We All Are Drama Queens

i'm going to say something insane. i think the overall pronounced fandom cultural slide away from complex plotty violent work and towards kidfic and coffee shops AUs and cozy domestic romcoms is a symptom of fascism.

important part of the coffeeshop AU is we don't ask where coffee comes from and who is exploited to provide coffee beans. like i feel like the disappearance of imperialism's exploitation while loving its gains is important there, just as important with romanticized pastoralism.

as well as acknowledging that the pedophile as boogeyman is a dangerous distraction, we should acknowledge that between a third and half of all CSA is commited by other children. with people primed to expect child sexual abuse from nefarious adults, they tend to ignore or downplay the risks and red flags when children interact with each other, which they do a lot more than they have a chance to interact with adult strangers or acquaintances. like other CSA, Child on Child Sexual Abuse (COCSA) isn't the result of some inherently bad kids. it's created by the social conditions of society. no amount of fear mongering about boogeyman pedophiles is going to touch CSA rates, but removing the conditions that make children vulnerable to each other and adults in their life will

Isn't it weird how when I said this there was no backlash to it and yet when suggestrogen, a trans woman, elaborates on this exact subject...

Y'know personally I'd think the best way to stop pedophilia would be to help dismantle systems that disempower children but sure sharing a callout post about that twitter lolicon is equally effective I guess :)

Such a fucking cop mentality "If we just deal with all the 'bad people' individually then eventually the problem will be solved!"

Please bro just one more tranny I swear bro she's actually evil this time fr I promise just one more tranny and we can solve pedophilia seriously dude I SWEAR

it is very strange how "terf" has replaced "transphobe" in the tumblr general lexicon considering that the american terf movement has been dead in the water since 2018 and the british terf movement is literally just JKR's astroturf groups and she's not even a radical feminist, average white libfem larper. Like as a trans woman whos egg cracked 2013 I have seen the online terf movement come after myself and everyone liked me, then die out. I remember when telling terfs to fuck off and die meant something because you were actually saying it to someone in an effort to get them to stop. Now its a platitude everyone throws out while aggressively harassing every trans woman that dare speak up about the transmisogyny within the queer community

The average transmisogynist isnt a Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist the average transmisogynist is literally just somebody. Its your Dad its your Mom its your Brother its your Sister its your best friend its your boyfriend its your coworker its your transfem friend's partner its normal fucking people. Literally what is the scope of your vision that when you imagine a transmisogynist you think it can only occur in womens liberation spaces. I really think the term "TERF" came up over transphobe because it was a quick way to flag support for the trans community and disdain for its oppressors without actually making a material effort to support the trans women in your life.

"Kill all terfs!! terfs choke and die!!" you will not even correct your dad when he verbally disrespects your trans friends to their faces.

People are (rightfully) criticizing this post by saying I underestimate the strength of the British TERF movement and honestly you're right and should say it. Do I think the british terf movement is at all connected to actual radical feminist ideology? Barely. Does that matter? Not really. If someone is going around proudly claiming they are a Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist I dont think it matters how little the "Radical Feminist" part plays a role. Hell Dave Chapelle calls himself a TERF and I dont think that guy has thought about womens rights a day in his life. So like, yes TERFs choke and die but like. Lets be inclusive here. Transphobes choke and die.

Isn't it weird how when a trans woman is being smeared by a hate group and put on suspension from her job, everyone and their momma avoids pronouns and gendered terms? It's always "a trans person" or "transgender [professional]". We can't even get gendered correctly by so-called allies who are in the midst of defending us. They're too busy trying to twist transmisogyny into an attack on the whole community to just do their best to uplift and support a woman under attack.

"these researchers published a paper on something that literally any of us could have told you 🙄" ok well my supervisors wont let me write something in my thesis unless I can back it up with a citation so maybe it's a good thing that they're amplifying your voice to the scientific community in a way that prevents people from writing off your experiences as annecdotal evidence

they did the research in the first place because they believed you and wanted to tell people about it. they are not our enemies.

Sometimes "they" are us who got an entire graduate degree for the explicit purpose of saying this stuff where academics might take it seriously.

the reason most anti bullying psa's completely fail is because they fail to identify why people bully others, and fail to identify that kids actually do internalize oppressive structures REALLY early on. white kids understand that racialized kids are easy targets, and white teachers either fail to catch racism or are racist themselves. non-disabled kids understand that disabilities are easy to pick on, kids recognize the sissy archetype very early on, boys internalize that girls are lesser than them, kids notice they can take advantage of autistic behavior, and it flies under the radar cause teachers offer little to no support to marginalized kids or outright victim blame them. "ignoring bullies" is a model that assumes bullies just want attention. we should instead assume bullies are taking advantage of others.

I need you, allies of transfems, and some transfems themselves, to stop considering the backlash against transandrophobia theory “infighting”. Misandry is not real, trans men are opressed because they are trans, not men. The rethorical goal of transandrophobia has been time and time again to argue for some sort of man-specific opression, and to erase and speak over transfeminine experiences. To consider it “infighting” is an openly misogynistic consideration, one in which the woman who fights against the force of patriarchy that empowers men is simply bitching, muddling the water for no reason.

Also, if you ever call a transfem a rapist or insinuate she’s unlikely to be assaulted you need to kill yourself.

I was watching Shrek 2 and my wife and I were reflecting on how much transmisogyny was in it as jokes (e.g. “gender confused wolf” “ugly step sister” “women’s underwear” etc.) and it’s so extremely ridiculous to me the transphobes’ line that having positive representations of trans people (esp trans women) in children’s media would be “too confusing” for kids—because they are literally already making references to trans women in children’s media, they’re just doing it in the most offensive ways possible. Taking away all the empty cis rationalization of it, really they’re not arguing for kids to not see trans characters, they’re arguing that kids should see trans characters as demonized, fetishized, objects of ridicule and disgust. Like that’s literally the subtext in these “how do I explain this to my kids” conversations. They really mean “let me continue to explain this in ways that groom kids into hating trans people and themselves if they are trans”