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When you want to run a successful business YOU have to grow up with it.

You get to face every fear you have. All your insecurities rush forward. Your jealousy and blame patterns come to greet you & everyone who talks to you. HeatherMadder.com/launch

Your results reveal themselves clearly in black numbers on white screens.

Business is the best way to grow into your own fullest POWER and CAPACITY.

It is the great reflector of yourself, 2nd only to parenting.

If you suck at it, you know, because the zeros will tell you, and they can't be ignored.

When YOU EXPAND, you'll see it right away, because the growth will reflect that change in the balance sheets.

Every day your business asks you the same question: WHO do you want to be today?

And tomorrow, it will show you how you answered.

I used to sit and read and study books for hours and hours. I wanted to learn all that I could. Hungry for more knowledge, I asked God to show me how to accelerate my growth.

He led me to build a positive change business helping others heal. HeatherMadder.com/launch

Instead of reading about faith, I had to pull it out if my cells to make things move.

Instead of learning about commitment, I had to draw it out daily, amidst obstacles at times, to build something solid.

Instead of receiving revelation at church, I needed it every single day, every phone call, each interaction, I felt I had to have His guidance to know even the words to speak.

Putting PRINCIPLES into ACTION...helped me to KNOW TRUTH BY LIVING IT.

That kind of knowledge is so different in my spectrum than all the reading I used to do--like night and day. This is LIVING KNOWLEDGE. Moment by moment inspiration.

It's one thing to "know" a principle, and another when it BECOMES who we are, by doing it so many times, we can't even remember living another way.

It's not truth by knowing...

It's TRUTH by BEING, and BEING happens by IMMERSION.

Love is the be-all, end all of our existence. 

What I see is that LOVE is Who We Are at the very core. 

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All attempts to get what we want through indirect means are manipulation.

Including the following:

-Telling our story to get others to feel sorry for us or give love & validation.

-Wanting others to do things for us and using emotional responses to guilt or pressure them into doing so. (like withdrawing love, or getting angry.)

-Using indirect methods of communication instead of open, direct DIALOGUE with the SOURCE.

We are powerful enough to create the LOVE we want and the things we feel are ours to obtain, by going directly to the source and ASKING for what we need.

For example: 

if someone says to me, "I am so burdened, so frustrated..."

I am looking for what they want.

I am waiting to hear their direct requests.

"Can you share your love with me?"

"Can you give me some coaching tips?"

Going to the SOURCE and asking specifically for what we desire is the only true, healthy way. God also waits for us to ASK for what we need and invites us continually in the scriptures to do so.

Using emotion to secure what we want in any other "indirect manner" is out of alignment with our true selves which crave deep honesty, authenticity without masks and meaningful relationships by choice...not guilt ridden obligation.

When we do enough work inside to get ourselves here, and we are this clear and certain, we are now in a position of powerful Creation.

We communicate well and with clarity.

We handle our emotions with responsibility, and yield our words consciously.

With these skills, we can obtain healthy love;

The more you mature in something, the less you have to put it forward all the time. Like making all your posts, passwords, word choices, & bumper stickers represent what matters to you. 

When you're just comfortable BEING (however in the moment) and not proving anything, you're at a new level. 

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There's nothing wrong with making all that you say and do and wear reflect your belief system, but when you really mature in it, you will no longer feel the need to. 

If you think people owe you something--more love, more money, more appreciation, an apology.

It means you are still outside sourcing important aspects of your life.  

One thing I never hear from people who are connected to their own power is the story of how they believe someone owes them something.

They never talk about how they need an apology, a phone call back, or someone slighted them with money.

They are in the driver's seat. They are connected to their own power and to God. They have so many great things going on, they live in a place where there is not lack.

Because they create so much for themselves, including emotionally, they don't get "hurt" or perceive shortages from others. If a relationship doesn't work for them, they simply change THEMSELVES and therefore they make sure they have a different experience.

TRUTH DIVE: 

Who are all the people that you feel haven't given you enough?

What personal power have you given away to them? What are you still "waiting" to be given from another person so that you can be truly happy?

It's your job to create a life that YOU love.  

Not your husband’s job, not your wife's. Not your parents’ fault for what they didn't give you, not your kids for holding you back. 

 ITS YOUR JOB to create a LIFE THAT *YOU* LOVE.  

You can begin right here, right now. 

It is tempting to look at struggles or losses and say these things define us.

Challenges do not define us, they reveal us.

They deliver a compelling reason to strip the layers of ourselves–who we thought we were, the small plans we had for our lives, the selfishness we adored, the ego we’ve upheld…and un-do who we “are not,” giving us an opportunity to come naked before God and make a decision: choose to grow.

Then we see who WE are more clearly.

We see how STRONG we are; how good we are; how indomitable our will can be; how often we have chosen God, and how each day we have done our best with what we knew.

Challenges reveal who we are … to ourselves.

