Society can be a real bitch sometimes...
Talking in the aspec server made me realise how highly society focuses on the physical aspects first (like what do you mean romantic attractions are a thing?) and well...
You are either homo or heterosexual anyway. Maybe bi. There is nothing else, society says. What even are romantic attractions?
It took me until my twenties to learn ace was a thing despite always feeling it, but it was brushed off too easily as "you haven't found the right one yet."
And till almost my thirties to realise aro is even an option.
I wish we wouldn't just disappear in the amatonormativity of society - for clearly you have to want either of these things - and don't lie you are just hiding your feelings or perversion, or whatever...
No! Let us just be aroace, repulsed and aversed even and be proud of it!
Don't get offended at us feeling differently and for the love of God stop projecting your feelings onto us!
No, I don't find these things 'hot' you are apparently getting off to. No, I don't have to marry, I don't have to force myself to have children, or a partner.
I find the very idea of sex incredibly disgusting and the allo hierarchy is just annoying me.
Stop projecting.
You do you, but let us be unapologetically aroace.
