anti-contact means: against engaging with real content, or physical beings, pertaining to your big 3/5 paraphilias, in a sexual or otherwise exploitative manner

it does NOT mean:

anti-engaging with ANYTHING pertaining to your big 3/5 paraphilias. zoos can still have or work with pets or animals while being anti-contact unless theyre sexually engaging with or exploiting those animals. incestophiles are likely gonna have family members theyre in contact with.

anti-engaging in fiction regarding those paraphilias. thats shipcourse! youre not making contact with any real life vulnerable being by engaging in fiction (including roleplay), therefore its uninvolved from contact discourse

anti-contact ALL paraphilias. the anti and pro contact terminology was born from paraphilias that would be harmful to act upon, built upon the offending and non-offending terminology of the map community, it cannot retroactively be applied to other, harmless (or risk aware n consensual) paraphilias.

a term for anti-radqueers who are anti-radqueer due to ethical concerns. it is technically under radqueer-critical in ideology.

generally, it believes while the internal experiences behind a lot of radqueer terms are valid, deserve a name, and space, when actions or engaging with these topics publicly get brought up it is heavily critical or even against how theyre handled within the radqueer community. it brings light to the ignorance in how certain stuff is harmful or bigoted when acted on, rather than deeming any certain internal identity as "inherently harmful"

in short, it believes while topics regarding radqueer internal identities deserve space, they should be handled with care and with critical thinking by the participants.

it is anti-contact (including consang) pro-para, transid "transitioning" critical, anti-harm (transharmful transitioning, xenosatanism, nccnc/conabuse, fults) and by extent pro harm reduction, anti paraphilias as an inherently queer identity, and MUD-critical. any other opinion is unrelated to being an ethical anti-radqueer, such as ship or plurality discourse.

no flags, no symbols, no fancy name. im tired and I dont wanna have to look up every woobqueer term I come across to decide if they support abusing animals and kids or if they think disordered people should die. so Im saving others the effort by making this straight to the point. still, technically, it is a blankqueer term

I'll humor you because you're nice and I'm in a good mood. Also, tagging this as profic so people can avoid as needed.

I never said fiction doesn't affect reality. It absolutely can in its own way.

There's been a few anons sending me studies or bringing up propaganda as if my position is "fiction never affects people." That's never been my argument.

Most of the studies I've been shown actually reinforce the point I've been making: media can influence attitudes, emotions, and perceptions, but people don't all walk away with the same interpretation. Two people can consume the exact same story and come away with completely different lessons depending on their experiences, beliefs, environment, and media literacy.

Back to propaganda.

Propaganda isn't defined by whether it's fiction or nonfiction—it can use either. What makes something propaganda is that it's intentionally created to persuade people toward a political, ideological, or social goal. It often relies on emotional appeals, selective information, repetition, and trusted institutions to reinforce its message. Usually any sort of taboo writing or art warns people away from doing anything irl, but propaganda tries to appeal to you because they want people to agree with them that certain real world topics are good, okay, and/or cool.

That's also why propaganda works differently than someone privately reading a disturbing novel or writing dark fanfiction. Successful propaganda rarely exists in isolation. It's reinforced by governments, schools, families, peers, news outlets, advertising, and broader cultural narratives. People are encouraged to trust those sources, and repeated exposure can shape attitudes over time.

My point is that media effects are incredibly complex. There are studies showing media can influence attitudes, and there are also studies showing those effects depend on context, personality, prior beliefs, social environment, and many other factors. That's why my position is nuanced instead of absolute.

Reality shapes fiction. Fiction can shape how people think about reality. And both are filtered through the individual consuming them.

I'd rather judge people by how they actually treat other human beings.

shipcourse stance here

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What exactly does pro-para mean? Is it just embracing being a paraphile/not seeking to ‘correct’ it? Exclusively fictional or fine with irl content?

I’ve been under the assumption pro-para meant pro-contact. I dunno how being anti-para would work (other than anti-contact/crime ig lol), so I’m not sure what being pro would entail.

absolutely fine with asking! this may be long, though, since i tend to ramble….

being pro-para means that you're accepting of all paraphiles (not just the palatable ones) and acknowledge that having a paraphilia doesn't automatically make someone a danger or a predator. i also believe that you can't be proship, pro-kink, or a safe person for queer people if you're anti-para, since those communities have such overlap with the para community and how we're treated.

note: being accepting of all paras means being accepting regardless the type of para that someone has. for example, you cannot call yourself pro-para if you "support all paras except the big three", because that's simply not supporting all paras. being accepting of all paras does not mean that you're accepting of pro-contact paras.

the pro para community mainly exists as a safe space for people to talk about their paras. wether that be struggling with them, learning to accept them, or simply just for the sake of having community. pro-contact paras are generally not accepted by the para community, and usually only accepted by radqueers.

also because society as a whole is incredibly paramisic. i could go outside and say "we should violently kill and mutilate all pedophiles" and people would act like i just said something amazing — instead of something deeply hateful and ignorant.

if you hate someone for having a paraphilia, you either hate them for a disorder they have (ableism), or hate them for who/what they're attracted to (queerphobia).

Instead of making another long winded post about radnormal ill link you to the one ive already made on another account of mine

Secondly i dislike blankqueer labels because they almost all have really gross underlying flaws that mean I, as a queer and mentally ill person, would never actually feel safe.

Almost all of them have ideals that create explicit loopholes for people to harass others (including saying you can harass adults only, or you can harass anyone who you can "prove" deserves it), I have seen several who are against contradictory labels (like lesboys and turigirls) which will ALWAYS isolate intersex people who use those labels EVEN IF you claim that youre okay with intersex people using those labels because you cannot police that. Almost all blankqueer labels are against all those with paraphilic disorders REGARDLESS of if they are offending, recovering, anti contact, pro contact etc etc. A lot of blankqueer labels want to isolate recovering radqueers for a variety of different reasons.

This last one is personal but I am very uncomfortable with thr amount of labels that are applying morals and ethics and the idea of "cleanliness" to being queer and political. It just makes me feel like theyre putting out this message that you can be queer but youre only going to be "one of the good ones" if you fit into this cute little "moral" and "ethical" niche box.

All that (most of) these labels are doing is proving to radqueers that what the radqueer community says about antis is true. That we hate them all and we think they deserve to be beaten, to be killed, to be tortured etc etc etc. That rhetoric does NOT encourage anyone to stop being part of a community that harms them, it WILL and HAS BEEN PROVEN TO push people farther into those mindsets.

The broadly accepted definition of a paraphilia is a persistent sexual fantasy or attraction to an unusual or socially unacceptable practice*. Being or actively identifying as a paraphile does not mean you are, inherently, acting on that attraction.

Hello, we are back from our hiatus. We honestly needed some time off to come up with ideas, but now we’re collectively making this post.

We do admit that we’re kind of nervous of posting this one. It’s a serious and very much incriminating post that will probably stir the community up, but we consider this post quite crucial in regards of how the community lures you in.

TW: The BITE model is often associated with cults, organizations, RAMCOA/OEA and so on. It describes extreme emotional abuse that these groups use. Please, do not read if this content triggers you.