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We’ve talked quite extensively about the benefits in having your partner wear diapers 24/7 (or as close as possible) for their mental health and your relationship.

But getting to 24/7 or having diapers as their default underwear isn’t super easy especially in the first few weeks. Many people reading this will have tried 24/7 and managed a week or two before it fell apart or watched their partner say they want to try 24/7, start and then silently let it slip away a week or so in.

This is where you as a partner to a diaper wearer can make a critical difference and ensure it’s a success in the long term.

But first some hard truths about 24/7:

- It would sometimes be a lot easier for them to not wear a diaper

- It add extra planning and inconveniences to trips out of the house

- Sometimes things can get smelly or embarrassing

- Throwing on underwear would be quicker when they’re in a rush

- They will sometimes not want to wear a diaper or feel shame/regrets about the whole 24/7 idea

So how can you help?

Internalize the idea that they NEED to wear diapers and this is a PERMANENT thing.

If you’re hoping this is just a phase and don’t really want them to succeed in going 24/7 it most likely won’t but your relationship will likely suffer as a consequence.

Also try reset your expectation of them to being that they wear diapers all the time and they need them to avoid accidents.

Provide consistent encouragement, especially in the first month

It’s extremely likely they will be feeling worried & anxious about how you are finding them being 24/7 and will be plagued by all the fears they’d had growing up about having these desires.

Being silently ok with it isn’t enough and they’ll probably just assume you’re hating it & them. So make sure to provide encouragement to them for wearing and using their diapers.

There are several areas of encouragement to provide:

1. Acknowledge their diapers as being normal.
Tell them you’ve laid out a fresh diaper for them in the morning, ask if they’ve packed a diaper bag before leaving the house, ask if they need to order more diapers or if you should pick up more baby powder when shopping.


2. Provide praise for wearing diapers.
Tell them that diaper looks cute on them and that you’re glad they’re now wearing all the time. Check they’re wearing a diaper when they get into bed or when you leave the house and say something like good boy/girl for wearing it. If you see a public restroom or have to go yourself mention that they’re lucky they’re wearing their toilet (this makes my baby blush)


3. Provide praise for them using their diapers.
Talk about the state of their diaper in a positive way for example saying “I’m glad to see this diaper held all of your pee ok” or “remember you should just let go straight away now you’re in diapers”.

Messy diapers will likely cause them the most anxiety so be extra aware in those situations and don’t just ignore it. If you detect a messy diaper acknowledge it with something like “Is that a messy diaper I can smell” or “I think someone might need a change” it can be slightly embarrassing but just saying something shows that you’re not surprised or annoyed they’ve messed.

If you haven’t noticed a messy diaper in a day or two, ask them if they’ve need some help to use their diaper and tell them explicitly that you expect them to use it for everything. Administering a suppository to help force the issue can also be a great way to show you’re serious.


4. Assure them it is discreet.
A fear when wearing diapers 24/7 is other people noticing as often they’ll be wearing in public more than before. Provide simple assurances that their diapers are discreet and that even you struggle to tell.

Even an obvious diaper bulge to you would go unnoticed by the vast majority of people so a small white lie to give them confidence will help a lot even if you can just see the outline of it. Interestingly the more confident they are the less likely others will notice as they wont be touching their bum etc out of fear it might be noticeable.


5. Make it clear this is permanent 
Them wearing diapers 24/7 is now the new normal and you should make sure they know you’ve accepted and expect that.
Talk about diapered plans far into the future, for example if you have a vacation coming up in a few months mention that you’ll need to make sure to order enough to last or discuss if shipping diapers to the hotel is the best option.

