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Sun:

You will feel a very strong pull towards the house person. Perhaps they see you as an ideal love interest, someone that embodies a lot of what they're looking for in a partner. They may see you as someone who is dominant and can take the leadership role in the relationship. They may come to depend or lean onto you when they are overwhelmed. If you work together, you may be more experienced in your industry and thus act as a guide for the house person. Both of them will have a lot of pride in their relationship. If they get married, perhaps the sun person will flex their ring wherever they go lol. There is a good likelihood of marriage.

Moon:

You will feel emotionally tied to the house person. Perhaps the house person will provide a lot of comfort and emotional security to the moon person. You will feel bound together and may have trouble with boundaries or letting go if the relationship turns sour. You will be very warm and possessive of each other. It seems like if one of them were to show the same or similar amount of affection to others it's going to be like they cheated on their partner. The moon person especially will not be fond of sharing that intimacy with other people. Marriage could very much be on the table.

Mercury :

Both parties will love conversing with each other. The mercury person will want to show their affection through words, or through writing or even through songs. Their mental rapport will be a means of flirtation. Both parties could romanticise each other while talking. Perhaps both of them will find ease in communicating their wants, needs and desires as well as their issues within the relationship. Communication is very important for the both of you to ensure the longevity of your relationship.

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Venus:

Both parties will see each other as marriage material. The 7th house person will love how the venus person carries themselves, from the way they dress to the way the talk the 7th house person is likely to be head over heels for them. They can be very much in love with each other. The downside however is the same traits that they once found attractive about each other can lead to hate if the relationship doesn't end well. Could be a potential marriage partner.

Mars:

There is a great attraction between you. The Mars person especially will have 7th house person in a chokehold lol. There is a tendency for the mars person to rush into commitment however, which can lead to a lot of disappointments or arguments when the relationship doesn't turn out the way they expected.

Jupiter:

You both share similar ideals and philosophies about life. You are charming and playful together, and may love goofing around. The both of you will find that trusting each other comes easily even from the moment you meet. You will teach eachother about relationships, and help expand both of your love lives. Could be a sign of a long-term reason.

Saturn:

You might as well be the first long-term or serious relationship that the house person has. They will see you as a reliable and loyal companion.

Pluto:

The pluto person will bring a lot of change, and healing to the 7th house person. If there are things that the 7th house person kept hidden, refusing to deal with pluto will be the one to drag it out just with their presence alone. They could be very possessive and obsessed with each other.

Neptune:

Neptune will likely be head over heels for the house person. Seeing the house person as everything they've ever dreamt of in a partner. They could also choose to perceive it through the filtered vision of a hopeless romantic. Whether the 7th house person sees them the same way depends on the sign it's in. If it's in aquarius, virgo, gemini or aries then there's a good chance that it's one sided.

Uranus:

You both are likely not each other's usual preference in terms of looks or personality, but you will feel very at ease with each other. You won't feel constantly and judged, and you'll start to open your mind to things you would have never considered before. Could possibly be an open relationship but it's not always the case. If you do decide to be together, it's usually without the restraints of legalization i.e marriage contracts.

ex: Vanessa Paradis & Johnny Depp were together for 14 years and had kids, even though they were never married & never cared to get documentation for their union.His saturn (aquarius 7th house) harmoniously aspects her uranus (libra 11th house).

Chiron:

The Chiron person will draw out all the fears and insecurities that the 7th house has around relationships. One or both oh them may have been badly hurt in their love life or close connections before, and they will find in eachother the opportunity to address that pain and heal from it. On the flip side, this also means that this person could be the biggest heartbreak you'll ever experience if it weren't to end well.

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Nodes 🫧

North:

You may feel drawn to being their partner, or perhaps being married to them may as well align with your destiny in this life. You'll find that both of you may feel fated to be with each other or at least have a significant impact into your relationships or business. You could also work together.

South:

You may have been married to them in a past life, or you'll notice that they hold a lot of similarities to people you've been in relationships with before. Being their partner will perhaps trigger the feeling that you might have met before. There may be karmic attachments to this person.

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Signs 🫧

Aries :

You will be passionate and slightly competitive with each other. There's this hard to get energy that you may like to play with. With one being the chaser and the other enjoying being chased lol. Heated arguments are prone to happen when misunderstandings arise however.

Taurus :

Both of you are very romantic, and find a lot of comfort within eachother. You will love spending time together, just breathing in their presence. You could also go on a lot of dates, or just stay at home together. Mundane things will suddenly feel like enchanted endeavours. However, both of you could also be stubborn and petty.

Gemini :

Fun, witty and exciting. Your connection will bring both intellectual stimulation and a childlike sense of joy into each other's life. You'll also be like twins when you're with each other i.e dressing the same way, adopting their manner of speech. You will feel that nobody quite understands you the way your partner does. However, there could be lies and manipulation taking place verbally or perhaps they could spread negative rumours about each other if the relationship doesn't run smoothly.

