The Random Quill

Took a lot of  inner strength (which is highly lacking) to write this... 

Last week I came across a canvas piece (which by the way, I am totally DIY-ing) that read:

Dear destiny, I am ready now. This really got me thinking . I have changed a lot during the last 7 years, I have been through stuff, good and bad - which has shaped me into who I am today. Although at times it felt as though I was treading water, barely staying afloat I am lucky enough to have been blessed with an awesome family and some great friends because without them I would have most definitely drowned.  I am turning 25 soon (Quarter of a century! YEAH!) and even though my life isn't anywhere I had imagined it to be, I am sure this is where I am supposed to be – it just feels right. 

I feel ready, ready to take on new challenges, to start living instead of existing, to be a leader not a follower. To show the haters and all those who tried to bring me down that I am a new woman. Back and stronger than ever before. I am ready to start swimming instead of treading water.

Love,

Elle xxx

I forgot to post this here... Last weeks blog about Mondays, and why I don't like them... http://therandomquill.blogspot.com/2013/09/moandays.html

She knew a kiss would ruin everything but she just couldn't resist. She had always had a crush on him, but whenever she was single he wasn't and when they were both single... well- she just didn't have the courage to tell him. 

  Hundreds of thoughts running through her head and in her heart; feelings she had never felt before. Would confronting him ruin their relationship? They had been friends for over 7 years and even though they didn't see each other often they would still keep in touch. What if he didn't feel that way? Would this result in them no longer being friends? How would her fiancé feel when or if she told him she kissed another man?  

  She bolted to the bathroom, let her beautiful wavy long hair down, applied some of her favourite red lipgloss, another stroke of mascara and ran back out hoping she'd sum up the courage to go through it all but..

♥ A few items on my wishlist. Full blog post here: http://therandomquill.blogspot.com/2013/09/dream-on-dreamer.html 

Meet the blogger. 

Hey everyone! So yeah, I decided you should all meet the person behind the posts/thoughts. Here's a little more information about me:

Name: Elaine  Age: 24 Country: Malta

Hobbies: Travelling / Photography / Make-Up / Theatre / Blogging / Fashion / Video Games

I'm an easy going, typical girl with a little twist here and there. I love everything which has to do with nature and animals. I studied English and Philosophy but currently work as a Risk and Fraud Analyst. I enjoy travelling - Some of the places I've been to include Tunisia / Norway / London / Amsterdam / Italy / Austria / Germany / France. I'm also currently studying to become a JW. I live for my family and friends.  My flaws: I tend to be insecure and stress out over the littlest things. (OH, and I'm an instagram and hashtag addict) #guiltyascharged

Well, enough about me..hope you enjoy my posts. 

Too often in life, people will disappoint you.  They will break promises. They will abandon you.

Needless to say, when someone leaves us we feel hurt; We think life is nothing but a downward spiral. We end up getting angry with the people around us and even ourselves.

So what must we do to keep moving forward? STOP - UNDERSTAND - MOVE ON.

We all have plenty of other people who care about us and who love us unconditionally. So we just have to forget the ones that forget us. 

*Plenty other fish in the sea*

I never really know what I am going to find when my facebook newsfeed pops up. I love catching up with my friends but sometimes it gets a little bit too much and I am seriously contemplating on deleting my facebook account. Why? Simply because some people abuse their facebook privileges by sharing every single meal, thought, conversation, and the most annoying of them all; their relationship drama. Now don't get me wrong, if you do this rationally then I have no problem with it at all.

Statuses about feeling sad, depressed etc - That is what a real friend is for, contrary to popular belief Facebook is not your friend! It is merely a tool that exposes all of your business to hundreds of people. I hate when people complain about missing their ex boyfriend/girlfriend; move on, get a hobby, be independent and don't write about it on Facebook. It is important to remember that when your arguments are over, your moods have altered and your breakups are finished, your entire network still remembers it and will probably gossip about it later. The worse statuses/changes: Just went from 'In a relationship' to 'single' 'Single' to 'In an open relationship.' -What are we supposed to say? Are we supposed to 'like' this? What comments are you looking for? If you're changing your relationship status every other week, it says something about you. You're probably unstable, or at least that's what most of your Facebook friends think. Unless you're engaged, it would probably be best to just leave it out.

