Ana🦋

A lot of the resistance to admitting Brienne is ugly comes from the fact that some people simply cannot accept that Jaime could love her as she is and be sexually attracted to her as she is. There’s this need to frame it as him “looking past” her appearance, as if her body is something he tolerates rather than desires.

And that feeds into a bunch of other bad readings: the idea that their love is somehow “pure” and not carnal, that it’s calm and chaste and grounded, especially when contrasted with his relationship with Cersei, which fandom loves to frame as the real sexual one. It’s also tied to that tired belief that “a part of him will always belong to someone else,” sexually and romantically, that I spoke about the other day.

And this is such a wrong interpretation of their relationship. It’s actually quite funny how fucking wrong it is.

Jaime loves it all. UGLINESS INCLUDED. And more importantly: he’s also attracted to it.

I think that’s what people don’t understand about the concept of “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” in relation to sexual attraction. It’s not that the concept of beauty changes, or that you look at that person and don’t see them for who they are. Is that what people might find ugly and therefore not sexually desirable to them because of that ugliness, it’s precisely the something that you find attractive.

Jaime desires both sides of Brienne. He is attracted to both sides of her.

Yes, he falls for her sweetness, her warmth, eyes, thinks about comforting her, defends her honor as a lady. This is the easy part for people to swallow.

What people don’t understand is that he’s also attracted to her strength, her muscles, her mouth, her freckles, her height. Everything that makes her undesirable for others… Jaime Lannister is into it. He digs it. It does it for him.

Romantically speaking, I think their relationship will be intense because they’re both people who give love freely but rarely receive it unconditionally. When they finally turn that love toward each other, they will cling to it, feed off it, give themselves over completely.

And when it comes to the sexual aspect of it, I think their relationship will be EVEN MORE carnal than anything either of them ever experienced, especially Jaime.

Jaime isn’t attracted to Brienne because he’s in love with her. He is in love with her and he is attracted to her, and those things are not the same, nor do they depend on each other.

His sexual desire for Brienne surpassed even his “love” for Cersei, almost immediately. Because he wanted Brienne from the very moment he saw her. Jaime wanted her even before he actually liked her.

His attraction to Brienne is not conditioned by his love for her. He wants her. And then he falls in love with her.

“Imagine a character who evolved to become a better person and than suddenly get reset like a fucking Computer sending all these seasons and years of evolution, including the reason of his character and what he represent, in the trash..” Me:

“Imagine the main villain of a series who always lived as a lion who deserved a glorious death spending her last moments whimper like a spoiled brat..” Me:

“Imagine two main and important characters being out of character and ruined at the same time with only a scene of few minutes..” Me:

“Imagine trying to convince the viewers that a toxic, abusive and one sided relationship is actually romantic and tragic..” Me:

“Imagine a character who was always been really smart become an idiot..” Me:

“Imagine one of the most important series in the world became a fucking joke because someone was able to ruin it with only few episodes knowing they didn’t understand the story and/or the characters..” Me:

"Daenerys doesnt need a man to be the greatest" nor Aragorn son of Arathorn needed Arwen to make his character complete and compaling enough to become one of the greatest fantasy heros of all times..yet he has her on his side, sharing with her a love so deep and pure that she refuse to be immortal for him. Why Daenerys cant have someone that loves her this much and still be cool?

"Arya reject gender roles and thinks women are important too and she is wild and fierce, and she chose her destiny for herself and has no need of a man" and so does Éowyn the shieldmaiden of Rohan that killed the most ferocious, insidious and cruel creature her world has ever seen..yet she is not less cool just because she felt in love with Faramir of Gondor and lived happily with him.

"Brienne doesn't need a man because she's managed to get a place in society that is usually only for men, she's not a useless damsel in distress" first of all, Brienne would immediantly dislike you for think that the maids in her so loved songs are useless..secondly Galadriel "the mightiest and fairest of all the Elves that remained in Middle-Earth" too attains absolute power, far greater than Brienne's, and I say this as Brienne's lover, so much so that if she would touch the ring they wouldn't be able to stop her ever..yet she is happily married with Celeborn. Is she less cool? I do NOT think so.

The idea that a female character, to be cool, NEED to be as much detached from anything it was once perceived as typical feminine as possible is already so disgusting that i feel like i am talking with alt right pro Russia father - that also pretend to be a feminist when spent the whole time at the family christmas gathering decomposing the chemical of my brain while talking about how much women need men - but to think that a woman cant be a cool badass heroine and still find love is beyond me. Who said that? Why men can have both but women dont?

Downton Abbey Episode 1.01 (2010)

Ask and ye shall receive pt? featuring Elia at the tourney of doom and despair Harrenhal and Catelyn with little Sansa and baby Arya.

PNG credit : @ aquazero