Cancer :

Both will feel very connected to each other. You will feel like you've found your home, or your forever person. You'll both feel as if you were meant for each other. Treating each other with care and compassion. There may be a tendency to victimise themselves when hurt however.

Leo:

You will be very loyal and possessive of your relationship. You're friends with everyone, and people will know you as the extra pair, never boring and never apart. There is a tendency to overreact over things however.

Virgo:

Both of you will feel naturally connected to eachother. You'll find that your lives, no matter how different actually mesh together very well in terms of routine. You will love doing practical things for each other, and working around their schedule to be together. There is a potential for a long-term relationship.

Libra:

Communication and equality is very important to the both of you. You will make sure that both of you will feel just as loved and appreciated as you are. There is a tendency to look at the relationship through rose tinted glasses however.

Scorpio:

There is nothing that you can hide from each other. Your relationship will be centered around themes of love, passion, obsession and slight toxicity if not handled correctly. If all goes well, you will experience a love that knows no bounds. However if things go south both parties will become very vengeful and grow a deep hatred towards each other.

Sagittarius:

You both will be very adventurous and entertaining together. You will spend a lot of time learning or sharing your knowledge and culture. You could love travelling, or just going out together in general. Marriage could be quite possible.

Capricorn:

Loyal, reserved and responsible. You both approach love and commitment through a mature and practical approach. Both of you share similar values in a relationship and strive to obtain success and stability. It's likely that both of you will be together for a very long time, if not married.

Aquarius:

You could be an odd pairing. You could be very involved in your community together or take part in a lot of charities or humanitarian activities. You will allow each other a lot for freedom and space for individuality. You will have unconstrained fun together, pranks, spontaneous trips, shared tiktok accounts, the works! You could also prefer to be long-term partners without the legality of marriage contracts.

Pisces:

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Your relationship goes beyond the physical realm. You will be spiritually connected to one another and may have been dreaming of them long before you met. There is a tendency to be very unrealistic however, detaching yourselves from reality and going into seclusion.

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From the House Person's Perspective

In the beginning, the Mars person is definitely going to grab their attention right away. I mean, they are going to be incredibly hot to the house person! If you can flesh out your most IDEAL physical type, I would say that it's the Mars person. I feel this is what really captures the house person's attention. So, honestly, I wouldn't say that right away the house person feels very deeply for Mars. It could definitely start off on a very superficial foundation, as in, the sexual attraction between the two of you will definitely be the driving point in the beginning of your connection.

When you first meet them, you might feel a desire to really chase them or earn their attention/affection in some way. I've seen this play out in different ways, but what I've noticed the most is that the house person will pay more attention to their appearance, maybe dress a little bit more provocatively around the Mars person, be a little bit more expressive or outgoing, really just try different ways to get the Mars person's attention because they know that Mars is like a hot tamale in the neighborhood lol. The house person feels like if they don't make themselves “known” to the Mars person, then Mars is going to get bored and move on from them so this is really what makes the house person essentially put more effort into themselves and into making themselves somebody worthy of Mars’ attention.

Now, it's not just about the house person changing themselves for the affection of mars, the house person just genuinely becomes more aware of themselves around mars. For instance, the house person might realize that they give off a certain body language when Mars comes around, they might become more anxious or a little bit more nervous, or they might get butterflies around Mars when they otherwise would not feel that way with other people. This is because Mars can make the house person feel very seen in the beginning, and that could be enticing and daunting depending on how much self-confidence the house person has or how many insecurities the house person has.

So, because Mars shines a light on the house person's unspoken body language and gestures, the house person could catch themselves standing up a little straighter around Mars, or acting a little bolder around Mars. Sometimes, the house person could come off as a little defensive too, depending on the nature of the connection.

The first house rules first reactions, so the house person could definitely be very reactionary towards Mars. The Mars person can make the house person blush more, laugh more, get more angry, etc. It really does not matter what the intention is; it seems that the house person has a very strong reaction to the Mars person's actions, good or bad. Now in a good way, the Mars person can definitely make a house person feel more energized being around them because the Mars person will inspire them to take action over their lives in some kind of way. This could be through changing their lifestyle, getting healthier, changing their professional path, starting new projects, standing up for themselves, etc. In the healthiest connection, the Mars person inspires positive, WANTED, and healthy change in the house person's life. The Mars person will definitely help the house person develop more confidence.

This kind of relationship will definitely make the house person feel alive, excited, and passionate about life when they are with the Mars person. Mars helps them become fearless, and courageous, and actually take initiative over the things that have been holding them back. They are a great motivator in a relationship, and they can be very selfless when helping you. Mars could come to you wanting to find solutions to your problems, and this can make somebody be very action-oriented when it comes to you. I will say, some emotional sensitivity can be lacking when it comes to problem solving…the Mars person will definitely want to find the quickest, most efficient solution rather than crying about it, but I mean, they get things done! They inspire, and they don't let you fail when they love you.

