Did everyone consent to being there, did the dancers know their audience, were they paid (looking at the yesses) what the fuck is the problem
I don’t know what it will take to break this into your gooey young hearts, but you don’t stop having fun – all forms: physical, mental, sexual, social, literarily, culturally – as you age
You should be seeking joy and pleasure until the very instant you exhale your last mortal breath
Renounce pleasure at your own loss, I will spend none of my life force or temporal passage grieving for you or remembering you
Having worked in elder care, I can tell you exactly what this is, because I’ve seen it before:
Adults cannot accept that their elderly parents could be horny.
This is ESPECIALLY true if one of their parents has passed. Pop Pop loved Gam Gam! He can’t possibly have found a girlfriend at the home! Or, worse and more common, Gam Gam can’t possibly have found a boyfriend! This must be a sign of senility and the man is taking advantage! (No, ma’am, your mother is fully present and wheels over to Mr. Jones’s room every afternoon like clockwork. They hold hands at bingo sometimes. Please be happy for her. We are.)
All that to say, lots of residents probably loved this and their adult kids threw a stink.
My sister has delivered care at several skilled nursing facilities and the amount of elderly people who sneak off to fuck each other is insane.
80% of people between 50-90 are sexually active. The rate of STIs among nursing home residents is pretty high—that doesn’t happen for no reason.
I’m sure they went door to door letting everyone know strippers were in the common room if they want to see and the only thing these men were upset about was they had no singles.
“Sexuality is only for young adults” is gross and a lie.
If you find yourself no longer interested, fine. That’s normal.
BUT SO IS CONTINUING TO BE INTERESTED.
Both are normal, and both are fine.
