10. What lie do they most frequently remember telling? Does it haunt them?
20. If they were asked to explain the difference between romantic and platonic or familial love, how would they do so?
30. Who do they most regret meeting?
Hi @crimsonphantasmagoria! <3 Thank you for the lovely asks!
Since the OC isn't specified, I will be answering for Solstice, because she's got the clearest shape in my brain.
From the Uncommon Questions
10. What lie do they most frequently remember telling? Does it haunt them?
"I'm fine."
As a lie, it's aimed at herself more than others. Solstice feels like she has no choice but to be "fine"; fine enough to keep going and not crumble under the pressure of leadership or saving the world.
This is not to say that she constantly lies about her feelings, nor that she bottles up everything. She does open up to her friends, debriefs missions, doesn't hide how she feels, and she can be, sometimes, honest to the point of bluntness. But the feelings Solstice shares are only the surface ones and she mirrors the person in front of her, saying only as much as the person is ready to hear. The body of the iceberg remains hidden beneath the surface.
And yes, it does haunt her. In fact it will catch up with her and it's going to be... cataclysmic.
30. Who do they most regret meeting?
Uuuu, this is a toughie.
Lavellan has definitely met a lot of people whom she didn't like, even the inner circle is not all that wonderful. But regret implies something that would have been in her power to control and meeting people is something that happens to her. There's no point being self-condemning over events that simply happen, it would be like being upset at the weather. Nor does Solstice regret recruiting everyone who offered to join; she made the decision with the limited information available at the time, meaning she felt like she needed all the help that was offered. Even if she did end up not quite liking the individuals in the long run, she did, at least, keep a professional attitude towards them.
20. If they were asked to explain the difference between romantic and platonic or familial love, how would they do so?
The way this question is phrased made me get into her head a bit, this is the answer that came out:
"Familial love is the one you feel about your bloodkin. Your clan, your elders, your parents, siblings, cousins, children, pets, are all part of familial love. It has different intensities and sometimes you don't all get along, but the love undeniably remains through the years, even when they wrong you. It manifests in chest and arms; you could embrace them close to your heart, create a barrier around them or do lots of gesture to show your appreciation for them.
Platonic love is my chosen family. The people who have chosen my company over and over again even when I haven't been at my best, and I have chosen them in return. Bonds are created through shared experiences, values, humor and good times, as well as hard times and the ability to be there for each other and offer mutual support. A friend in need is a friend indeed and all that. We can be genuinely happy for each other when good things happen, with no envy and no resentment, and when something bad happens to them I feel as if I have been personally wronged. They are the family worth getting into fights to defend them.
This love is the easiest to set boundaries with, to nourish, but also the easiest to fall out of. Its intensity diminishes over time if there are no more wholesome experiences, if the fun is gone, if they wrong you too much or too often, or if you haven't seen each other in too long.
Romantic love is all-consuming and maddening. It defies logic and obscures reasonable thought. It motivates as much as it discourages. It builds monuments and starts wars. It is the highest intensity emotion and it manifests throughout your whole body. Your eyes see only flashing lights, your mind is clouded but for thoughts of them, your heart flutters, your breath catches, your stomach - starved, your knees - weak, and your fists so red-hot and ready for action they could alter reality. It is the hardest love to fall out of, the most difficult to forget. To lose a family member is a natural part of existence, but to lose your vhenan is akin to the death of spirit."
@vhen-harel and @dirthera15, I would adore to see your answers for these questions, about Saethre and Dia'Adah, respectively. Especially the last one, about love! No pressure, if you don't feel like answering.