#ex radqueer

and

"you do not owe these people a second of your time, you probably cannot fix them and you are not a bad person for completely avoiding them"

TW: mentions of self harm, rape, school shootings, grooming, abuse, cults,

A talk. I need to talk about it all.

Hello. I recently left the radqueer space and would like to talk about it for those interested in learning about the space or want their fears and criticism confirmed.

First off, why did I become a radqueer? At the time in my life, I was down, really down and needed a community, I needed people who would accept me, I needed people who would love me no matter what I believed in. I thought that the Radqueer space was a safe space to express my thoughts and be accepted. I was so depressed and needed that validation that I went to the worst places I could have gone to, but I was blind at the time. I was craving attention so badly I went to the one place that gave attention to everything, good and bad.

My situation there was more negative than positive.

Here is everything that happened that I can remember.

You were called a "fakerad" for being anti-contact or even neutral-contact. This made it seem like if you didn't do as everyone else did, you were an outcast, no one would like you, and you'd be harassed.

Rarely people tagged their NSFW posts. You'd be scrolling and be hit with the heaviest most triggering conabuse post ever and there would be no warning or tags on the post.

People supported confirmed abusers and predators and didn't care. They say that "they've change" / "they're changing!" But in reality there was nothing the abuser was doing to change.

LSDqueers and Basedqueers were common in the space. If you don't know what they were, to put it simply: they believe in noncon / non consent. Yes, they believe that rape is justified, that harassment is justified, that anything non con is fine. Many people did not care about this.

Harassment was common. To both insiders and outsiders. If you didn't say the right thing to someone they would call you the r-slur and fling insults at you. If you left the space and told others what truly happened, they would insult you and put you on blast on their blogs.

They believe that minors, animals, and corpses could consent. For minors, they believe in youth liberation, that minors can truly consent and that "theyve consented!" But in reality theyve been groomed into thinking it was fine. For animals, they said to "watch for body language" and just "be gentle" with the animal. For corpses, they said if the person consented before death, it was fine.

It was very cult-like. The bigger of a radqueer you were, the more attention you got, the more people would let stuff go, the more people didn't care about your actions. If you tried to leave or criticize the community, you'd be called a "fakerad" and be ostracized. I felt scared to leave the community, what if they come after me if they find my blogs once I leave? They made you seem like a traitor if you decided to leave.

Many of them are just groomed by the adults in the space. Many of them happen to be minors who were groomed and believe that they weren't, some of these minors actually want to be groomed by adults, and that they enjoy it. I saw that many of them were "transgroomed" and that when an anti would say they were being groomed, the minor would say "it's just validating my IDs!"

Many of the IDs these radqueers would have would be transharmful IDs. Such of which includes but is not limited to transschoolshooter, transmurderer, transrapist, transnazi, transhateful, transcultist, transcultleader, and transbigot.

Self harm was encouraged by many large radqueers in the space. One of which, I remember, had encouraged her followers to cut themselves because she viewed herself as a Goddess, they would ask where to cut themselves or how to do it, or "should I carve your name into my thigh? :3" and she would validate them and encourage it.

Many of the users were in the TCC, the true crime community. The TCC is notorious for their admiration and love of criminals, abusers, and school shooters.

Many of the transcultists wanted spaces where their transgod or transcultleader would encourage self harm and other very harmful acts like hurting others.

Thats all I can remember at the moment, if I remember more then I'll add it to the list.