Start discussions with confirmation of this reality, e.g. “Now that you’re going to be in diapers for the rest of your life…
…maybe we should convert the guest room into a changing area”
…lets look into laser hair removal for your groin”
…we should order diapers in bulk”
…I’m going to throw away your old underwear”

Tell them things like “It’s funny to think you’ll never use the toilet in the house again” or “I’ve got used to the fact you’re now always going to be in a diaper”, or “I wonder how long it will be before you lose control at night and in the daytime”

You’ll like notice a positive improvement so assure them you’re happy they’re now 24/7:
“Things have been better now your always in diapers so I’m glad this is permanent”
“I can’t imagine you without diapers now “
“I’m keeping you in diapers from now on, I hope you know that”

Be prepared to “force” them to wear

I can almost guarantee that one day you’ll see them putting on underwear instead of a diaper or realize they’re not diapered when they should be.

Do not be silent. Tell them in no uncertain terms that they need to be wearing a diaper and to get changed immediately, ideally take them and diaper them yourself.

Equally something might come up where they ask if they can not wear a diaper. Maybe you’re going out for the day or some other activity where diaper wearing will be more inconvenient. Push back heavily on this unless it was a pre-agreed exception and tell them no, they must be wearing a diaper.

The other high risk time is post orgasm especially in male partners. The low following this is prime for feelings of shame and regret, so even if they don’t say anything make sure to put them straight back into a diaper and provide positive encouragement about their diaper wearing.

Be prepared for challenges

While you’re both getting used to the new reality of 24/7 it’s very likely some things might go wrong.

Their diaper will probably leak at some point onto clothes or furniture, try laugh these off and learn from them.

Their messy diaper might cause you to react instinctively in a way they perceive as disgust and cause them to feel ashamed. Counter this quickly by apologising and assuring them you do want them to use their diaper for everything.

They might forget to bring a spare diaper with them on a day trip and need to change. Ideally you should approach a problem like this with the mindset that they need diapers so just changing out of it isn’t an option. Go into a drugstore with them and buy some more diapers to wear as a temporary measure, the embarrassment of this will likely help you both make sure a diaper bag is always with you.

Normalize diaper wearing in your house

Now they’re diapered 24/7 and the expectation is they need diapers and use them, it shouldn’t feel hidden or secret.

A dedicated changing area should be setup with lots of diapers and changing supplies on display. Invest in a diaper pail / genie to make disposal easier. Hang up their ABDL clothes in this room. Empty their underwear draw and replace with diapers.

A spare bedroom can often be converted for this purpose. Design it in a way so the room can be locked or items easily hidden if you have guests.

Buy a diaper bag and have it packed and ready to use for any trips out. This can be a real diaper bag but for more discretion a small backpack can be used, ideally buy one that’s more juvenile than a plain black one.

Add a mattress protector to your bed to protect against inevitable leaks.

Convert their wardrobe to suit their diapered status

Early on after making the switch hold a fashion show where they try on their clothes while wearing a thick or wet diaper. Anything that doesn’t hide their diaper well put to one side to go to goodwill.

Next go shopping while they’re thickly diapered to find new clothes which work well. General rules are darker & loose fitting bottoms hide diapers well and dresses and skirts are great for women. Overalls can be super cute and combined with onesies for discrete abdl wear. Longer tops can help hide the extra padding around their bum.

It also might be worth expanding your ABDL clothing for use at home so they have a full wardrobe of options to wear daily.

Get involved

The best way to show your support is to get as involved as possible in their diaper wearing.

Ideally try take control of their checks and changes when you’re around. If you’re uncomfortable with messy changes that’s ok (but honestly they can be the most intimate and positive events if you’re willing to try).

Pick out diapers for them to wear if say you’re not around to change them into a fresh diaper in the morning. Browse and buy new diapers for them. When shopping add diaper/baby supplies without comment such as powder, rash cream or more ABDL items like a kids no spill cup or a cute teddy.

(Side note of one of the things I did which made my partner incredibly happy was coming home from a normal grocery shop with a toddler plate and cutlery set and telling him I thought they would be cute for him. Later he told me this made him feel so accepted and loved 🥰)

Pack a diaper bag for day trips or help him pack enough diapers and supplies for a vacation. Try make this as matter of fact as possible, “Do you think these diapers will be the best for daytime”, “Have you packed your swim diaper”, etc.