Now, things tend to get a little murky because over time, Mars becomes less helpful and a little bit more…opinionated, judgmental, and a little pushy. This is because Mars will never NOT want to move forward, aiming for better on a personal level and in their relationships. The house person can definitely feel like there is a competitive nature to mars, like Mars is trying to either compete with them subtly or compete with other relationships. Because of this, the house person could feel very pressured to perform or to be somebody who they're really not. They could feel overly criticized by mars, and feel like Mars casts too much judgment on their personal preferences, how they dress, how they act, etc.

The problem that I find here is that the Mars person might be overly critical of the house person and then claim that it's out of love, or that they just want what's best for them, but over time, the house person is going to feel like that's not true and like the Mars person just wants them to be somebody else basically. I also feel like Mars can just trigger a certain level of aggressiveness and competition in the house person that just should not be a thing when you're dealing with a romantic or even regular intimate relationship. A trusting connection should not be one where one person feels like they have to one up the other, or were they feel like they can't just be themselves to be accepted but yet that tends to happen here.

Now, onto the real ugly. The house person can feel like the Mars person constantly critiques who they are and it feels very invasive to them. The house person will definitely start feeling like they are not enough and that it really doesn't matter how much effort they put into themselves, who they are is not really who Mars wants. I've also noticed that fights and disagreements become very volatile and very personal, so instead of saying something like “I don't like what you did”, Mars will say, “I don't like who you are” which makes it very personal to the house person and it makes them question everything that they've known about Mars and if they were even genuine in the beginning. The house person can even become verbally aggressive towards the Mars person as a result of a trigger. Maybe the house person is a very passive and quiet person, but after so much dismay and trouble, the house person will definitely start mirroring some of those verbal spats back at the Mars person, which just escalates issues even further.

From the Mars Person's Perspective

Similar to the house person, I would say that the Mars person notices them almost immediately, but just in a different way. Mars can notice the house person much before the house person notices them, but they could just be watching them for a while. The feeling that I get here is that it's almost like Mars is hunting and the house person is their prey, just based on how mars can be so head on about pursuing the house person.

In the beginning, Mars will notice their physical appearance first; they will think that they are gorgeous/handsome. They'll notice their walk, the way that they speak, the way they conduct themselves in public, if they have confidence, etc. The house person becomes somebody that Mars feels like they need to engage with, whether that's flirting, competing, protecting, or challenging the house person.

The Mars person can definitely want things to move very quickly; they are the ones to initiate conversation, initiate dates, talk etc. This is because watching from the sidelines is only so fun for so long; they only watch for as long enough to really get to know the house person before they approach them. But, they will not want to wait around and let fate happen. It might even feel like the relationship tends to move forward because of the Mars person's effort and energy.

Mars feels very desired by the house person too. The house person accepts Mars for who they are, faults and all! Mars feels desired by the house person, admired, wanted. In a way, the house person definitely makes Mars feel like the hottest one in the room just based on how they look at them, how they compliment them, how they make them feel, etc. So naturally, this desire and this very public affection that the house person gives the Mars person makes the Mars person fall head over heels for the house person 100%. Imagine having your ego stroked every time you walk in a room, but not only that, it's by the person who loves you the absolute most

Part of what Mars might want is to be an influence on the house person, and that's because they truly love them and feel like they are destined to reach their greatest potential. They see who the house person is on the inside, even if they themselves have blind spots to those things. Mars is the kind of person who wants to help the house person embody confidence, chase their dreams, accomplish their goals, and just go after better things. I'd say that when this is a healthy relationship, and Mars has good intentions, they are truly genuinely coming from a place of love and a place of healing in their own way. When you love somebody, it's only natural to want to be their biggest cheerleader and help them move along in life. This is very much seen with this Synastry.

Mars’ natural instinct is to push, and even with good intentions, it's not always perceived that way. But nonetheless, Mars might really just think that they know what is best for the house person. Mars also has very protective instincts when it comes to the house person, particularly if / when the house person has a hard time standing up for themselves. Mars is always like the first one to throw themselves into the fighting ring over any disagreements that the house person might come across with other people. The problem is that Mars might sometimes want to fight the house person's battles, which in a sense could be innocent, but sometimes it's just not necessary and a little boundary-pushing. This is because the house person still very much wants to feel like they have some kind of self-agency, and when the Mars person is always trying to handle any mishaps or correct any wrongs or just prevent any issues in the house person's life, things get really complicated. The Mars person definitely becomes irritated when people try to attack or mess with the house person, and they will fiercely protect them even if it is warranted or not.

In a healthy dynamic, Mars feels inspired by the house person too, and this is because the house person's identity really excites them. Perhaps the house person is who they have always wanted to be in some sense, or the house person is who they've always wanted to be with. This will make Mars feel alive. Mars person definitely admires the house person's strengths, identity, and way of being. The house person will definitely pour into Mars as well, by supporting them and encouraging them to chase after things in life that they've always wanted. I feel that when things are healthy, it is certainly a mutual give-and-take of emotional support.

