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Women: Here's how to avoid abusive and toxic men and know your worth if you're still gonna try dating straight men

There is no clear line between good men and bad men. We can't point to certain men and say "oh, you were bullied for femininity? You get a special exception card then - Can't possibly be one of the bad ones".

To create this distinction between good and bad men and then place the bar for entry on the floor means predators can and will step over it.

Jonathan Yaniv would have been a predator whether he pretended to be trans or not - True. But would his claims that marginalised immigrant women discriminated against him by refusing to wax his balls have been entertained in court in the first place? Absolutely not. Would those women he victimised have lost their legal rights to operate and gone into debt? Absolutely not. Would they have been too terrified to speak out if we ensured that women could call a predatory man a man?

'Karen White', convicted sex offender, raped multiple women in UK prisons. He would not have had access to women had he been placed according to his sex. These victims were collateral for a stupid experiment. We already knew that men are much more often sexual predators than women. We already knew who the targets of his hate crimes were.

The Wi Spa predator would have been told to leave the ladies changing area as soon as people saw a man in there. Women would not have to wait until assaults are already being perpetrated to kick the elephant out of the room. They would have the power to demand this without fear of getting sued or arrested.

The argument is not "are transwomen all evil" but "why do we provide an exception for some men when 10 years ago we were shutting down "not all men" rhetoric"?

Anyone else heard this from their parents/close ones after getting an autism diagnosis as an adult?

I sure did.

Then I look back at my teenage years and remember how my English teacher gave the class details of a fake murder mystery as a writing prompt. But he didn't explicitly say it was made up or call it a writing prompt.

So I misunderstood the assignment and spent 2 weeks in my local library researching only to prove that the murder couldn't have happened as he had described...

i.e. "female scientists", "female songwriters".

Not "this female was talking to me", "females often do X"

Like. I was advocating for recognition of gender-as-a-separate-from-sex before some of you were even born, but I still know transwomen are male and think that's relevant statistically so I guess I should choke and die or something lol?