kade

one thing i find strange about TERFism and trans-criticism is how much of it is just attractiveness politics. it seems to be the leading talking point. sure, make your points on sexual dimorphism or biological sex differences (which any normal trans woman is fully aware of already, mind you. the average transsexual is not claiming she’s experiencing period cramps lol) but so much anti-trans discourse seems to just be “well you’re ugly so you’re not a woman and i feel unsafe.” which seems…. so counter-productive to your movement. trans women, like any group of people, are nowhere near exempt from criticism, but what is the point of putting so much emphasis on such an empty and invalid viewpoint? so much of feminism seems to hark on how men only respect women they find attractive, yet the majority of your breath is spent on here pointing out physical characteristics that you seemingly think invalidate someone’s identity. how does having broad shoulders, a wide jaw, and a five o’clock shadow somehow equate to being a predatory rapist? it’s a mindset i’ve never understood. obviously it’s prevalent outside trans discourse, people just generally seem to equate ugliness with evilness, but you would think a group of individuals who posture themselves steeped and rooted in theory and academics wouldn’t weaponize such a vapid and vague talking point. (not to say only terfs do it, your average Internet Man absolutely loves to dunk on the fuckability of any given trans woman at any given time, but….. fork found in kitchen.) idk, i’ve just always found it odd. like i’m sorry but i just don’t buy into the idea that you’re supposed to be reasonably terrified of someone in a public bathroom because you think they’re ugly. i think you might just be an asshole.

hello friendly reminder that you do not need a special occasion to use nice things! if you wait long enough your nice bath bomb won't be as fizzy! your favourite fruits will go out of season! candles are meant to be burned, not looked at! you're not enjoying your special tea if it's just sitting in your cupboard! you're allowed to have nice and special things on completely ordinary days! heck, it might just make that day special!!

Leviticus really said yes life will be harder because I choose to be with you but I choose to be with you despite it all

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can I get a job as an editor but the only thing I do is correct when someone uses the word "prone" when they mean "supine"

i need a pov of ryan dealing with the entity naim so bad

i need so much more of these two asap :< i love them so muchhhhh

no but why is nobody talking about how at the roller skating rink, when ryan bolted from the photobooth bloody and bruised and wild-eyed, he says to naim: please, don't make me tell anyone. he doesn't know anything about demons or entities that wear other people's faces. It's just naim who is hurting him, the new boy in town with the sad eyes and hunched shoulders, who keeps coming around his place with the temptation of a tenderness he desperately wants to believe he deserves. But naim keeps changing. He keeps hurting him, and not their usual tussling--friendly punches and wrestling eachother to the ground just for the excuse to touch. Naim goes dead-eyed and cold and hurts him like he means it. and even though he doesn't understand, has no context for why naim is torturing him this way, he refuses to tell anyone. because he knows what happens to boys like them. the ritual is still fresh in his memory; his throat closing up, writhing on the floor while everyone watched as he vomited and twitched and choked. I don't want that to happen to you. I want you safe but you're hurting me. Why are you hurting me? I don't understand why you keep doing this, but you can hit me and choke me and hurt me again and again and I still don't want you to suffer like I did. Please, don't make me tell anyone.

so who’s ready for loser queer summer

meee

reading reviews and tags of backrooms (2026) makes me so fucking angry omfg. did the message go over everyone’s head????? cycles of abuse????? the immorality of the psychiatric and medical systems???? the horrors of being a woman in patriarchal society???? the horrors of being an abuse victim trying to navigate the world?????? the consequences of trying to ‘fix people’, especially men as a woman, and especially abusers as a survivor????? how trying to fix the abusive system you live under using the tools of that same system doesn’t work??????? how destructive enabling abusive behaviour, even as part of healing to ‘fix’ an abuser, can be????? is anyone listening or do you only care about the random white man!???!?!!!?????

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