Now, things get a little sus over time because there are way too many misunderstandings. Like I mentioned from the house person's perspective, they might not really appreciate all of what Mars is doing for them. They might find it to be a form of control in some kind of way. They might feel like Mars doesn't really see them for who they are. The miscommunication is that Mars will function out of wanting to move forward with the house person, so they can be a bit pushy, but it's more about them wanting to grow with the house person than it is wanting to tear them apart. Things get lost in translation, though, and it doesn't help that Mars is naturally outspoken, aggressive, clumsy, and even sometimes abrasive. All of these factors contribute to misunderstandings.

Mars might be unintentionally bulldozing the house person. They could totally think that they are being motivating to the house person, but in the house person's eyes, Mars is being critical. Mars could think that they're trying to be helpful; the house person could think that they are trying to change them. Neither side is wrong necessarily. But the biggest problem is that Mars sees love as action, and the first house equates identity with acceptance, so typically the house person has a hard time seeing Mars' aggressive actions as love.

I've noticed that the Mars person tends to get annoyed with the house person due to their pace. Sometimes the house person is a little bit slower moving when getting things done, and I think that makes the Mars person a little bit uncomfortable. That is because Mars is used to fast-paced movement forward, and the house person might not feel the need to rush through life. This is definitely a point of contention in the connection, though pretty minor. Mars can become a little aggressive and push the house person to get things done without really considering that they might just move at a different pace and that they are different in general.

I've also noticed that Mars can get a little annoyed when the house person switches things up, or changes up the routine without them involved somehow. This is because Mars can sort of feel entitled to them and their time and what they do in their spare time. Mars is definitely the kind of person who wants to be included in on everything that the house person does; they want to be attached at the hip. Whether or not the house person wants this is debatable.

Now let's talk about the ‘bad’. The 1st house represents autonomy over a person, and with Mars in this house, Mars might try to unconsciously control the house person and what they do, how they express themselves, where they go, etc. It's not always a healthy dynamic. If Mars is kind of on the immature side, they will do whatever they can to “fix” the house person. Good intentions are not, this is going to make the house person feel evaluated and not really valued as a partner but rather seen as a project that needs fixing all the time. Because Mars is involved, this could also indicate that things can get physically violent if boundaries are unchecked and not respected. If things escalate to physical violence, it is usually because of jealousy. I will not say who is the violent one and who is not because the role can be changed in this dynamic. Anger can escalate very quickly on Mars' end, though, especially when there's misunderstanding and not enough clear communication. Small agreements typically lead to big arguments that could last for hours. And sometimes, out of her, Mars can definitely say some things that you can't take back. Because this is the first house, these things are typically very accusatory, very personal, and very harsh.

From Venus' perspective

Typically, the house person is perceived by Venus as super fun. And I don't just mean like a good time; when Venus meets the house person, it's almost like the house person is this super cool person who comes into their life and just saturates it with color. Venus is very, very physically drawn to the house person, and it is more than just because of their physical appearance. I feel like a lot of 5th house analyses like to focus on just the physical attraction because this house does talk about sexual expression, but the kind of physical attraction that Venus has towards the house person is more than just finding them good-looking.

For Venus, it seems like the house person literally embodies their ideal man or woman. It's different in the sense that this person just physically embodies all that Venus likes; this is more like meeting somebody who is the whole package. It's like meeting your favorite fictional character crush irl, if that makes sense. They swoop them off their feet because they could be very romantic with Venus. I feel like Venus is the one who gets swept away pretty quickly in general, just because this person is almost too good to be true. They might not be a cookie-cutter personality type; they could be rough around the edges, but there's something about the house person that is inviting, exciting, and exhilarating. It comes back to the fun of the connection, how the house person can make Venus feel alive, etc.

Venus is like very naturally charmed by the house person, and this is because the house person has a way with words and actions, and how both always seem to line up. Venus can often be showered with affection in the form of gifts, adventures, trips, and luxury from the house person. Venus is going to love the house person's sense of humor, the way that they think, their creativity, their energy and drive, and their passion in life. This could be because the house person embodies a lot of what Venus feels like they lack, and it is very inspiring for Venus to be in a connection like this. Venus also just loves the house person's personality because typically, they are very carefree and easy-going. If Venus is the one who's a little bit more uptight, the house person is the one to find the silver lining in a situation or to crack a joke to ease the tension. The house person, in my opinion, definitely balances out Venus's energy and can really reassure Venus simply with their presence and their natural way of problem-solving.

I feel like when things are good between Venus and the house person, they are great. Venus feels very inspired by the house person and, in return, will support their goals and their dreams. Venus could become the house person's #1 cheerleader and can definitely emotionally support them through anything. I feel this is because Venus just truly enjoys seeing the house person happy and seeing them succeed. I'd say Venus can become very selfless for them.

