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“Although men are more likely than women to be murdered, women are more likely than men to be murdered by a member of the other sex and by a spouse. MacKinnon (1987) reports that “four out of five murdered women are killed by men; between one third and one half [of murdered women] are married to their murderers. When you add in boyfriends and former spouses, the figures rise.” Dobash and Dobash (1977/78) reported finding that more than 40 percent of women who are murdered are murdered by their husbands. By comparison, only 10 percent of male murder victims are killed by their wives. Walter Gove (1973) found that “for women the shift from being single to being married increases the likelihood of being murdered, while for men the shift decreases their chances.” Gove obtained similar findings for single as compared to married women as regards “accidental deaths.” It is, of course, likely that many accidental deaths were in fact murders. Such statistics served as the impetus for Blinder’s (1985) remark, “In America, the bedroom is second only to the highway as the scene of slaughter.”

“Amy Poehler was new to SNL and we were all crowded into the seventeenth-floor writers’ room, waiting for the Wednesday night read-through to start. […] Amy was in the middle of some such nonsense with Seth Meyers across the table, and she did something vulgar as a joke. I can’t remember what it was exactly, except it was dirty and oud and “unladylike”,  Jimmy Fallon […] turned to her and in a faux-squeamish voice said, “Stop that! It’s not cute! I don’t like it.” Amy dropped what she was doing, went black in the eyes for a second, and wheeled around on him. “I don’t fucking care if you like it.” Jimmy was visibly startled. Amy went right back to enjoying her ridiculous bit. With that exchange, a cosmic shift took place. Amy made it clear that she wasn’t there to be cute. She wasn’t there to play wives and girlfriends in the boys’ scenes. She was there to do what she wanted to do and she did not fucking care if you like it.”

Society tries to police how Women behave and present ourselves by mocking us, belittling us, shaming us, or asking us what people will think of us. 

Okay so, I fucking love Star Trek, I’m watching through the original series rn cuz it’s awesome and was ahead of it’s time for the 60’s, but I always kinda just roll my eyes at all the male gaze-y stuff because hey it was the 60’s and Star Trek has progressed since then and their most recent series, Discovery, has almost no male gaze-y shit and it’s so awesome and all the female characters wear awesome practical uniforms that are just as practical and unsexual as the male uniforms, unlike in the original series, pictured and discussed above, where all the female characters wear little mini dresses with their asses just about hanging out and pantyhose, while the male characters wear practical and unsexual uniforms. And that’s exactly what it was, male gaze-y shit, and I’m honestly disturbed that thousands of people in the notes are hailing objectifying women and exploiting their bodies to be able to get a message across for the male writers. There’s literally hundreds of other ways they could have distracted the Network besides objectifying and exploiting the show’s actresses, but that’s what they went with and look there’s thousands of people on Tumblr hailing and praising that choice as so progressive and positive, that was made by the *male* writers and producers, not the actresses. They could have used vulgar language, they could have had the male uniforms be speedo bottoms with their asses hanging out and visible dick outlines, but they went with sexually objectifying women.

I see a lot of notes talking about how “revolutionary” and “liberating” it was for all the women to be in very revealing outfits while the men got to wear comfortable practical outfits they could move and fight in. If this is has anything to do with liberating women then why were the men and women’s outfits still so drastically different? Why couldn’t the men’s and women’s outfits in this show be equally revealing or equally practical? Why wasn’t Spock in a mankini or Kirk in booty shorts? Wouldn’t that have been revolutionary and pushing boundaries back then too? Why was there so much more of a push to “liberate” women’s bodies and show off women’s bodies in media than men’s? Why the disparity?

I’ll get up early in the morning to do that.