'Can't believe we are no longer together. 'I miss him' 'Crying myself to sleep' -Pathetic and silly. If you really want to get your message across to that one person just send a text or call them. Do not share it will all your followers. Discussing your relationship issues with your close friends is ok. But I doubt you have hundreds of confidants. If you're having issues and you need to vent, talk to a good friend. But keep the details away from the masses.

Moral of this blog: Private things should stay private. Get a journal, call a friend or go to therapy, but please stay away from the Internet. Your social network will thank you.

As the title already implies, this is a blog post dedicated to my mother; Louise. (Mum, go grab the tissues before you continue reading). YES- I know her too well. We have grown up in the loving arms of our mothers. No one loves us and understands us like our mothers. If someone walked up to me and asks “Who is the best woman in your life ?” I will surely say; my mother. She is my friend, my big sister, my listener. She is kind, loving, affectionate, responsive, giving, and unselfish. I can share all my problems and stories with her. Whether I am happy, sad, stressed- Mum is always by my side. She is my greatest gift; the best mother in the world. No one can ever replace her. She is an amazing cook, and that’s not just coming from me and the rest of my family. Many comment on how good her food is. Her special ingredient? Love! She can handle a ton and helps out with everything. I remember her staying up super late to add final touches to my school projects, making sure I get the highest mark possible. She always seems to have the right answers for anything I ask. She pushes me to reach my goals, yet does not interfere to the point where it becomes annoying. She has the ability to recognise when she is wrong.

I have learned so much from her, and I hope to be like her, if not more. I want my future family to grow up much like I have, because it has been an amazing ride. So, thank you mum :)  Love you always xxx

“Being a woman is a terribly difficult task, since it consists principally in dealing with men.” 

― Joseph Conrad

Some women do not identify theirselves via their femininity; and that is perfectly fine. There are so many things a woman can offer. There's nothing wrong with being feminine, or masculine, - we all have our preferences. Becoming a feminine woman starts from your inner core, and works its way to your exterior.

1. SMILE. 

A smile can be the sexiest curve on a woman's body. Every loves people who smile. Now of course, don't fake it. A genuine smile is refreshing and unfortunately it is also quite rare. We are all so caught up in our everyday lives that we tend to forget to smile. There are so many things one can smile about. 

2. Appreciate the littlest things.

Someone hold the door open for you? Show appreciation. Doesn't take much to say thank you. It also shows that you have manners. Let's face it, if you do not have manners you cannot be classed as a lady.

3. FACT-You are not always right.

Now of course, we are all entitled to opinions but sometimes we take it a step too far. Biting your tongue can sometimes avoid petty arguments. The need to be right does NOT display ones femine enery. Stop criticizing other people's methods, especially when speaking to men. It makes them feel emasculated and well, to be frank it can be a huge turn-off. We wouldn't like it if they did the same to us right?

4. Free yourself; show your feelings.

Let go of your limits, get out of your head for a while. A true woman makes decisions based on what she feels. If something feels right, let it in. Need to cry? Let it out! You'll notice a huge difference in yourself when you are free.

5.Be vulnerable.

Women generally care about everything and keep their hearts open. Granted you might get hurt along the way but no matter the pain, a woman would rather have had her heart broken than live life on the slow/boring lane. Being vulnerable does not have to be scary. 

6. Embrace your body.

Your body is what makes you a woman. So how can you be feminine if you do not embrace your female form? Love your body by taking care of it. Be healthy. 

FACT: A woman's body naturally has a higher body fat percentage than that of a man, so don't dismiss your curves.

7. Confidence.

Having confidence will not only make you stand out from the crowd, it will also help you to be more independent and outstanding. Never give up on yourself, ever. 

8. Be classy.

Being elegant in all aspect of your life makes you a lady. This can be reflected in your way of dressing, walking and talking. Sit up straight; you wouldn't walk across a room to a man slouching in his chair now would you?

So to wrap things up, I love being a woman! We get to enjoy a wide variety of wardrobe choices. Wear make-up. We are proven to be better multi-taskers. We don't have to wear a suit at a Summer wedding, we can wear our boyfriends/ dad's / brothers clothes and still look good and last but not least, on average we live up to 7 years longer than men.

Elle xx