I also find that Venus is fiercely protective of the house person and vice versa, but if and when there are ever any issues with other people, or anyone is trying to come after the house person, Venus is usually the first one on site defending their person.

Venus becomes a passionate lover when they are with the house person, and again, I don't feel like this is a common thing for venus. Usually, when the Venus person enters a dynamic like this, they're swept away because they haven't felt that sort of electric connection with anyone else. Naturally, it's like a shock to the system, and Venus wants to hold on to that feeling. Venus becomes softer when they're with the house person; they become more elegant, graceful, romantic, and gentle. I really love this synastry because of what it can do for both individuals' self-esteem. These two people build each other up, and from Venus's perspective, Venus starts feeling more confident about themselves and about their sexuality when they're with the house person. Suddenly, undressing themselves in front of another person isn't so daunting or anxiety filled. Venus could genuinely feel like they're at home with the house person, and so naturally, this just makes Venus all mushy inside lol.

Venus will act very differently in this kind of relationship. They will want to genuinely court the house person, and if Venus is a male or masculine-presenting/embodying person, this can actually work out really well because Venus will plan specific dates. Venus will be very attentive with the ways that they court the house person, and that's really important with this kind of connection because Venus isn't really looking to rush out of the dating phase, and it's not because they don't take the house person seriously, it's just because that kind of connection feels too good to be true and too good to change. I will circle back to the idea and concept of change later on, but for now, it is very sweet that Venus likes to take their time when dating the house person because it's all intentional down to the plans, the food, and maybe even the outfits.

Now, onto the murky. Venus can definitely 100% romanticize the house person's energy and efforts. Now, this is not to say that the house person isn't genuine with what they're doing for Venus, but I do think that Venus could have some blinders on when it comes to the house person. Perhaps early in the courting, they get really addicted to the feeling that the house person is giving them, like the admiration, the affirmations/comments, the gifts, etc., and when this image that the house person set out very early on isn't maintained, Venus can sort of paint a picture of the house person that fits their narrative just to keep them around. It's different than the 7th house synastry where Venus romanticizes the soul bond or contract that they have with somebody else. In this house, Venus can romanticize the house person's energy and actions. For example, if the house person was once super attentive in the beginning of the relationship and gave the Venus person all of the attention of the world, gifts, praise and really made an effort making them feel special but then slowly becomes a different person over time…Venus is going to have a really hard time seeing past the grand gestures in the beginning and essentially seeing the person for who they actually are.

Venus wants to hold on to that loving and fun feeling that they get with the house person in the beginning, and it's not always realistic. It's also not always bad, I don't think that the house person is always like the polar opposite of who they set out to be…but, Venus can sometimes not always see the house person very fairly, but instead compares them to who they were in the beginning of the relationship, which still isn't fair to both people. Things get murky here because not only does Venus romanticize these exciting moments, but they sort of project this personality onto the house person that might not even be really who they are. I mentioned change earlier in the post, and I said I would cycle back to it because change in this synastry. It is sort of like a double-edged sword. Without change, a lot of bitterness and resentment can be built underneath the surface. This is because Venus might genuinely not accept the house person for who they become after a while of knowing them.

It's not always intentional, but sometimes Venus prefers the person that they met in the beginning over the person that the house person becomes. This could be due to a lot of things, but I have typically found that this is because things move very quickly in the beginning, and they both don't really give each other the chance to get to know one another, so the standard that they set in the connection could be set prematurely and they begin to hold each other to that standard over time if that makes sense. It's not fair to other people. However, because of this, Venus can fall in love with experiences that they've had with the house person rather than the person themselves. I'd say that this is a lesser case scenario, of course, but this could also look like Venus staying with the house person because of these experiences and because of the promise of having more of them.

Now, onto the ugly. I'll be frank, Venus can stay longer than they should. And this is, of course, for a lot of different things. Typically, when there is this synastry, there is also a pretty high likelihood that there are children involved, or children can be a serious point of conversation. In a bad manifestation, children could bind two people together in a very unfulfilling and very stagnant relationship. Sometimes this could look like having kids with a partner that you never marry and maybe don't even want to get married to. This could look like being unwilling to leave a marriage due to the way it would affect your child's dynamics. It could look like bitterness towards each other regarding parenting, but otherwise having a very passionate relationship, or vice versa. And in my personal opinion, the consequences of this couple's actions could be a little bit more impactful because typically children are involved or family is involved in some kind of way. If there are no children involved, Venus could stay because they've known the house person for x amount of years and have had x amount of experiences with them and just generally aren't ready for change.

Also, Venus might just be attached to how the house person makes them feel rather than who the house person actually is, and they are blinded to the fact that they do this very early on. This is also sort of a stereotype of this synastry, but if Venus gets bored and excitement dies down in a relationship, they might seek “stimulation” elsewhere. Sometimes it's with other people, but most of the time it's just with another distraction. This could be anything from spending money they don't have on frivolous things to gambling, to excessive drinking or smoking, to going out at an excessive rate, etc. This of course, will lead to its own problems. I think sometimes Venus can confuse romance for novelty, and that can be very dangerous.