We come to know ourselves a little better and how much we are loved, and that God has been looking out for us, protecting, preserving and caring for us every day while we’ve been away at Earth School, even when we didn’t realize He was present.

We are never dealing with actual situations, because we are only experiencing our own INTERPRETATIONS of people and our encounters with them.

We can’t know what someone else thinks…

We can’t know how someone else feels…

We will never know how something turns out…

When you understand your the LIMITING FACTORS in your own perception, you know that you don’t know.

Now the mind is more flexible. It’s more open to possibilities and therefore more likely to find solutions in peaceful and creative ways.

Everyone has a LEADER within.

LEAD with VISION and CLARITY where ever you find yourself with stewardship. at home, at church, in business, where ever. 

"(Leadership) is the process ordinary people use when they are bringing forth the best from themselves and others. What we've discovered is that people make EXTRAORDINARY things happen by liberating the leader within everyone." Launching a Leadership Revolution, page 13. I love this book. It's my new favorite. Reading it all the time.

How do we motivate people? How can we help them achieve?

Let go of the past in your mind, so it can let go of you.

You don't need anything more from the past other than the experience it has already given you. Discover the learning, then let it be.

BEING HAPPY in the PRESENT is the best way to be free. A great solution when the past comes up in your thoughts is:

"I am brand new today. Life starts over for me this moment. I am powerful; I can create anything I want RIGHT NOW."

Then go do it. If you use your mental energy to rehearse the past, it's trapped you in a prison that has no escape because the past can never be changed.

Free that mind space and energy and fuel it towards HAPPINESS NOW. That's the only option for freedom you'll ever have.

Remember that any thoughts that create sadness, depression, fear, regret, or anxiety are not the truth, not your friend so stop allowing the foreign mental invaders in your head space.

You don’t have to change your whole life in one day. You don’t have to quit your job to write a book. Create a one hour window each day and stay employed.

When we put psychological weight on things, we make them heavy. Making them heavy, makes them hard to lift and unlikely we'll do them. HeatherMadder.com/launch

An easier way is take small steps.

For example, if you want to eat healthier, you might not want to go full-fledged organic over the weekend and throw out all the bread. It’s too much.

Eating healthier might begin with one single decision in the morning to choose an apple instead of a pastry for breakfast.

That one small decision leads to a workout at the gym to keep it going. You have absorbed the feeling of being “healthy” so you flow to the actions.

Small steps get you close to the FEELING of something. The feeling of something gets you into the motions.

Some people believe that if they cant pull out scriptures and read for 30 minutes in the morning, they’ve ruined their connection with God for the day.

But five deep grounding breaths can get you tuned in. Hell, one half breath can do it if you’re really focused.

Sometimes we get the idea that we need these huge swaths of time for our goals, but what we need are small consistent swatches of attention.

Chances are if you make writing that book too big of a deal, your mind will shut you down.

The idea is to make small motions ON-PURPOSE.

Keep your actions consistent with what feels natural to you. Keep things as close to home as possible.

You’re not looking to do great BIG things that will change your whole life in one day.

You want a life that changes DAY by DAY.

Over-doing things leads to burnout and burnout leads to high failure rates.

EXPEDIENCE is a heavenly principle. It means hitting the target. It is doing just the “exact amount” to get the job done.

If you never get around do doing what you want, maybe you made it too heavy.

Or you have planned to do more than is required.

Ask: What is the exact amount needed to accomplish this, and just do that. What are the small steps ... for *me*?

One of God’s universal principles is “small and simple”. He is very expedient. He uses small things, simple things to accomplish monumental changes.

It's scary for me to tell the truth to people sometimes. When I scan their lives, or business structures, I can see what needs to change and it's my 'job' to tell them, but there's this little part of me that wonders if they are going to be hurt or leave & not come back?

I'm there to help them so I do it anyway. Unless things change, they won't get better. HeatherMadder.com/launch

I've found that giving feedback with pure intent of "I care about you and I'm here to help you," wrapped around it is much more well received than, "You're doing this wrong."

It makes it easier to say and easier to HEAR. These things aren't personal, they're just functional facts.

It doesn't mean it doesn't scare me a little. Honestly, it does every single time.

Saying hard things is risky business. Being silent is riskier.

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I have seen a lot of people get knocked down by life lately. And I watched them get back up again.

Apparently, they are not going to take this lying down. They refuse to be defeated. No matter what life throws at them, they just keep getting up and getting up to fight another day and make their way to paradise. HeatherMadder.com/launch

TO all of you YOU ... I salute you. And cheer for you. Angels and a world of people are cheering you on today. Take a deep breath. You've got this.

Been thinking of this lately ... Life seems random, but I don't think it really is.