Be involved in dressing them with a view to not hiding their diapered state at home. At night especially they should always be in ABDL attire which makes it obvious they’re diapered and in the daytime where possible too.

I do believe that most 24/7 diaper wearing should be combined with ABDL activities as well. At a minimum use ABDL diapers and clothing with pacifiers and bottles used where possible. But definitely experiment with things like crawling, bibs at meals, holding a bottle for them and feeding them. Baby talk can also be a lot of fun to tease them with.

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After tons of questions, here’s a quick video of how we do double-diapering. A fellow ABDL friend showed this to us, and it works magically.

Quick step-by-step instructions: 1. Start with doing a regular diapering. Get the wearer snugly into the diaper - paying special attention to getting the leg gathers as tightly as possible. That’ll help prevent leaks once the second diaper is on.

2. Place your outer, bigger diaper underneath your diaper wearer. You don’t *have* to do this first, but stripping the plastic of the diaper will leave lots of fuzz around, so I really recommend it.

3. Take some safety shears (seriously, safety shears are highly recommended and they’re cheap-as-heck on Amazon) and cut a small slit into the diaper. How you do this is up to you. I like to cut from between the thighs, from thigh to thigh, with about an inch or so of leeway on each side to avoid cutting the leg gatherers.

4. Once you have that cut, it’s pretty easy to remove the plastic by hand if you wanna “get in there” and pull. If not, you can use the safety shears and cut long strips, downwards, from the width-wise cut you’ve made.

5. I would highly recommend cutting further towards the back than I did. I was trying to get a move on with the video, and we found that a lot of the butt of the second, outer diaper didn’t get wet because I didn’t pull out the plastic far enough to the ground. You could even flip your partner over if you wanted.

6. From there, you put on the second, outer diaper as usual. Again, pay attention to the leg gatherers and make them as tight as possible.

7. You’re done!

Quick Pro Tip, though: When you remove this contraption, do NOT just untape each diaper like you usually would to take off your diapers. The SAP (the fluffy, white absorbent part) from the interior diaper being allowed to roam means it’s going to be EVERYWHERE if you try that. Just leave the entire thing taped up, use your safety shears, and cut along the both sides of the hips and slide the entire thing off. That will dramatically reduce the mess.

Make sure you measure your body and find the size chart before you order because everyone is different

Www.the-all-in-one-company.co.uk makes custom footed onesies that you design on their site and offer a warranty service as well as refreshing your pajamas after a few years by replacing the zippers, soles of the feet and other "wear and tear" items. They're pricy but worth every penny.

Www.jumpinjammerz.com has some awesome footed pjs! I've ordered a lot from them.

Www.Foreverlazy.Com has footed pjs and non footed one piece pj's that are awesome, they have camo pj's here if you can't afford to buy from the-all-in-one-company

BigTot on etsy made the light blue 2 piece pajamas I have, they're so stretchy and awesome and make me feel really little

Www.Tykeables.com has some pj's that look pretty awesome

Www.leveret.com has two piece pajamas and some of them are pretty cute.

Www.footedpajamas.com is pretty much what it sounds like, a website full of footed pajamas

Www.bigfeetpjs.com is another good site for finding adult sized footed pj's. I think its funny they call their drop seats "butt flaps"

Www.thepajamacompany.com has a wide range of pajamas they have camo pj's here too

Www.pajamacity.com has adult sized animal onesies

Www.amazon.com has a lot of pj's if you look for them

Www.ebay.com has animal onesies for adults, they're not the highest quality compared to some of the other sites but I'm pretty rough on my clothes so I probably notice it more.

Www.hannaanderson.com seems to have pj's for the whole family, use the search bar to find adult sized pj's.

IT’S TIME FOR A PUBLIC SERVICE.

I’m appalled at how many ABDLs don’t use lotion or powder to protect their sensitive skin against the constant contact of pee in their pampers. Daddy knows that powder on fingers can reduce the stickiness of tape tabs, but if you use a powder puff, you can minimize that.

