- Backhanded compliments

- Joking insults disguised as humor

- Comparing you to others, or themselves often

- Minimizing your achievements

- Acting surprised when you do something well

- Ignoring or changing the subject when you share good news

- Giving constant “advice” about things you’re already doing well

- Pointing out small flaws frequently

- Pointing out your insecurities

- Making you feel “too much” or “too sensitive”

- Questioning your decisions repeatedly

- invalidating your words

- Subtly competing with you

- Only validating you when you meet their expectations

- Making you feel lucky they chose you

- Acting slightly annoyed when you’re confident

- Withholding praise or support

- Speaking to you with superiority

- Over helping in ways that imply you can’t handle things yourself

- Frequent criticism

- Bringing up how others handle things “better”

- Politely dismissing your feelings

- Encouraging you, but subtly discouraging bigger goals

- Being supportive only when you stay in a certain role

- Correcting you often in small ways

- Turning your concerns into something trivial