unapologetically being cringe in the year 2026

The Ainur: We’re so excited, we can’t wait.

Illuvitar: But you can’t sleep with any of them.

I'm allowed to be angry about the abuse I have experienced under the patriarchy and are transphobic/homophobic/racist society and I am allowed to be angry about the fact that spaces where I was previously allowed to express this anger and spaces that celebrated that anger now think it's OK to throw me back to the system that originally abused me because I have facial hair now so I'm too scary to be in these #rightious-girl-rage spaces. And I'm very much allowed to be angry about the fact that people have decided me being angry about being abused by both cishet-patriarchal society and also queer feminist circles is the same as white cishet men being celebrated for their violence.

So go fuck yourself.

This is a post about how trans men prior to our transitions build communities through constructive anger and then once we transitioned are forcibly removed from those spaces and pushed back into spaces where will be comtiunted to be abused by the cishet normative society and patriarchy.

This is a post about how we're not allowed to express our emotions once cis women can no longer view us as "special-afab-person" and are forced to actually view us as men then decide we are disgusting and threatening for existing post-transition.

So go fuck yourself.

Cis male anger in media might be celebrated, but transmasculine anger is punished by everyone and everything from the healthcare system to feminist circles, from the patriarchy to the pride parade. It's made clear by everyone the ideal trans man is completely silent at all times and certainly never voices complaint when he is abused.

It's made clear that the trans man will be punished if he is angry about being sexually assulated, he will be punished of he is angry about facing domestic abuse, he will be punished if he is angry about dealing with medical abuse, he will be punished if he is angry about the circles he will have to jump through to get the same privileges that were handed to him when he presented as a cis woman, he will be punished if he is angry about the spaces he helped build kicking him about after he starts testoerone, he will be punished if he is angry about the stigmatizion surrounding his HRT or GRS/SRS, and by God, he will be punished if he is angry about being punished for his compeltley reasonable emotional reaction to him being angry about being abused. In all situations, any expression of emotion will be used to punish him.

transfemme people also face backlash for feminine rage if they don’t pass. trans people in general face major backlash when they do anything not seen to fit in their fucking gender because god forbid they be people or feel emotions and lash out. we at least have reason to lash out because no matter what we do we’re spit on by society. we’re treated like a sick joke. and mocked and locked out of spaces even amongst ourselves because god some one not fucking perfect be trans or else that’s how everyone will perceive. the scapegoat.

Every trans person who has had to shave their face and soften their voice when speaking, so they're not seen as a "threat" (therefore making us easy to dismiss or ignore) deserves the right to scream about the fact that we are forced to become smaller and subservient around cisgender women in "activist spaces" and "community spaces".

Whether we're transmasc, transneutral, or transfem/me, "afab" or "amab", trans woman or trans man or genderqueer or nonbinary or any combination in the complex realm of gender outside the cis-binary. We all deserve respect and we all deserve the right to express our anger at both the kyriarchy as well as the queer-feminist circles that have coutninted to fail in including and protecting us.

i was working at a little cafe where I could deny service over bad behavior, harassment etc. & mask mandates had just ended a week before & already people were being weird about me still wearing mine—an N95, the kind shaped kinda like a duckbill.

so this man walked in, looked at me sooo scathingly, laughed at me, and said “damn. never known a woman to choose…practicality over looks.”

And I just said, “oh. you can go, you’re not getting a drink.” And he said, “what???”

I said, “sir, you just walked in at 6 am & called women impractical and me ugly in one sentence.”