What if EVERYTHING is about learning? Think about it. We get to be in Earth School for a little while and then we'll move on. What is the WHOLE ENTIRE GAME is set up a certain way to induce greatest learning in the individual student. HeatherMadder.com/launch

So, if you are in an abusive relationship, let's say...and you may feel powerless and blame for a long time, but over time, you learn to LOVE YOURSELF and you grow that power inside yourself enough to create something different.

The relationship ends, but the POWER in you remains, and you get to live forever with that increase.

Maybe you lose your job, or your money, and you fall down into fear and uncertainty. But you rise back up to creation and power, THROUGH the experience. And you get all your money back, or more. You also have MORE of YOURSELF. You have more knowledge, creativity, strength, tenacity.

The longer we sit and ask, 'Why me?" the longer we stay IN the pain.

It’s not LIFE that need change, WE get up and CHANGE.

The quicker we say, "What I am to GAIN from this?" the faster we graduate out of the experience and travel forward.

What if nothing is happening "TO" us ... But it's all happening FOR us.

If life has given you something challenging recently, it's a sure vote of confidence in your favor. Things can be very intense at times, and yet, it wouldn't be happening if you couldn't one day EXCEL your way through it.

Get more honest with yourself about who you really are and don't fall into fear.

YOU CAN handle it.

You've done hard things before and you came out of them stronger.

You can do it again.

Stress can no longer have its way with us.

Every day there are new situations to solve, new goals to reach, more people to help. HeatherMadder.com/launch

I admit, I often don't see the way at first. But I have a radical belief that there IS-AN-ANSWER, always, and if we can sit here long enough (without freaking out), we will find it.

If we stop talking so much. And even stop thinking. If we ask for what we want, and then zip it.

The ANSWERS are there.

They usually arise quietly, so if we can discipline our minds to keep calm and follow the course that's ours to travel, there ya go.

We had it all along.

One of the reasons I love the sea, is that it reminds me that everything comes and goes.

Life is always changing. A situation comes today, and by tomorrow it's over. That was the deal--the way this was set up. HeatherMadder.com/launch

We, eternal beings, would be placed on a planet where everything was constantly in motion. A thousand things a day would come at us--some of them difficult and confusing--but all of them temporary, while we searched for happiness, and survival.

What would we do? How would we respond?

The flow is always coming, and another going at the very same time.

While I sit here in front of the ocean, I have the thought of two years ago when I went through some really hard times. I can't remember much. The details are so faint in my head now. The one part I can remember, is thinking that I was going to die, the pain was so intense sometimes.

I didn't die.... [ to my surprise at times]

I just kept living. I couldn't die, it seemed.

I'd fall into bed exhausted, and the next day would tap on my shoulder and wake me up wanting to me to live it. Day after day, new opportunities came to learn and integrate that learning into my being.

I am so saturated in happiness now, I sit in wonder often at how all this came to be.

As the waves roll in one after another, no end in sight, I am looking for the pattern, trying to pin point how I got from there to here.

I remember that in each life situation that came rolling in, I would look for my own center--Even if it tumbled me, I was looking to grip the ground.

In everything, I asked God to walk me through it.

I let go of blame and anger and looked for the fastest entry point to peace.

I always had to take that exit alone, getting rid of the story of "everyone else," --what they said, what they thought, what they did --- blah, it only weighed me down. Christ--who is the God of my understanding--WAS my tour guide. It was His voice I looked for; His presence, and I could find it every time I silenced the world and asked him to meet me.

A while ago, someone asked me how I got to be attuned to spiritual things. I have no answer except that I know if you reach for your God a thousand times, a REAL BEING comes to meet you. He is completely alive. His voice sounds a certain way. His Spirit has a resonance. His Light is so familiar. He is not an ethereal fictitious character written with black ink on thousand year old pages. He -- is -- close, so reachable.

There is no lack of access to Him; all of our separation is lack of desire and discipline in reaching FOR Him.

And that was THE WAY. A true, genuine relationship from one soul to another. It's the answer I am looking to give to myself when I wonder how I got from pain to peace.

My own affidavit that God is in our cells, waiting for us to take look into our own DNA.

The more we practice PEACE, the more it becomes who we are. And soon, we get so tall, that a lot of waves roll in that we don't even notice.

I am not sure what tomorrow will bring. Thankfully, I don't need to know. There will definitely be more waves.

Yesterday there were four different people who expressed a unhappiness with me for different reasons. There were two phone calls of business emergencies, a total emotional fit from my daughter, and a twelve year old deeply unhappy I said no to him. Plus, I have a load of whites I haven't washed for three days and I am totally out of underwear now. (That's probably more than people want to know.)

There is going to be more waves...lol...I know that for sure.

They will come and go. That's what waves do.

I will always have the same question in front of me.

How do I want to experience this? Who do I want TO BE while I am here?

I really do feel, that looking for the CENTER, the Highest response, and direction from the God of my understanding, is the ONLY answer there is ever going to be to these thousands of situations.

And the ONLY ONE required.