From the house person's perspective

Venus has a way of lighting a fire under the house person's ssa lol. Venus makes the house person feel very naturally attractive and sexy and desired, which can be very new to the house person because maybe they don't feel this way about themselves, or they weren't shown this kind of attention from other people. Either way, the house person feels a deep recognition when they meet Venus, and it's for the things that they feel like other people aren't really looking at. So, for example, the Venus person can have something very specific that they like about the house person's physical features and attributes, like maybe the house person wears glasses all the time, and Venus loves that. Venus will then always hype up the house person and encourage them to wear glasses and tell them how beautiful or handsome they look, etc.

The house person most certainly loves receiving compliments from Venus because they feel very genuine and sincere, and in return, the house person's confidence is boosted. House person could honestly feel very seen by Venus in little ways that might not be a big deal to the Venus person, but mean everything to the house person. For instance, Venus can find them very funny or really enjoy their sense of humor or their quirks. It could be the same qualities that maybe the house person has been bullied about in the past. Venus will most definitely help the house person heal some insecurities, especially regarding their self-confidence and their self-image because Venus genuinely loves the dorkiest most ridiculous things about the house person and the house person feels that to their core.

Around Venus, the house person will feel like they can stand a little taller and be a little more confident because they've finally found somebody that makes them feel like they matter and they have value, and that's things that they're passionate about are noticed.

Over time, the house person will definitely view the Venus person like their favorite person and want to spend an excessive amount of time with the Venus person. Everybody should be mindful of this, but specifically with this synastry … love bombing here is a thing. But I will save that for later. Emotions run very strong and passionate between both people, and you can even find yourself talking to the meanest person for hours about your life, your childhood, your future, your family, the things that make your heart race, what you want 10 years from now, etc…it does seem that a lot of what drives this passionate fuel between both of you is the idea of a future, and a future that seems promising.

I find that the house person might unintentionally open up to Venus very easily, and it is because Venus brings on such a welcoming and warm vibe to them that the house person just feels safe to share their insecurities, their hurt, and their pain. This is the kind of synastry where both people can have a lot of conversations about their childhoods and any childhood wounds that have come along the way. In a lot of ways, it feels like Venus was “sent” to the house person to heal certain childhood wounds of theirs, unintentionally, and they most certainly do.

On the subject of healing childhood wounds.. Venus has a very natural way of making the house person feel comfortable, embracing their true interests and the hobbies that they feel like they have had to hide in the past. Venus will instead, for example, invest in these hobbies to support the healing that they bring or just to see them happy. I feel that the house person could sometimes be a bit uptight, and Venus has a very easy way to bring out their fun, expressive, and childlike nature.

Now, for the murky. Because Venus activates the person's 5th house, the house person gets easily caught up in the fantasy of what could be with Venus. The problem is that the house person might be enjoying the attention of Venus so much that they're avoiding the practical problems going on in the relationship. For instance, the house person might not even realize that they are enabling some bad behaviors, both in the relationship and in Venus come or in themselves. For example, because they both feel so comfortable having a good time together, this is the couple that will focus more energy on having fun versus getting things done. So they might bond over going out to dinner every night, going on excursions every week, playing video games excessively etc that will lead to them then avoiding getting housework done, getting important paperwork done, and in the worst case scenario, you can start getting behind on responsibilities because the two of you spend so much time having a good time rather than being serious. With the house person, I definitely feel like you can become more aware of what's going on and still enable the behavior.

The thing that I find to be sort of a yellow flag with this synastry is that the relationship can become heavily fueled by excitement and validation from one another. At the beginning of the connection, it is sort of understandable to have these feelings…but, over time, the two people should be able to grow together and not need such validation from one another because they trust each other. I would say with this synastry, that need for validation doesn't really go away. Venus might be outright and seek validation from the house person by trying to win them over through love, sex, gifts, etc. The house person seeks validation more subtly, and this can look like trying to become somebody different that they feel Venus actually wants, changing their personality to match the projection that Venus has of them, etc. Things get murky because it's sort of like two people are trying to “please” the other’s projected version of themselves that they have of one another.

Now, as much as synastry can be really great and full of love and happiness, there are also some bad aspects. The biggest one in my opinion, is the resistance to change, and a strong second would be the overwhelming resentment that one or both people could develop over time, specifically if these issues of stagnation, distrust, or need for validation aren't resolved. Both people might get very comfortable with the way that things are and just outright refuse to change, and it can be a pride thing. The house person might feel a little suffocated by Venus's habits, but might feel like they don't know how to get out of the cycle that they are stuck in with Venus. The house person may honestly be more aware of how both of them affect one another and how they're not really growing as a couple, which would then build the deep resentment within the house person.

