Ms. F. C. F. Chibonga

No, really. Some problems aren’t worth the emotional energy.Especially when it seems to be the same issues over and over (and over and over) again. When was the last time you faced a challenge that threatened your very sanity? You couldn’t understand why on God’s green earth this was happening to you. Try as you might, no matter your perspective, it seemed like you had reached the end of your…

Do you ever feel like God has favourites… and you aren’t one of them? At the risk of sounding like a broken record, life has been lifing lately. I am hesitant to explain the various things that have been going on because I tend to get one of two answers:1. “Other people are going through so much worse” – as though that should somehow negate the valid feelings I have about my own issues.2. “But…

I’ve been hearing things. Before you brush it off as auditory hallucinations, let me explain. For as long as I can remember, discerning the voice of God has been a struggle. I mean, yes, He sent signs. Or spoke through people. Or made sure a specific song lyric was stuck in my head. Or gave me a memorable and oddly vivid dream. Or put a particular scripture on my heart, that coincidentally…

And again. And again. And again. You know that one thing you just can’t stop doing no matter how many times you’ve tried? The unhealthy eating. Or the negative self-talk. The passive aggressive behaviour. Or the debilitating procrastination. If (like me) you are a Christian, then maybe it’s worse… The unnecessary lying. Or the damaging gossip. Idolizing your job, relationship, material…

Lately, life feels heavy. I’m “alive, blessed and grateful” as they say, and for anybody looking from the outside in, it may even seem like everything is just peachy. But deep down inside, in the solo moments of profound silence… life feels heavy lately. You get me? Life is seasonal – highs and lows, laughter and tears, good and bad, success and failure, joy and pain – ever-changing like the…

Have you ever experienced a rough patch so difficult you wish you could completely write it off? You know, do like Men in Black, pull out the neuralyzer, click… And just forget? That was March for me. Yoh! From day uno, I felt like I was fighting to survive. If it were up to me, March 2025 would just be a blank page in the timeline of my life. On the 1st of March, I published a Why Not You?…

By some unlucky(?) twist of fate, I find myself – a millennial – smack in the middle of yet another unfortunate time in the world. Exactly a year ago, I paid the rent on my own place. I was hopeful, and honestly downright excited to finally be doing something of my own accord. I hadn’t consulted anyone you see. Several months prior to the move, I just woke up one morning and decided… I’m getting…

For the first time in about a decade, I am single. Not “single and searching”. Not “kinda” single. Not “situationship” single. Not even “single-but-talking-to-somebody” single. I am single single. In the past, I had this tendency of already having my eye on a potential “replacement” long before the relationship ended. That, or, just a few weeks after killing one love story… along came another.…

When I started writing this post, it was a fake, “feel good”, typical New Year’s motivational speech. And not that there’s anything wrong with an inspirational spiel to begin the year. Not at all. Most people tend to focus on thinking about all the amazing things that happened the past year, and all the phenomenal ones to come. But what happens when your previous year, actually wasn’t so…

How often are you told the resemblance between you and your dad is uncanny? How many times have you bumped into somebody you “should” know, and they immediately recognize who you are because the genes run strong in your family? On the flip side, have you ever heard how little you like your parents? “Oh, I think your brother looks like your mum and your sister looks like your dad, but you don’t…

Tell me, when was the last time you took a good look at your life and realized that it doesn’t quite look the way you wish it did? You don’t yet have the dream job you pasted on your vision board 2 years ago. Or try as you might, your business just isn’t picking up as you had projected. Or maybe you thought you’d be married with a chunky baby (or 3) by now, but you’re not. And then to make…

Contrary to popular belief, I am actually more introverted than I seem. I have approximately 4.5 close friends. I have known them all for either longer than 2 decades or have spent enough time in proximity with them that closeness was inevitable. I don’t particularly see myself as somebody that’s very good at making friends – in fact, I’m horrible at it. Oh sure, I’ll be civil, and I can hold a…

Isn’t it funny how every single person you come across sees a different version of your life? They see the successes, the happy days, the cute dates, the dream vacation, and (occasionally) the messy and grief-filled days. For the most part though, very few individuals, if any, can know what’s happening behind the scenes – they only see the outcome. I sit here writing this blog post as I stare…

I started writing this post on June 10th. I opened a new draft, quickly jotted the title down and then… left the tab open. It’s been 3 weeks. I don’t even remember what had happened, or why I felt the need to write the post. I definitely don’t recall why I picked the title either. Today is July 1st. My birthday month is upon us! My final week of being 30. Can I get a whoop-whoop of jubilation,…

Hello loves, Welp, it certainly has been a while, hasn’t it? 1 year, 1 month and 21 days to be precise. I’d give you the hours and minutes too, but really who has the time lol SO much has happened in the past 13 months, and I wouldn’t even know where to begin with filling you in… so I won’t. What exactly is the point of this blog post then, you ask? Today is my 29th birthday (can I get a…

Hello loves, It’s been a busy few weeks of adulting, which essentially means I have little to no time to do what I really love – eat out lol I’m currently settling in to a new job. It’s been exactly 6 months and 2 days as you read this post. I’ve gone and joined a completely new industry so far out of my comfort level. But you know what, I actually absolutely love it! I would bore you with more…