I’m also surprised when babies who really like sitting in a wet diaper will double up without poking any kinds of holes in the inner diaper (which wastes the padding in the outer diaper), or worse, they put on the diaper and THEN poke holes in it (which is dangerous for the baby).  Use a Wartenberg Wheel to poke holes in the outer surface of the inner diaper BEFORE putting it on (but be careful, too many holes can make the inner diaper rip apart as you’re putting it on).

And finally, I’ve seen many ABDL photos where the baby is wearing cute pastel clothing and ugly black socks.  You can make your own simple pair of booties from socks to get the right effect, and you should try to find socks that are white or in a pastel color that matches a color in your outfit.

Helping out Littles everywhere!!!

Post which state you live in. Help somebody make a friend.

Every 4 out of 5 ABDL’s have struggled with tapes at some point in their lives. The others are just lying! 

Tapes can be tricky, but with practice and re-adjustments you can learn your diaper tape sweet spot in no time! Follow these 5 tips that can help you get the best fit for your diapers!

So you’ve got a couple of diapers and you want to double up. The above ones aren’t the best example as they’re cloth backed but if you’ve got plastic backed diapers then it’s a must.

Pick up a “Pinwheel Stimulator“ they’re rather cheap so shop around. It’s a series of metal spikes on a wheel that you’re meant to run along somebody’s skin. Place the diaper on a flat surface and roll the pinwheel over the padded section of the diaper evenly; making sure the spikes are perforating the diaper.

This may require the help of an adult.

But you’re now free to double up with full confidence that it won’t just leak over the sides and safe in the knowledge that you’ll use both diapers like so;

It seems like a lot of people in the abdl community don’t know about diaper fluffing, so I thought I’d make a quick tutorial! If you’re not sure what diaper fluffing is, it’s basically breaking up the fibers in your diaper to let air in, and make them thicker and more comfortable! Diapers are packed SUUUPER tight to make shipping cheaper, so your diapers won’t come out of the package as fluffy as they should be! Here’s how you do it

Step 1: Unfold your diaper all the way (pretty easy)

Step 2: Fold your diaper in half hotdog style, then gently pull your hands in opposite directions up and down the fold you made. You should feel the material giving a little as you do this. BE CAREFUL AND DON’T RIP THE DIAPER

Step 3: Unfold your diaper, and do the same thing to the inside, gently pulling your hands apart

Step 4: Voilà! Fluffed and ready to go!

Here’s a picture of the diaper I fluffed next to one right out of the package

The difference is really amazing! Hope this helps you guys! Stay dry 💖

I’m at a relaxacon, which basically involved playing games while wearing pajamas and drinking. In the spirit of that, I came up with a fun little game for those who enjoy having their potty (& orgasm) privileges restricted. The basic rules are simple:

First thing in the morning, roll two six-sided dice and add them together. This is the total number of points you have to spend for the day.

Using the potty costs one point.

Taking off your diapers for any reason (whether it be to change, shower, potty, etc.) costs one point.

Making cummies in your diaper costs one point. (Making cummies outside your diaper costs twice as much. If you have a pee-pee, pointing down only costs one point, pointing up costs three.)

Unspent points at the end of the day are lost.

If you run out of points for the day, you can borrow against your points for tomorrow, but each point costs double. (And borrowed points cannot be spent on orgasms!) So if you absolutely need to go potty before bed, but don’t have the points for it, subtract 2 from tomorrows roll.

If you don’t have any points to spend after your roll (because you were naughty yesterday), you must immediately put on the thickest diapers you can wear that day, and you then get one point to spend for the day. Use it wisely.

Of course, please feel free to customize and add more rules as you (or your care-taker) see fit. Adding or subtracting dice (or making them bigger or smaller) are great means of reward & punishment. A particularly evil thing I might do is, upon seeing a high roll, immediately force a baby girl to make cummies several times right there on the spot.