Venus also has a really strong hold on the way the house person feels about themselves and their self-confidence. This is because Venus has filled their head up with so many compliments and affirmations that they naturally want more of that, but just like they can build the house person up, they could also tear them down with their words as well. It's not the same as having Venus in 3H Synastry, where words could be leathal, but it is similar in a sense that words will sting and that underlying truths will be revealed sometimes in arguments or verbal spats. Unfortunately I also see that the house person could feel like Venus takes advantage of them in some sort of way, and this could be through finances, energy / time, or creative property. The house person can eventually start feeling opposite of what Venus essentially made them feel in the beginning. Suddenly everything that Venus once loved about the house person can become a nightmare to them. Every positive word or bit of advice, or support that the house person has ever shown Venus can be turned into venom. When things are really bad and resentment is obvious and the connection, the house person can definitely feel like Venus is intentionally trying to hurt them and vice versa. This all usually happens from the lack of communication when things go wrong. This is of course an extreme example, but if connections end with this synastry, and it's not involving children, it is usually involving overly triggering each other's childhood wounds and just not being able to cope as a couple.

I do you want to end on a high note here! This is still, in my opinion, a favorable synastry for two people to have! When both people are mature and know how to deal with their baggage, they can have a very healthy and happy marriage! I know that it is commonly known that 5th house synastry isn't super long-lasting, but given the reasons I mentioned, I think it's pretty obvious as to why this is a stereotype. However, it's not true for everybody! This can be a very passionate love of yours. Consider the signs that are involved, other synastry involved, aspects, etc. When things are hard, they are confusing for both people, and instead of coming together to figure it out, they will resist one another. But when things are good, this person is your soulmate! They are the person you have babies with! They are the ones that you bury your soul into, and you carve your name into their heart, that kind of love. This synastry isn't the synastry for “perfect lovers,” but it can be the synastry for imperfect love. You could learn a lot from one another, and with the right amount of patience, love, and understanding, you could have a very prosperous relationship!

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i have a mercury opposition uranus aspect with my friend, and our conversation just flows. we can talk about peculiar things without getting weirded by each other. yes, there may be differences in the thought processes, but despite that, we can still compromise and have the best conversations about diverse topics.

if you are a fan of friends-to-lovers trope, you may want to look out for 3rd, 6th, 9th, and 11th house synastry. all of these are air houses and it governs communication, which usually is the start of being friends as you can really get to know the person first by talking to them. 6th house synastry is about acts of service, and based on my experience, those subtle actions can do a lot especially in friendships.

if you are a fan of soul consuming connection, you may want to look for 1st, 8th, and 12th house synastry. i have this with someone, and i cannot stop thinking about them. there is always this urge to get to know them like in an in-depth way.

if you are someone who looks for a long lasting connection, having a lot of trines in a synastry chart is not usually good. it can make a dynamic easily fall into boredom and turn into a casual connection instead.

having an unaspected moon in synastry can make you or the other person avoidant from each other, like you can talk about a lot of topics of may have an intellectual connection, but you may struggle to talk or fix the shadow or faults in your friendship or relationship.

having an unaspected personal planets in synastry, especially the sun, can make the two people have different plans for the future or different life trajectories in general.

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1H synastry is like being adored for the things you never even saw within yourself. This person (or both of you) could absolutely adore your insecurities, love on them, give them extra attention, and indirectly heal some of your insecurities. I like this synastry because these two people absolutely adore and accept each other for all of their flaws, and for who they are. I also really like this synastry for the girlies who struggle with their self-image because in a healthy dynamic, your partner will always uplift you, and make you feel really good about yourself through complimenting you regularly, and investing time into you because coming the best version of yourself.

2H synastry is the feel-good synastry (when its positively aspected obvs) and this is because you both go out of your way to love each other, and in ways that aren't just verbal. You get to know each other on such an intimate level, that you both know exactly what you both want in terms of commitment, long term goals, gifts, desires, etc. These are the kinds of connections that would spend a lot of money on each other, just to see each other smile. It's not about the money for these two, it's about the memories. If they know their person likes something, even from childhood, they will get it for them. You two boost each other's self-esteem simply by being attentive to each other's needs on all levels.

3H synastry is the best friend synastry and I am hear for it. You can be goofy with this person, and you genuinely never run out of stuff to talk about. It's a feel good energy that is usually mutual. I also kinda find that you two can be mutually obsessed with each other, or obsessed with what the two of you are thinking about one another, etc. It's like you're on each other's minds 24/7. I am not saying you two are unproblematic, but I am saying that there's not much that can be said about you two lol You guys stick togetherr, and what I also like about this synastry is that you two fight for each other. No one is going toe-to-toe with you about your person, and vice versa. You want someone on your team, you want 3H synastry.

