'tis firm !

Can we stop pretending that being constantly negative about men and boys is cute, quirky or funny, because it’s really none of those things, it’s gross and mean.

anyone else a gay with no memory

no lie this is the ugliest thing i’ve ever seen

it still blows my mind how much the whole coming out process is designed to cater to straight people. like when i came out to my mother her immediate response was “that’s okay but i still want grandchildren” and i have since had so many interactions where i came out to people and could practically see them doing a mental checklist to make sure that me not being straight wouldn’t inconvenience them in any way and it’s honestly so exhausting. like maybe the coming out process shouldn’t fundamentally revolve around heterosexual emotions? spare me the “that’s okay as long as you don’t hit on me lol!” bullshit. spare me the “okay, but we have to tell the rest of your family about this too.” nonsense. my personal coming out should have absolutely nothing to do with your heterosexual emotions and if you really want to make it all about you then you really don’t get to call yourself and ally