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So i decided to make this post for personal and community reasons. I want trans/gender noncom forming hoomans to feel safe with in whatever headspace they slip into (cg/little/both). I also want people in both the littlespace community and lgbtq+ to know how to handle/cope with dysphoria or other uncomfy feelings as they come about. So with that being said, let's dive right in!
Dysphoria (What is it??)
As defined by urban dictionary Gender dysphoria is a term that describes a sense of unease/discomfort that a person may have because of a mismatch between their biological sex and their gender identity.
Gender in littlespace
I want to stress this as it is VERY important! LITTLESPACE HAS NO GENDER!!!!!! Now, reread that one more time and let that sink in. Littlespace is supposed to be a safespace and a sanctuary so no matter what you prefer whether it be petnames, what clothes you prefer to wear, what toys you want to play with or activities you want to do. It does not matter. Your littlespace is just that: YOURS!!! Don't let anyone put you in a box. Now that i have prefaced with that. This next part is for the littles/cgs who struggle to remember that littlespace has no gender especially the overthinkers and over analyzers.
Dealing with Dysphoria
Here are some tips to help those who cant reassure themselves
Baggy clothes: As someone who identifies as trans masc i can say from personal experience when i am having body dysphoria wearing something a bit bigger/baggier (especially if you have more chest/whatever makes you uncomfy) For example, i used to have a hoodie/sweatshirt that was soley for when i was feeling uncomfy so that i could feel more comfy.
Binding: Part of me doesn't even want to recommend this because as someone who has binded unhealthily i can tell you it can be very unsafe and that it can be very damaging. IF AND ONLY IF you intend to bind for a short period of time (no more than 8 hours a day and NEVER sleep in your binder) WITH THE RIGHT SIZE BINDER (i cannot stress this enough) if you do all these things and take everything you need to into consideration then binding could very well be a good healthy option for you. I used to bind and i know it definetly made me feel a lot better about my chest.
Compliments: Have someone AND/OR remind yourself that you matter and tell yourself some good things (pretty/handsome/cute) i also have found that affirmations really help me (EXAMPLE-my body does not define me or my gender)
Distractions: Sometimes this is all we can do. Sometimes we don't have the right resources and thats okay. It is all about finding healthy ways to cope that do not involve negativity. Simple things like reading your favorite book, eating your favorite meal, or doing a hobby can really help to take your mind off the discomfort.
What can I do as a cg/little?
Remind your cg/little they are a good (insert title) and that you wouldnt want a (opposite title). I know this really helps me rememver my partner wants me for me despite the way i see myself
Compliments and affirmations are pretty self explanatory and i have already explained them so i wont again :)
Help distract/occupy. Hugs/dates/kisses/games anything that will take their mind off of it is more than helpful
Reassurance is kind of basically the same as compliments and affirmations but kist reminded them you love them with their dysphoria and as the person they are and everything that comes with that
That is all for this post! I hope it helps
