Bigger Is Better

No, the hill didn't get steeper - you're just pathetically unfit.

Darling, the distance to the floor is the same it's always been. You just have a belly that blocks your way now.

They don't make smaller portions at this place... your appetite is just waay bigger.

It's not the humidity in the air - you huff and puff no matter what these days.

Nobody moved the bus stop - it's just... well, you take a longer time to get places now.

Darling, the world didn't get smaller and more uncomfortable - it's you who's gotten bigger and cumbersome. But don't worry, you'll get used to it.

"Wanting to be fat (much like wanting to be thin or in-betweeny or athletically built) isn't something I, or anyone else, should have to defend. But it is something I want to talk about more. In radical fat acceptance conversations, it's pretty much acceptable to say that you actually enjoy being fat; that you see beauty in it, that you see beauty in the fatness of others, and that you feel empowered by the way you look. In mainstream conversations and day-to-day interactions, that isn't remotely the case. If you are fat, and you are not publicly trying to "fix" yourself, you need a reason and an excuse. You need proof that you're healthy regardless. You need proof that your weight "cannot be helped." Saying you're fat because it's something you want remains more or less off limits, and certainly not something met with respect for one's choices.

I'm over it. As is the case for most people, I am fat for a few reasons. But the main one is simple: That's how I like it. Some people aren't fat because of illness or the financial burdens of "eating clean" or because their parents are fat, too (not that there's anything wrong with that). Some people just want to be fat.

So, we all know there's an obesity crisis right now. People are getting fatter and fatter, with no end in sight. Let's not detract from what you've done to yourself though. You're massive. You've forged yourself into an exclusive club: one of the fattest people alive today.

Think about it: the average American woman weighs 170lbs. Globally, the average is more like 149lbs.

In the USA, if you weigh 300lbs you're still amongst the top 2% heaviest people in the country.

Another 10lbs on top of that? Congratulations, you're now one of the top 1% most obese people in the US.

By the time you reach 400lbs you're in the top 0.1%. Not just in America. Globally. There are whole COUNTRIES where the isn't a single person as fat as you.

Once you hit a quarter of a tonne the statistical information just breaks down. You're not just obese. You're an "extreme statistical outlier": the top 0.01% fattest people on Earth. There are probably only around 807,000 at your weight on the entire planet. With every few pounds gained beyond that the drop off is exponential.

600lbs? There's probably less than 100,000 people in the world at your size, and by 700lbs, you're sharing an accolade achieved by just a few thousand people.

"Sorry, it's a bit of a tight squeeze to get past me."

"Are you going to finish that? I'm still pretty hungry."

"I don't think that these seats are wide enough for me."

What I've seen less - and what I want to remind people of - is this: if you've become fat, that's also natural and beautiful and fine.

When you're a fat person who has been thin in the past, that comes with its own brand of shaming. People take your history of thinness as proof that you don't have to be fat. You often fear the look of disappointed surprise in the eyes of someone you haven't met since you were thin. People try to determine "what happened". They don't see your fat body as just you, but as a sort of symptom that isn't part of you.

There is nothing wrong with being a feedist, no matter what society says. If you were affected by the content of the recent documentary and would like space to talk or process feelings, you can always reach out.

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