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Not everything you will be learning will be true, kind, or in the best interest of the person in question. Not every medication or surgical procedure is truly necessary.

Please listen to the communities you are learning to treat. Please do not take things at face value. Please understand that many of these studies have biases within them and are not 100% reliable.

Prioritize autonomy and consent. Understand that no condition or variation inherently makes someone right or wrong. Understand that there is no such thing as a "good body/mind" or "bad body/mind", but just a body/mind that has different needs.

Remember, for most conditions/variations, a "cure" is unnecessary. Usually treatments or accommodations are a better route.

Thought crime doesn’t exist. No one has ever been harmed or killed by someone thinking negative thoughts about them. 

You know what has harmed people though? Teaching them they are evil for things they can’t control. Especially those who have intrusive thoughts. 

Here’s for everyone who has been taught their thoughts make them evil.

Intrusive thoughts are not your secret desires. 

They are involuntary. 

You don’t need to be ashamed of them. 

They will pass.

You are not committing taboo. 

No one can read your mind.

No one will ever know what’s in your thoughts unless you feel like telling them.

No one can judge you for what you are thinking, whether voluntarily or involuntarily.

Your thoughts are private

• Friendly reminder bæddel, hermaphrodite, & futa are all slurs no matter the context.

• Intersex doesn't mean having a penis and vagina/cosexual/bigenital.

• When trans people go on about how "cis people get gender affirming care" "cis people get puberty blockers/hormones" etc, you are talking about intersex people. And most of the time we don't have the autonomy granted to us to choose. The same system oppresses us and forces us into the status quo. The only difference is for intersex people they are medically forced into one sex category, for the peritrans they are denied medical things to keep them in society's binaries. It's a lack of autonomy.

• IGM (intersex genital mutilation) is when doctors decide to genitally change intersex babies. These surgeries are only cosmetic, meaning the doctors do not care about how it functions, just the look.

• Every single anti trans law has made an exception for intersex people so they can continue oppressing us.

• Lying about being intersex doesn't make you safer. You as a trans dude lying about having gynemastica isn't making you safer. Intersex people are treated just as badly.

• Intersex people are still raped & mutilated by the medical system (yes even in '1st world' countries) and it's common practice.

• A species cannot be "all intersex", as being intersex refers to variations in ones sex.

• Whenever you see a "nonbinary" animal, it's usually just an intersex animal.

• Intersex people are not assigned "intersex" at birth, We usually still have AGABs, as AGAB was original used by doctors to refer to us. Additionally, an intersex person may be reassigned throughout life.

• SIG refers to socially imposed gender, for many intersex people they have an inconsistent socially imposed gender.

The person saying it’s ableist to use disfigured or deformed because it’s “bad” feels exactly like how my friend said she doesn’t wanna use the word disease because it sounds “bad”

Like I have Addison’s disease. It’s an autoimmune disease. I told her it isn’t bad, or hurtful, that it’s right terminology. But she still always says she won’t say it because it feels mean. Like no! I’m not bad for being diseased! I’m not bad for having my body kill off my own organs! Like it’s hurtful to me that you see me having a disease as bad. You’re being more hurtful by avoiding calling me what I am because it makes you uncomfortable.

There is nothing wrong with being mentally ill. Schizophrenia is a mental thing and it is an illness. That makes it a mental illness. You’re just ableist if you think there’s something wrong about that.

-bonus this same friend also called someone delusional for spiritual beliefs!! (And made it seem like a negative thing). She’s also doing schizophrenia as her final psychology project. So I am not excited for that.

Mental illness isn’t a bad word.

Disease isn’t a bad word

Disabled isn’t a bad word

[PT: What kinds of posts trigger moral & checking OCD (and psychosis)? /End PT]

So many people write and reblog posts that have very direct triggers towards folks with moral & checking OCD. Here are posts NOT to make/reblog.

To get the terminology out of the way - moral OCD is a condition in which a person becomes obsessed about doing something "morally wrong", and develops compulsive behaviors over it. Checking OCD is a condition in which a person becomes obsessed over checking over their own (or others) actions, as to avoid a perceived disaster, and develops compulsions around it.

Do NOT make/reblog posts with phrases such as:

"Reblog/donate/share or else you are letting me/someone I know die/suffer." "Reblog or else you're [insert bad thing]"/"Reblog if you're not [insert bad thing]"

^If it is an urgent donation post that you feel deserves to be shared, at the very least, add "tw reblog bait" and "tw OCD trigger."

"Reblog/like/comment/share or else [insert creature] will find you/stalk you/come into your house/etc" "[Insert thing] is coming to your location. You cannot stop it. It will be outside your window soon"/"[Insert thing] is in your walls."

^These ones can also trigger hallucinations, delusions, and paranoia in people with schizospec disorders/psychosis! It may seem like a "haha funny meme" to you, but to people with OCD or psychosis, they could fret heavily over this, and wonder if they are going to be in danger if they don't reblog/like/comment/share.

"It is illegal to be/have [insert thing here]." (Example: "It is illegal to be nonqueer during pride month", "it is illegal to have internalized ableism during disability pride month", etc.)

"If you think hateful thoughts about yourself, and you're queer, that's queerphobic, and it's illegal to be queerphobic during pride month!"

How about we not make straight queers* feel guilty and paranoid about being "not queer enough" during pride month? (*Aspec straights, trans & gender diverse straights, intersex straights, lesbihets, turihets, m-specs straights, polyamorous hets, nonrose hets, etc, etc, etc?)

How about we not make people with internalized queerphobia feel guilty for intrusive thoughts?

How about we stop making a billion posts encouraging moral OCD during pride month?