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Consenting to play doesn’t mean you’re consenting to let your Top do whatever they want to you (unless you explicitly state that, which isn’t really a safe idea). If you were in a situation where you didn’t feel comfortable talking about what you did and didn’t feel good about in scenes then that’s not really good, and I’m sorry it happened to you.

Does it mean that the top is inherently dangerous? I don’t have enough information here to know that. Consent can be coerced, it can be given without a full understanding of what you’re consenting to. Just because you said yes to play doesn’t mean you lose your right to control what happens to your body.

And, even if you gave your enthusiastic consent and had the ability to revoke it throughout the scene, it’s still ok for you to feel bad about a scene or dynamic after the fact. In this case it’s important to acknowledge that the top didn’t actually do anything wrong, but you don’t have to feel good about everything you did just because you consented to it. Sometimes scenes leave you feeling bad and you can’t say why.

Like, no matter how much of a brat you are no matter how much you cry and beg and struggle they just smile down at you and stroke your hair and continue doing whatever the fuck they want to do.

This myth is not only illogical but puts our community in danger.

Even strong submissives have limits.

Even strong Dominants have limits.

Strong people can still say no.

Needing to stop does not make you weak.

Stop making BDSM into a competition of endurance.

You don’t owe anyone anything.