Dorian Bleu

so, all athletes should immediately stop playing sports. construction workers, anyone with jobs that put them at risk, they need to find different employment. people with uteruses shouldn’t ever get pregnant, either. actually you know what? don’t enter a car or vehicle at all! and don’t even get me started on old people. what age do we think they should just give it up & throw in the towel? 50? 60? after that they become way too burdensome. it’s a problem.

Feeders with praise kinks.

I did not hit the self-destruct button! I was silenced! I’m officially an INTERNET FUGITIVE! this is my initial post just getting the word out, sorry if it’s a bit rushed and panicky - I’m trying not to get too worked up over it and just get this out there as efficiently as possible, but I’m the user behind @fatliberation. I am posting this from my feed1sm community blog, which was initially a safe haven for me to reach directly to the feed1st community without the scrutiny of non-feed1sts. luckily, it was not attached to the account that got terminated. go figure! I’ve sent an appeal request to tumblr, but I am doubtful that my blog will be reinstated because feed1sm is officially against tumblr’s community guidelines. yes, this is discrimination. here’s why feed1sm is not a fucking eating disorder.

obviously, I’m in extreme distress over this, because I did not have any of my work backed up. I’m devastated to have lost the hundreds of asks sitting in my inbox, the lists of resources I’ve compiled, and the six years worth of work in the form of replies and essays.

I know that much of my work is still out there on each of your individual blogs as reblogs. I might eventually try to organize a combing operation for specific posts so that some of it can be saved.

I don’t know where I’m going from here, but I will send updates from this blog. I will most likely make my own website with a domain that I own, but it will take me awhile. as many of you know, I’ve worked through a brick wall of deep-rooted shame to get to this point, so my blog being terminated on the account of promoting a culture of harm has caused my brain to backslide into shame-land. I’m experiencing anxiety and doubts about my character that haven’t come up in years. this termination happened during a time where I was taking a break from posting because my mental health was already on unstable ground. so it all kind of came crashing in on me. I’m okay. my friends are here for me. I know that it will take me a minute to get back up from this, but I am not going anywhere.

THEY CAN’T KEEP THIS BAD FATTY DOWN!

🐋✊⛓️‍💥

If you’re reading this, please spread this post around so my people can find me. my ko-fi account still lives.

I hope that even though much of it has been lost, the footprint it left will live on. running that blog has changed my life in immeasurable ways. getting to interact and learn from you all brought me community, acceptance, and love. I cannot express my gratitude to everyone who has supported me, and who stood behind me when I became vocal about feed1sm. you mean the world to me. I refuse to be silenced. my only ask is that you please keep spreading and circulating the fat liberation flag.

so. I’m wiping my tears and trying to think of this as rebirth. wherever I go from here, I won’t have to worry about censorship. when I got the news that it was all gone, the first thing that came to mind was this scene from pixar’s up.

In the end, it’s just a blog.

In liberation,

I did not hit the self-destruct button! I was silenced! I’m officially an INTERNET FUGITIVE! this is my initial post just getting the word out, sorry if it’s a bit rushed and panicky - I’m trying not to get too worked up over it and just get this out there as efficiently as possible, but I’m the user behind @fatliberation. I am posting this from my feed1sm community blog, which was initially a safe haven for me to reach directly to the feed1st community without the scrutiny of non-feed1sts. luckily, it was not attached to the account that got terminated. go figure! I’ve sent an appeal request to tumblr, but I am doubtful that my blog will be reinstated because feed1sm is officially against tumblr’s community guidelines. yes, this is discrimination. here’s why feed1sm is not a fucking eating disorder.

obviously, I’m in extreme distress over this, because I did not have any of my work backed up. I’m devastated to have lost the hundreds of asks sitting in my inbox, the lists of resources I’ve compiled, and the six years worth of work in the form of replies and essays.

I know that much of my work is still out there on each of your individual blogs as reblogs. I might eventually try to organize a combing operation for specific posts so that some of it can be saved.

I don’t know where I’m going from here, but I will send updates from this blog. I will most likely make my own website with a domain that I own, but it will take me awhile. as many of you know, I’ve worked through a brick wall of deep-rooted shame to get to this point, so my blog being terminated on the account of promoting a culture of harm has caused my brain to backslide into shame-land. I’m experiencing anxiety and doubts about my character that haven’t come up in years. this termination happened during a time where I was taking a break from posting because my mental health was already on unstable ground. so it all kind of came crashing in on me. I’m okay. my friends are here for me. I know that it will take me a minute to get back up from this, but I am not going anywhere.

