One the funnier parts about being trans is when like, a particular bit of gendered etiquette is just natural in your head and you struggle to do the correct one now
Hats now fully something that are a "going out of my way" to wear. I might have a pony tail looped through the back or have my bangs and stuff carefully positioned, where taking off my hat and putting it back on takes me a minute to fix myself
Still fully used to taking my hat on and off when I wear one, and the midwesterners wont let me live it down sometimes
Put on a hat, wear it to the car, take off when I sit down, put it on in the parking lot, take it off when I walk in the store, put it back on, take off for the car, put back on, take off to talk to neighbor, put it back on, take it off when I walk back inside. Technically no one would care if I wore it, not only is there less hat etiquette here but like....im a woman, im allowed to wear hats inside
But I was raised just treating hat etiquette as second nature because I wore a lot and was around people who wore a lot, and I cant even feel dysphoric or weird about using the wrong etiquette anymore because it just feels genuinely funny this is where Im like this
This ties into the unrelated to being trans funny experience of "midwesterners think im exagerrating how formal and weird about getting information being southern can be, just to see me act a way they think is overly formal casually or to get surprised brcause someome asked abiut my college experience 5 minutes after meeting me" and then they see me interact with southerners who have been here longer, and they watch me become even more southern and whoever im talking to go from a midwest informal to a southern informal