4H synastry is deeply intimate, and I would argue that it can be deeper and more intimate than 8H synastry (don't come for me). This is because these people see every aspect of you. They see you at your very best, and at your very worst. They know your secrets, your family history, what hurts you, what brings you the most joy. etc. This is the kind of couple that spends a lot of time talking about their past and their childhoods that could lead to a lot tears, laughter, and genuine love. 8H intimacy is on its own level, but I'd argue that being able to be your most vulnerable self without fear or the need to cower away, feels way more intimate.

5H synastry is sooo fun, but it's like a double-edged sword. You can have a partner who is your best friend, partner in crime, and creative muse all in one person. The problem is that having too much fun could lead to laziness, enabling behaviors, and just not getting serious about life together. It's important to know when to have fun and when to get fr about your priorities together. This synastry shows two people also evolving as individuals through the things they create together -- children, creative projects, etc. For instance, because it is common for children to be a big theme with this synastry, you might find that your relationship with your partner strengthens when you have children and it brings the two of you closer. This in return will heal both of your inner children.

6H Synastry it's like being loved by somebody who knows you better than you know you and that is because this person feels like they do. The two of you pay close attention to detail about each other, you might know things about each other without verbalizing them, and you can pick up on each other's subconscious patterns immediately. You know how to take care of each other, you are very giving to one another. The sixth house is all about acts of service so with this synastry the two of you can definitely be very generous with one another and help each other. This is the person that you know how to make their coffee perfectly every morning and you know their schedule, you might have a night time routine with them etc. these two cozy up together and can have a very comfortable domestic life and I think it's very sweet, not everything has to be so chaotic.

7H synastry is so serious and right away. If you have personal planets in someone's 7H, they see you as not only like ideal person for them, but as "the one". Especially if your sun, moon, Venus or Mars is in their 7H (sometimes even your asc in their 7H). When I see 7H synastry, I already assum that the couple is either going to get married, have some serious contractual obligation, or make really big decisions together and pretty young. This is another synastry that is sort of like a double-edged sword because I've noticed a lot of people that do get married with this synastry, end up wondering if it was too early. Nonetheless, this could still make for a solid and long-term relationship.

8H synastry is character developing and not really romantic in my opinion. While the love can obviously be strong in this connection, I feel like love is not the driving force of these connections -- power is, and that can get messy. 8H synastry can be really great but it requires both people to be equally as intense (loving, caring, affectionate) about each other for it to be healthy tbh. One person obsessing over the other, and its not a mutual feeling will just not work. BUT, what I love about this synastry is just the pure ability to say whatever tf you want to say or whatever is on your mind to this other person without judgment. You want to vent? This is a good synastry for that because you two don't judge each other. You're comfortable getting uncomfortable and dark and that's cool.

9H synastry is cute cuz it's like two know-it-alls falling in love🤗😂 seriously, you two get SMARTER and WITTIER when you're together. You debate. You joke. You indulge in substances (safely?), you live, you laugh, and you LOVE together. Ugh. The best way to describe this synastry is only in metaphors and scenes from music videos and movies of two lost folks with wanderlust souls trailblazing down a dark, but lit up highway as their huge hair breezes in the wind, hand in hand with the music roaring in the background and somehow, it's just the two of them on the long road. It's just you and them, driving directionless until you find whatever you're looking for. It's romantic and electric and even a little risky.

10H synastry just looks so. freaking. GOOD. Seriously, I mean, this couple is the the IT couple in any situation. People love to see you two together (or they hate it cuz they're jealous, oh well) and it's because you two just genuinely go together. You can look aesthetically pleasing together and could've been told that throughout your relationship. But it's also very admirable, the way you two love each other. There's a healthy level of idolization happening between you two, and you don't miss a chance to compliment each other and even put each other on a pedestal. You also build together, and flex naturally, ahhhh I love this synastry.

11H synastry is like meeting your SP for the first time at a house party and nothing in the room matters but them -- not the music, not the other people, not even the alcohol. When you see them, time stops. There's like a natural ease between you and this person that one or both of you has never experienced before. They see you, and they accept you for exactly who you are, and they love you for it. It's not consuming like 8H synastry and it's not necessarily familiar like 4H synastry. It's like linking up with your soul mate for the first time in this life time, even though you shared many before. You know them and they know you.

12H synastry reminds me of the notebook lmaoo. Not for the actual plot, but for whats going on in the background. This movie involved a lot of self-sacrifice and unconditional love, which I think is a standard with this synastry. But what really makes it 12H energy for me is that fact that Noah and Allie could not let each other go, even though Allie moved on temporarily. Noah never forget her, never moved on, kept moving forward with their plans (the house), etc. This is very 12H synastry -- it's impossible to just let go, even if it's what everyone wants, and it is so beautifully devastating. When you have 12H synastry, and the person STAYS, or there is not some weird life circumstance to keep you two apart, you are lucky. This is really like the "find me in every life time" synastry imo. Now, 12H synastry ALSO reminds me of the movie, Blue Valentine, which shows this synastry can be painful for other reasons, but that could be a post for later.