THEY CAN’T KEEP THIS BAD FATTY DOWN!

🐋✊⛓️‍💥

If you’re reading this, please spread this post around so my people can find me. my ko-fi account still lives.

I hope that even though much of it has been lost, the footprint it left will live on. running that blog has changed my life in immeasurable ways. getting to interact and learn from you all brought me community, acceptance, and love. I cannot express my gratitude to everyone who has supported me, and who stood behind me when I became vocal about feed1sm. you mean the world to me. I refuse to be silenced. my only ask is that you please keep spreading and circulating the fat liberation flag.

so. I’m wiping my tears and trying to think of this as rebirth. wherever I go from here, I won’t have to worry about censorship. when I got the news that it was all gone, the first thing that came to mind was this scene from pixar’s up.

In the end, it’s just a blog.

In liberation,

Like I mean food is such a shared human experience it’s sad to see it that aspect vanish like I mean you still used to have to call pizza places and stuff to place an order but now we got “leave at door” culture. Even the touch screens at fast food places are a bit much.

I feel like it inherently adds to the aspect of shame around food like if you eat you should be hiding from others, your order should be a secret and solo experience.

I really don’t know if this makes sense but like it’s sad that the ritual of ordering food is being buried in a culture of shame and telling us as consumers something to hide

Instead, because the rich decided we aren't profitable & not worth investing in, it's not safe for me to be in public. People don't see people like me, because we have to protect ourselves, and so they don't think of us.

Okay, we’ve all seen the hate gainers sometimes get if they announce that they’ve decided to lose weight. And for every hate message, there’s always the handful of comments with some variation of “good on you for choosing to do what you want with your body. I support you no matter what! It’s okay to lose weight!”

But ~hold on~ – outside of kink spaces, we know that congratulating someone on losing weight perpetuates the false idea that intentional weight loss is always healthy, encourages people with eating disorders to normalize and continue their disordered behaviors, and reinforces the dominant messaging that wanting a smaller body is something to be congratulated no matter what.

At the same time, we really care about the gainers in our community and don't want to just stand by when we see harmful and abusive comments. So what are some things we could say instead to counter those voices giving them shit for deciding to stop gaining?

To the shitty anons:

“We don’t police people’s bodies in this community.”

“Everyone belongs in our community as long as they respect others’ boundaries, consent, and autonomy.”

“That’s pretty entitled to tell someone they have to do something just because it’s your kink.”

“Mind your own fucking business.”

"lmao you think people have to be constantly gaining to be gainers?? mid"

To a partner or friend:

“I care about you no matter what your body size is.”

"I'm here for you if you want to talk more about how you've been feeling about (gaining/this kink/body image stuff/health stuff/etc.)."

Especially if they’ve disclosed to you they have a history of disordered eating: “Thank you for telling me. To be honest though, it makes me worry because I know you’ve struggled with staying in a mentally and physically healthy place when you’ve tried to lose weight in the past. What are your thoughts about that?”

To an acquaintance or stranger on the internet:

Nothing!

It is actually entirely possible and fine to say nothing!

Just like when your aunt talks about a new fad diet she’s trying, you can do the online equivalent of nodding politely and giving a good ole noncommittal “hm” before changing the subject, which is to not comment at all just keep on scrolling.

Weight loss announcements don't need to be fed any kind of attention, especially when you don’t have any background on the baggage that might be associated with weight loss for an acquaintance or stranger on the internet! And the internet stranger may not even need or want your personal intervention to defend their weight loss.

"You're still a gainer/feedee if you're not able to maintain your weight 100% of the time or keep up a constant growth for your entire life; that's an unrealistic expectation to put on yourself and others."

"Feeders and encouragers are not entitled to feedees' and gainers' bodies and don't get to make the rules for what they should be doing with their bodies."

"Sometimes we don't have control over what our bodies do when it comes to weight, such as with medical conditions or medications, and that has no bearing on how welcome someone is in this community or whether they're 'allowed to' show, celebrate, or express their sexuality with their body."

"Both celebrating and being openly judgemental toward specific individuals about weight loss are not welcome in this community, as they shouldn't be anywhere else, too. Don't harass people for their decisions about their body or treat them like a sex object who has betrayed you, personally, if you don't like the decision they are making about their body. Fat people are forced to live in an extremely fatphobic environment with a lot of complex forces pressuring them to lose weight and are often put in coercive, impossible decisions by people who have power over them."

"There are choices, support, and resources out there (and within this community) if you feel like you have no choice but to go along with the pressures of your fatphobic environment - and even if you really have no choice than to capitulate to oppression for your safety, we're still here for you."