GenderQueer Confessions

<3 -Cris.

Honestly, for most people, it is the voice that will get people :/ there are a lot of ways you can try to sound more “masculine”, though! look around for some videos showing how. there are a few ways, and no one way seems to work for everyone, so try some out for a couple of weeks at a time and see how they work for you. in general, speaking from your chest more helps a lot, I’ve found. Also, you may want to pay just a bit more attention to the fit of the men’s clothes you’re wearing, because it can be easy to get clothes that still look feminine on you even though they are from the men’s section. a lot of things discourage wearing plaid bc people will think you’re a lesbian?? but i always have worn plenty of plaid and it never seems to be The Problem for me, it’s always my voice. Packers are mostly a confidence thing in my experience, but could help for sure if people are noticing it. -Elliott

Hey!That is absolutely possible!!! Many non-binary people consider themselves gay simply for the reason that there really is no “”opposite””gender to us, and so they consider any attraction they could have to be gay. I myself fall into that category. However, some also use gay to express an attraction purely to a gender they feel more closely to, or to mean people who identify with their assigned gender for some. It’s entirely up to you, and gay/straight don’t really have a concrete relation to non-binary identities. tldr; yeah, you can be whatever feels right, friend. if anyone tells you otherwise, i will fight them for you -Elliott

Hey there,I’m much more familiar with maverique (considering that’s what I am), and I do like going to sources, so here is a post that the person who coined maverique made about this topic: http://queerascat.tumblr.com/post/143924674511/hi-what-is-the-difference-between-maverique-and#notesthe most important part, I think, is, “according to the coiner of aporagender, aporagender can be used as an umbrella term. It can potentially encompass many genders, whereas maverique is a single, specific gender.”-Elliott

Hello! :) I don’t mind at all. I need to update it, we should have them in the sidebar.Anyway, my main is @johnothy, I also have an art blog which is @docterminus. Cris’ main is @margarita-cipher-Elliott

Oh, absolutely! I think that would be wonderful, it seems to be a lot harder to find good information about trans/nb things in other languages than English, and I’d love to know more is getting out there. If you would like, we could even put a link to your blog somewhere on the blog :) And, as a general statement, if anyone wants to translate things, feel free and we will gladly list you here somewhere if you want.-Elliott

check it out ! @genderexploration-Elliott

Wow, thank you for letting us know!! That is awesome! Remember to check your size at underworks first before you enter! :)-Elliott

💖💖💖 that's awesome!! I'm so happy you have such wonderful and supportive sisters :) -cris.

yesss, bigender is very much a thing!!! most people that I know usually feel both male and female, but it of coursw can be any combination of two genders.-cris.

Hello! The definition most recently posted by the person who coined the term, is “franglais coined by Vesper H. from the English eponym“maverick” and the French suffix “-ique”.  pronounciation is “mav-REEK”,  rhyming with “antique”.a gender characterized by autonomy and inner convictionregarding a sense of self that is entirely independent ofmale/masculinity, female/femininity or anything which derivesfrom the two while still being neither without gendernor of a neutral gender.”If you want any help understanding this definition for any reason, or have any other questions about it, feel free to ask (I’m maverique myself, so I’m pretty comfortable talking in detail about it specifically) and also you can check out the #maverique tag, as well as the #maverique tag on the blog of the person who coined it, queerascat.tumblr.com! This is a post, also, on why they coined it: http://queerascat.tumblr.com/post/88861493366/maverique-why-i-coined-the-word-Elliott

Absolutely! Non-binary can be used as an umbrella term and as a specific identity. Plenty of people simply identify as non-binary. When I don’t feel like going into length about me being maverique, I usually just say non-binary.-Elliott

I don’t, but maybe our followers do? Please reblog this or reply with anything you’ve got, even if it’s just “I’m agenderflux too, you can talk to me!” Also, I understand and there are others, and I’m happy that you found a word that fits for you.

Hello,I’m not sure if there is a question here, but it sounds like you need to spend some time thinking about how you feel and looking at some words that might better describe how you feel. Best of luck and feel free to talk to use more if you have any more questions <3 Also, this sounds like you may be nonbinary, demi(x)gender, or maybe genderfluid! -Elliott

Hello,If straight is what you feel the most comfortable or accurate calling yourself, the fact that you’re not cis or binary doesn’t mean you have to change that. It’s all about what feels right to you. You may also find terms like heteroflexible more suiting. And there are straight people who have been attracted to or had relationships with nonbinary people and still identified as straight. It’s complicated, and nobody HAS to change their identity because of it. Some people find that umbrella terms work better, many people simply identify as gay or queer if they can’t pin it down, and perhaps for you straight or heteroflexible would be the closest. -Elliott

HelloThis is a really common and scary situation, and I’m very sorry that you have to deal with it. I’d love to tell you for sure everything will be okay, but I can’t promise that. If she loves you and cares about you, there’s a good chance she will understand and come around. I’ve had friends be shitty about it a lot but come around. I find that the best method for myself and most people is to either send a message online or write a letter, because face to face can be a lot scarier and it can be hard to articulate things and not leave things out. I wrote one to some friends I considered family a long time ago and never sent it, which I regret, but one thing I included was how important they are to me and how important it is to me to feel comfortable and safe with them, and how being closeted and misgendered changed that for me and made me want it back. Emphasize that it is important to you, and not just a little thing. We have a coming out tag that may help you as well, and patience can be crucial because as I said, sometimes it takes some time. My datefriend, Teddy, when he first came out to his spouse they split up because his spouse didn’t understand and was freaked out. They went to couples counseling and a year later were okay again and better than before, and his spouse realized that they are agender. The first reaction doesn’t always mean that’s what will stay, and I wish you the very best with your friend.-Elliott

Hey! Your feelings about your name are entirely valid buddy! My birth name is neutral and so is my chosen name. As long as you’re comfortable, you’re good <3-Elliott