shit or it goes to Jason.
Jason, looking up as if this was news. Looks down at the the shirt he’s wearing while pinching it, pulling it out. Stares at the giant red S. Shrugs and resumes scrolling at his phone.
Dick: that’s horrible.
Tim: they know this going into it.
Steph: it’s fair.
Dick: you’re ok with this.
Steph: I steal his shit now, why does not matter if we’ve broken up or not?
Steph: but yeah. And I’m not petty, I gave it to him knowing I might not get it back. I did love him at some point.
Dick:
Dick: and you’re ok wearing their shit?
Jason: it did feel weird wearing Steph’s thongs but yeah.
Dick: you did not.
Jason: I didn’t know.
Dick: you did not!
Jason: of course I fucking didn’t!
Jason: they didn’t fit.
Damian: i remember when i first came to Gotham, how awe-struck i was by the power of Batman and his Robins; how badly i wished to live up to the mantle and make everybody believe in me and honour me as a part of the team,
Tim: *prompting hum*
Damian: …and then i met you all.
Tim:
Tim: and now?
Damian: i feel like there’s better things to do with life.
Tim, easily: yeah, going behind the scenes really takes that respect away, doesn’t it?
Damian: so you know what i mean?
Tim: oh yeah. when i first became Robin i adored Bruce and the concept of being Robin. thought it was magical. thought it was gonna be the best time of my life.
Damian: and then?
Tim: and then Bruce started getting on my fucking nerves.
conversations overheard through the batkid com lines pt 82 (masterpost here)
Jason: i'm just gonna say it; making a map of all food trucks that own liquor licenses in Gotham was the best thing we've done this year. i cannot believe that the best chocolate martini i've ever had was served to me in a paper bag from a van.
Dick: gotta love Gotham. like, Bludhaven is my home and all, but there's no beating the creativity and entrepreneurship consistently spat out by money-hungry Gothamites on random week nights.
Jason: *bag crinkling* *satisfied grunt*
Dick: *hum* ok, i have another one.
Jason: shoot.
Dick: if you hadn't been taken in by B, what kind of person do you think you'd be today? like, do you think you'd be more likely to end up a good member of society or do you think you would have gone criminal?
Jason: ooh, ok, that's a good one. i- *considering hum* ...i dunno. on one hand, i like to think i was quite well behaved before i died, so i think if i hadn't been taken in by B then i wouldn't have ended up being resurrected and becoming... this. i probably would have been more traditionally 'good'.
Dick: fair.
Jason: -on the other hand, i met B because i was jacking cars and nicking tires at ten years old. so it's not like i was a fuckin' angel.
Dick: it's interesting you said you wouldn't have been resurrected, not wouldn't have died. do you think the Joker would have still gotten you even if you weren't Robin?
Jason: oh, no, i don't- i don't think the Joker would have killed me, but- but Dick? hey, Dick? *snort* i was never living past sixteen on the streets,
Dick: *wheezes* you don't think you would have made it??
Jason, drawing out: nyooooo,
Dick: *laughing*
Jason: like i said, i was fuckin- i was ten years old, thinkin' i could take on Batman. i had nobody in my corner during that period of time. i firmly believe that if i hadn't been swept up by Bruce then i would have ended up accidentally challenging Two-Face to a fist fight and dying within a year. that's my prediction.
Dick: so you think being Robin saved you?
*pause*
Dick: *cackle*
Jason: lets not- *wheeze* lets not go that far,
Dick: -shut up! *amused* come on, you know what i mean. you think without Robin you wouldn't have reached twenty?
Jason: yeah, that's probably more accurate. what about you? if you hadn't become the first boy wonder, where do you think you would have ended up?
*bag crinkling*
Dick, grave: jail.
Jason: *abrupt choke* *coughing, laughing* w-hat?
Dick, casually: -for either assaulting a police officer, verbal abuse, or second degree murder. attempted or successful, i dunno.
Jason, still struggling to clear his airways: *through laughter* what the fuck?
Dick: *amused* look man, i was an angry kid. you forget i was the fucker that made B think there was a good reason to let children go around beating up criminals; i was bad enough that he figured this was the best option.
Jason: ok- ok fair enough, no, yeah, you were definitely a piece of work when i met you, that's for sure.
Dick: yeah- and that was after the ten or so years of B's version of physical therapy. people always think i was so bubbly and happy when i was Robin, but i think it was actually the adrenaline of fighting people all night--basically got me high.
Jason: oh ok, so you weren't happy, you were just a sociopath in his dream environment?
Dick: no no, B had me tested. just a lot of anger issues and probable unmedicated OCD or ADHD.
Jason, crowing in glee: he had you tested-!
Dick, also laughing: shut up! honestly, that's probably why i didn't like you so much at first, y'know?
Jason: what, because you wanted to kill me?
Dick: no- *bursts out laughing*
Jason: *snickering*
Dick: no- because i thought you were gonna be just like me. B told me he brought in some kid off the streets and i was like, 'fuck great, now there's gonna be another violent little shit in the house'.
Jason: boy did i break the mold,
Dick: yeah turns out you were the complete fucking opposite to me, at first.
Jason: 'at first' *laughing* 'cause i mutated into the violence eventually.
Dick: well yeah, i was right eventually.
Jason: but if you didn't like the idea of me being problematic as a kid, how come you still hated me even when i was so well behaved and quiet?
Dick: *snort* well see- see that was the other issue, in that you being a good kid--which you did to piss me off-
Jason, conceding: -which i did to piss you off,
Dick: -right, but you being a good kid then brought up a different issue for me, because that meant you were blowing up my fucking spot.
