I met Mark in college in 2005 when we were in a mutual club together. I thought he was super cute and made up an excuse to talk to him. Little did I know, he was always staring at me and wanted to talk to me too. His circle of friends accepted me in and we hung out regularly. One of the guys there, Evan, liked me, so Mark backed off of flirting with me. I took it as he wasn’t really interested any more. When Evan confessed his feelings to me, I had to have the difficult conversation of telling him I only liked him as a friend. He threw a temper tantrum and basically cut me out of the group. Mark and I remained friends but didn’t talk as regularly, and neither one of us confessed any feelings.

In 2008, we were drunk at a bar during a college reunion and we kissed. That year, he got married and I got into in a long-term relationship. We lost touch for a while.

When my ex and I broke up in 2013, Mark and I started talking regularly again as friends. I learned Mark was really unhappy in his marriage and was planning on leaving her. He confessed he has been in love with me for almost a decade, and asked if we could meet up once his divorce was finalized. I told him I would support him as a friend through his divorce, and was open to seeing where things went afterwards. I think we both have always been curious what would have happened and the timing was finally working out.

Then, right as he was making arrangements with his lawyer, his wife found out she was pregnant. He suddenly dropped the whole idea and stayed with her for their baby. He started sending me sexual pictures and texts and asked me to be his mistress. We lived 2 hours away, and he told me he would rent me an apartment near him. I told him I could never be someone’s “other woman” and am worth so much more than that. He started sleeping with one of his ex’s on the side, while his wife was pregnant. The reality of who he was came out. I feel bad for his wife.

I got married in 2015 and he would text me as a friend for small talk and catching up. He recently started crossing the line again, telling me I’m his ultimate dream girl and he would leave his wife for me, that it wasn’t worth staying with her for their son any more. He said he wanted to kick my husband’s ass and would treat me better than he does (my husband is amazing and treats me great btw).

How did that work?

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