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Basically, this one obsessive compulsive woman would drive to work every morning and worry she had left the hair dryer on and it was going to burn down her house. So she’d drive back home to check that the hair dryer was off, then drive back to work, then worry that maybe she hadn’t really checked well enough, then drive back, and so on ten or twenty times a day.

It’s a pretty typical case of obsessive-compulsive disorder, but it was really interfering with her life. She worked some high-powered job – I think a lawyer – and she was constantly late to everything because of this driving back and forth, to the point where her career was in a downspin and she thought she would have to quit and go on disability. She wasn’t able to go out with friends, she wasn’t even able to go to restaurants because she would keep fretting she left the hair dryer on at home and have to rush back. She’d seen countless psychiatrists, psychologists, and counselors, she’d done all sorts of therapy, she’d taken every medication in the book, and none of them had helped.

So she came to my hospital and was seen by a colleague of mine, who told her “Hey, have you thought about just bringing the hair dryer with you?”

And it worked.

She would be driving to work in the morning, and she’d start worrying she’d left the hair dryer on and it was going to burn down her house, and so she’d look at the seat next to her, and there would be the hair dryer, right there. And she only had the one hair dryer, which was now accounted for. So she would let out a sigh of relief and keep driving to work.

And approximately half the psychiatrists at my hospital thought this was absolutely scandalous, and This Is Not How One Treats Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and what if it got out to the broader psychiatric community that instead of giving all of these high-tech medications and sophisticated therapies we were just telling people to put their hair dryers on the front seat of their car?

I, on the other hand, thought it was the best fricking story I had ever heard and the guy deserved a medal. Here’s someone who was totally untreatable by the normal methods, with a debilitating condition, and a drop-dead simple intervention that nobody else had thought of gave her her life back.

It is not a therapist’s job to make you normal. It is a therapist’s job to give you your life back, on whatever terms are acceptable to you. And if your therapist can’t do that, you need to find a new therapist.

For some people, having headmates and/or alters is a debilitating condition. They’re losing large amounts of time, having trouble going to work and/or school, or hurting themselves or other people. In that case, they probably do need help, but I think most people who are getting fucked up by their headmates that badly are willing to seek out help on their own anyway.

Other people who have headmates and/or alters find it to be a neutral thing, or even a positive thing. 

Have you ever been in a roommate situation where different people do different chores, because, (say) Kate loves to do the dishes, but can’t stand to vaccuum, and Toby’s the exact opposite? If Kate and Toby are headmates, they can wind up doing the same kind of thing. Headmates can also comfort you when you’re sad, remind you that your depressive or intrusive thoughts are not true, or help you deal with difficult people. 

So, if you’re in that kind of situation, where your headmates are helping you to be more functional than you’d otherwise be? A good therapist is going to treat it like the hair dryer on the front seat of your car. 

“After details of his planning application were reported in April, Sheeran took aim at a tabloid newspaper, saying: ‘Your story is b——s, I have done lots of work in the past for Crisis and Shelter and would never build railings outside my home for that reason. The reason was to keep the paps that you employ from being on my doorstep.’”

Sony does not make ANY money from the movies with Spider-Man in them that are not branded Spider-Man movies, they got no money from Civil War, Infinity War or Endgame, likewise, Marvel didn’t get much from Homecoming and Far From Home

Sony pays for 100% of the Spider-Man movies, they pay to make the movies, while Marvel takes a creative lead and makes most/all of the choices on what happens in the movies

So, when people say ‘Marvel made those movies and Sony just slapped their name on them’ that is not true, Marvel did not pay a penny to make those movies, Sony’s the one that paid the bills to make those movies, it’s just that people from Marvel were involved in making the movie, so Marvel, as a company, got to slap their name on the movie

The deal was only ever for five movies (so, Civil War, Homecoming, Infinity War, Endgame and Far From Home), so the deal was up, and then Marvel came in with idiotic demands and that’s what caused the new deal to dissolve

We also don’t know 100% if this means no Spider-Man in the MCU, the only thing we know is that, as of right now, Marvel/Kevin Feige will not be taking a creative lead in Spider-Man movies, that does not mean Spider-Man is banned from the MCU, maybe it does, but we have no idea

Also, they’re probably still negotiating, so Sony might end up taking a deal, especially since idiots everywhere are berating them for not letting Disney be greedy (which is what Disney wants)

Also, lots of people are saying that Marvel helped Sony make their highest-grossing movie ever, which, while true, only surpassed Sony’s last highest-grossing movie by $2 million (and, since both those movies went above $1 billion, that means it’s only roughly 0.2% higher), so them then asking for 50% of future Spider-Man movies is asking quite a lot, since that would mean roughly a half billion dollar loss on Sony’s part per movie, and they’re supposed to be okay with that because Marvel helped them make $2 million more on this one movie than they’ve made before? None of the Spider-Man movies that Sony has ever made pulled in less than half of what Far From Home made

So, basically, what happened is this: Marvel, coming off the heels of making the number one highest-grossing movie in cinematic history (which Sony got no money from even though their characters were in the movie), and also having 5 of the top 6 highest-grossing movies of 2019 (the 1 they don’t have being Spider-Man: Far From Home), came to Sony and said ‘fuck you buddy we want 50% of the profits from your movies because we don’t have enough money,’ Sony said ‘how about we stick to our original deal?’ and then Marvel decided they wouldn’t help Sony make Spider-Man movies anymore, probably because they figure that it’ll lead to them being able to squeeze more money out of Sony. How the fuck is Sony the bad guy here in anybody’s eyes?

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1) DON’T use your search bar to find and open the Run app

2) DON’T type in services.msc

3) DON’T find Adobe Genuine Software Integrity Services and right-click to get a dropdown menu, and don’t select ‘properties’

4) if you happen to click properties, DON’T use the startup type dropdown to locate the option to disable the program. be sure you DON’T click apply to finalize that change. 

5) DO NOT do the same thing in order to also disable Adobe Genuine Software Monitor 

if you do all of these things, this WILL disable adobe’s ability to monitor the software, and you will be forced to continue using the same older software that you already paid for instead of having to sign up for a newer, shittier version and pay more for it. so if you have lots of cash to spare and are cool with putting it the pockets of racketeering capitalists, definitely don’t do any of these things.