I feel like part of the problem is a really popular misunderstanding of bigotry.
Misogyny is not just prejudice experienced by a woman. It is not simply something that happens TO a woman. It has nothing to do with the woman. Itâs about the misogynist.
Bigotry is not determined or defined by the target of that bigotry. The bigotry is stored in the bigot.
Misogynists will be misogynistic towards any person they associate with femininity, including cisgender men.
When a misogynist cis man tears another man down for liking something he thinks is girly, he is still being misogynistic.
A cis male coach telling his cis male student he runs like a girl is being misogynistic.
A cis woman punishing her son for wanting a âgirlâ toy or policing her boyfriendâs hygiene habits and interests for anything she considers emasculating, is being misogynistic!
When a woman gets in a car accident and is injured more severely because the safety testing on that car was only done using crash test dummies and models based on men, sheâs experiencing misogyny.
When the medication she takes for her injuries doesnât work right or has unexpected side effects because it was only tested on men, sheâs experiencing misogyny.
When the tools she uses at work that are the wrong shape for her hands, and the jumpsuit thatâs part of her uniform which she has to take off completely to use the bathroom, and all the spaces she moves through and everything within them are designed with the assumption that an average male body is the only body that mattersâ she is experiencing misogyny.
Misogyny is the belief that women are inherently inferior, and the systems and institutions built around that belief. It can be experienced by anyone, and anyone is capable of having misogynistic beliefs and doing misogynistic things.
Bigotry is not about the target. Itâs about the bigot, and what the bigot believes, and the way those bigoted beliefs have shaped our world.
I donât care what race gender or sexuality you are, you were raised with racist, sexist, homophobic beliefs. Because itâs literally impossible not to be.
And the harder you try to cling to the idea that misogyny is something that happens TO women, rather than something coming FROM misogynists, the more blind youâll be to your own misogynistic beliefs, and all the ways everything in our society is a product of or directly reinforces those beliefs.
