The (consensual) lovers of Demeter
Pretty much every source that mentions Persephone states that her parents are Demeter and Zeus. Iâve seen some people claim that Zeus raped Demeter, but this is only true in Orphism, where he rapes Rhea-Demeter (yes, theyâre the same deity here) and conceives Persephone. In mainstream Greek religion, thereâs no indication that he assaulted her.
â[Calypso]: So it was when Demeter of the braided tresses followed her heart and lay in love with Iasion in the triple-furrowed field; Zeus was aware of it soon enough and hurled the bright thunderbolt and killed him.â- Homer, Odyssey
âDemeter, bright goddess, was joined in sweet love with the hero Iasion in a thrice-ploughed fallow in the rich land of Crete, and bare Ploutos, a kindly god who goes everywhere over land and the sea's wide back, and him who finds him and into whose hands he comes he makes rich, bestowing great wealth upon him.â- Hesiod, Theogony
âAurora grumbled at her husband's [Tithonos'] age, and gentle Ceres that Iasion was going grey.â- Ovid, Metamorphoses
âHermippus [Greek writer C3rd B.C.], who wrote about the stars, says that Ceres lay with Iasion, son of Thuscus. Many agree with Homer that for this he was struck with a thunderbolt. From them, as Petellides, Cretan writer of histories, shows, two sons were born, Philomelus and Plutus.â- Pseudo-Hyginus, Astronomica
However, other sources (Pseudo-Apollodorusâ Bibliotheca; Straboâs Geography) claim that Iasion tried to assault Demeter and was killed by Zeus for it. In these accounts, obviously, he would not be her lover.
âAs for the corn poppy (papaver): either because it grows in summer, like wheat; or because Ceres used it to forget her griefâfor, distressed by sleeplessness over the abduction of Proserpina, she tasted it and was driven into sleep; or because Ceres loved Mecon, an Athenian, and after he was transformed into a poppy, she ordered it to be preserved under her protection; or because it is sprinkled on bread.â- Servius on Virgil's Georgics 1.212
So, I found this weird story:
âConcerning Theseus, 2.19 (Story 51)
Theseus was a son of Attic Aegeus and Aethra,
But they used to say that when Theseus was manly, he was a boy of Poseidon;
For they say that all high spirited men together, and all manly
Sons and friends, are lovers of Poseidon.
Theseus once agreed with his friend Pirithous
To seize from Zeus, that is, Zeus the king,
Some girl, and marry her; and at some time, having gone
To a place within the land of the Molossians, whose king was Hades,
Of whom the wife was Demeter and the daughter was called Kore
(For the Molossians call all attractive females girls),
And the dog was a threefold Cerberus, causing a shudder from its size;
During the night, they made their attempt to take Hadesâ daughter.
But soon they were detained, and Pirithous was eaten
By threefold Cerberus the dog, while Theseus is held fast in a prison.
And as Heracles at some time came to even Hades,
Ordered by Eurystheus to carry away the dog,
He also immediately freed Theseus from his bonds;
Wherefore they said that the latter man ran back from Hades.â- John Tzetzes, Chiliades
This myth is really odd. Poseidon goes from being Theseusâ father to his lover, and Hades goes from being Persephoneâs husband to her father. This seems like a case of Hades-Zeus syncretism rather than actual proof of a Hades/Demeter relationship, but Iâm including it nonetheless because itâs fun.
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ÏÎčΌ᜔ÏÎżÎčÏ áŒÎœ áŒÎŽÏαÎčÏ Îș.Ï.λ.: inasmuch as Dionysus is throned with Demeter; at any rate there are some who say that he was the son of Persephone, and others that he was married to Demeter, and others that Iacchus was different from Dionysus, and others that he was the same. Several notes are here run together in a way which makes it impossible to reconstruct them with any degree of certainty.â- Scholia to Aristophanesâ Frogs
Iacchus is linked to Demeter in many different, but equally mysterious, ways: sometimes as her son, sometimes her husband, sometimes her grandson, and sometimes simply as a figure worshipped alongside her.
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I didnât include Poseidon for obvious reasons. Iâve also seen people list Karmanor and Midas as her lovers, but I canât find any source stating thisâif you know of one, please share!