Gnome Chompsky

part of the reason i love this kink is that it encourages ppl to have the bodies they feel happiest/most comfortable in, which means i unequivocally support feedees who lose weight and decide that feedism isnt for them anymore, but it bums me out that so many of them immediately shit talk and disavow the community that they'd been a part of for so long

If you arent willing to date a disabled person, you shouldn’t try to date an SSBBW. At the end of the day, you have to do a lot of the same things. Checking ahead to see if somewhere is accessible, helping with household tasks, helping maintain their hygiene, being aware of their physical ability and limitations, etc, etc, the list goes on. There’s a lot of understanding and care that goes into being with someone who is supersized. We are essentially disabled, and if you can’t deal with that then you probably aren’t cut out for dating SSBBW’s.

Idk who needs to hear this but if you're on the fence with gaining, if you like stuffing but are afraid of the effects, if you want to be fat when you're horny but get "post nut clarity", just do it. Just gain weight. Will you be insecure? Yes, but I promise you will have insecurities at your lowest weight as well. Even your ideal perfect body comes with insecurities. You might as well make yourself happy by eating food you like and being full, and if you don't 100% love the body that comes with it, that's okay too. It's a body made out of love rather than hating yourself into being thin. You can learn to love yourself over time, or you can just exist! Your body is the least interesting thing about you and being fat likely won't be as noticeable as you fear.