"If we stay, I'll die here"

WISHING ALL OF MY MUTUALS AND FOLLOWERS WHO CELEBRATE A VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

Please don’t harass other RPers for doing things they need to for themselves. 

Please don’t harass people for only replying to threads they have the energy for. 

Please don’t harass people for only choosing to RP with people they want to RP with. 

Please don’t harass people for dropping threads. 

Please don’t harass people for sticking up for themselves. 

Please remember that while it is perfectly okay to have negative feelings about any of this, it’s what you do with them that counts.

i want to write the on-again-off-again relationships. i want the screaming matches and the cancelled dates and the hurt feelings and the second guesses and second chances. 

i want to write people who completely shake up each other’s daily routine and flip their entire world on its axis. i want them to drive each other crazy and question why they bother sticking around and then remember the way their partner laughs or see them in a moment of vulnerability that tells them ‘this is is why i stay. this is why i love you.‘ 

i want to write relationships with struggles. with class differences and financial divide. two people who are so completely different they somehow complete each other. i want the jealousy and the feelings of inadequacy that goes with it. 

i want to write people who aren’t afraid to be honest with their partner. who aren’t afraid to say ‘yeah you’re being an asshole’ followed by ‘but i still love you, you idiot.’

i want the first time they see their partner cry and the morning after their first intimate night when everything feels so right.

i want people who get so used to one another that they stop going the extra mile. i want the ‘you don’t make the effort because you already have me’ argument.

i want relationships that challenge each other to be better people and make each other question their beliefs and moral compass. 

but most of all, i want to write relationships that are real. that make you feel something. i want to go on the emotional rollercoaster right along with them.

            I survived and you don’t get it because I’m not like you, or them. But I made it!“ 

           rules / verses / about 

During such uncertain times surrounding Coronavirus and it’s ill effects on people’s mental health and well-being, it is important to remember that:

As a roleplayer of any kind, you are NOT obligated to reply to another’s timeframe!

As a roleplayer of any kind, it is OK to take a mental breather and focus on you!

As a roleplayer of any kind, it is OK to drop a thread if it has become taxing on yourself, it’s run it’s course or you’re not feeling it anymore!

As a roleplayer of any kind, it’s absolutely OK if you decide to prioritise your work, school or family/friends over replies!

As a roleplayer of any kind, you’re allowed to be selective with who you roleplay with!

As a roleplayer of any kind, you don’t have to reply to every single reply/ask if you feel overwhelmed!

None of the above make you a bad person.

Roleplaying is not a job, or an obligation. If your muse has taken a hit or you’re struggling in another way, you’re allowed to “do you” for as long as you need. No one should make you feel bad for “not replying” or “disappearing.” Therefore, it is important to be considerate of others and accept that you are unlikely to know every detail of another’s RPers life or their individual stresses. As a roleplayer myself on tumblr, I’ve had a very mixed experience but also a very enjoyable one. It is discouraging at times when a thread is dropped by another that you really liked, but throwing your toys out of the pram because “they owe you” is petty.