cosmicorder

The burglar that broke into my house: bodily autonomy?

The lily in the valley will wither. The flowers in the forest will decay. But this friendship will last forever, when all other things fade away.

March 4, 1885.

• Y 2 K A q u a r i u m •

In a very simplistic model of social interactions one could grow up in, you can make out two major groups:

Group 1: "Meanies not allowed" - if Sam is nice to Alex, and Alex repeatedly does not return the kindness, Sam and other children think Alex is a bad person and refuse to play with them.

Group 2: "Servitude is weakness" - if Sam is kind and helps Alex whenever asked, Alex gets used to using Sam's services without feeling the need to return the kindness back, and Alex and other children believe that Sam is a weakling and does not deserve any respect.

The situation between Sam and Alex in both groups is roughly the same, but their surroundings (other children serving as the third party judges) and Sam's ability to protect their own boundaries decides which group they fall into.

I believe for Group 1 Sam it would be normal to do minor and even major sacrifices for the good of others because they know through their experience that it will be rewarded in some way or another down the line. It is The Right Thing To Do.