Jason, amused: i was what?
Dick: well listen- B had no experience with kids before me, and he sure as hell didn't know what parenting was supposed to be like. i was able to set the fucking curve and tell him that i was normal. you fucking- coming in with all your homework and thank yous and eternal gratitude and fucking Cindy-Lou who personality bullshit,
Jason: *cackling loudly* CINDY-LOU WHO,
Dick: you blew up my spot! you let B know i was part of the fucking problem! you snitched on me for being a problem-child!
Jason, still laughing: *wheeze* oh god, i'm so sorry, i had no idea!
Dick, indignant: YEAH.
Jason: *wheezes again* i get it, fuck i get that. that's what i was like with Tim at first.
Dick: you- right!?! so you know what i mean!
Jason: fuck, yeah man. Bruce's whole thing with me was that i was the Robin that didn't fucking listen to him; i kept ignoring orders and doing my own thing and it got me benched. then i die, come back, and we have the fucking- the military disciplined soldier that Timothy Jackson Drake provided, we have him in my uniform, and i'm watching him through my binoculars like... fuck.
Dick: EXAC- god, he was so good at listening to orders back in the day. it was almost robotic, used to piss me off.
Jason: i was like, 'fuck he's better than me'.
Dick: *wheeze*
Jason, starting to laugh: luckily- luckily it turns out- *slight snort* turns out he sucks too,
Dick: *wheezes even harder*
Jason: dude, when he- when Tim started acting out as Robin, i felt the biggest burst of euphoria known to man.
Dick: *still wheezing*
Jason: like-, i never had to worry about Damian, you know? i raised that kid. i've seen the shit he does. i've watched him try to lie to my face about whether or not he stole and used my katana while holding his bleeding arm. i always had faith that Damian was going to be a little bitch. but Tim?! i turned up to him being like that and i was like... fuck. he's gonna make us all look shit, isn't he?
Dick: i know, it really- it was a good day for the Wayne children when we realised Tim was just as much a dickhead as we all are. a true miracle.
Jason: *humming casually* and then he tried to commit genocide in the league of assassins and we were like shit fuck no wait too much not like that-
Dick: *wheezes*
*distant burglar alarm*
Jason and Dick: *instant groans*
Dick: god-DAMMIT, can't they see we're on BREAK?
Jason: *limbs clicking* *tired grunt* alright, alright, let's get this over with. you good to- can you walk? you had more van-cocktails than me.
Dick: *also grunting* what am i, a pussy? oh- woah-
Jason: woah- hold on, let me- hold my arm. *snickering* god this fight is gonna be so funny.
Dick: i'll walk it off, let's go.
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something so neat to me about the dynamic of Jason being seen as the cool/rebellious big-brother because of the arguing with Bruce and the guns and the being-a-crime-lord thing, and Tim and Damian forever being the two younger brothers desperately trying to get Jason's attention and be his favourite, to the point where they'll compete with each other over him and act completely differently whenever he's at the manor just to seem 'cool' to Jason.
they'll be silently sitting watching TV together in amicable silence and then the second Jason wanders in and asks what they're watching they'll break out into a massive fight, throwing insults back and forth because it's one of the few things they know will make Jason laugh.
Tim: shut the fuck up, you're being too loud! this is why Talia sent you here, you know. she wanted you to learn from Batman how to sneak around because back at the league you wouldn't keep your fucking mouth closed. Damian: please, she sent me here because i actually serve a purpose; unlike you. you being Red Robin is like National Geographic being a section on Disney+, nobody knows who the fuck you're there for! Jason: *chuckles lightly, barely paying attention as he scrolls on his phone* Damian: HA! I MADE HIM LAUGH, I WIN! Jason: ?
Tim will also just appear at Jason’s elbow to offer his favourite snack to earn favourite younger sibling points, and Damian follows him around like a lost puppy dog loudly talking about everything he’s accomplished since the last time Jason saw him so he can prove his worth. Bruce will watch Jason move about the kitchen to make himself food while Damian yaps at his heels and Jason is like. barely paying attention. giving a hum every now and then but otherwise minding his business. Tim comes in and instantly starts trying to ‘relate’ to Jason instead by scoffing and Damian and declaring him a child that should go away and leave them alone because ‘Jay and me are almost the same age, we get along better, Damian, it’s just the way it is.’ but Bruce has already watched Jason leave the room with his meal without looking back and neither of the other two have noticed.
Jason has no clue this is what the younger ones are doing, and he has no clue how much they look up to him. meanwhile Dick is well aware and he's never been more jealous in his fucking life.
In batcomm lines, did dick ever hallucinate Jason?
he had nightmares, but no genuine hallucinations/visions, no. he definitely talked to himself out loud when alone and pretended he was talking to jason, but i don't think he ever legitimately saw something that wasn't there/believed he was talking to jason. it was more just him trying to brighten his own mood and avoid the silence.
i'm a big fan of the concept of dick experiencing hallucijason, but i think for it to make more sense that his grief manifests in that way his grief would need to be more centric on the fact that Jason Is Gone, and as much as dick was grieving his adoptive little brother, at the point in time when he was at rock bottom he was less dealing with specific jason-centric grief and more grief for his and jason's childhood, the lacklustre excuse for a family that he'd been pretending was good enough for him, and the realisation that all of his suppression and anger towards bruce was making everything a thousand times worse and was actually negatively effecting other people. jason was gone, but jason being gone meant that the entirety of dick's life and belief system about himself crumbled, so his grief wasn't as jason-centric as i think a lot of people would have assumed.
