"The idea of "saying hello again" to someone who has passed away may sound strange. In recent times, within Western culture, the dominant metaphor of grieving has involved only "saying goodbye." We are often invited to undertake a step-by-step process of saying goodbye, moving on, and accepting a reality that no longer includes the lost loved one. In his work as a therapist, however, Michael White discovered that some people struggle profoundly with trying to say goodbye to those who have died, and that, in these circumstances, saying hello again can be highly significant."
"...if there is someone in your own life who is dear to you and who has passed on, consider these questions:
What did they see when they looked at you through their loving eyes?
How did they know these things about you?
If they could be with you today, what would they say to you about the efforts you are making in your life? What words of encouragement would they offer?
What difference would it make to your relationships with others if you carried this knowledge with you in your daily life?"
Saying hello again when we have lost someone we love, Michael White
(note from this paper: "Having said this, I would argue that every experience of loss is unique, as are the requirements for the resolution of every loss. Any metaphor is only helpful to the extent that it recognises, and facilitates the expression of, this uniqueness, and doesn’t subject persons to normative specifications.")
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