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Why I changed my mind about porn

BY SARAH DITUM

PUBLISHED 1 APRIL, 2015

the governing body basically turned a deaf ear to these valid concerns because treating women like people and not sex objects would ruin their ratings.

people insist that women in developed countries have more rights than men when they can't even play sports without sacrificing their dignity and men play fully dressed without a care in the world

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The ad campaign carried messages from only men, but was aimed at women

Many felt the ad did nothing to address the challenges women face in having children

A Father’s Day advert promoting China’s three-child policy urges women to eat healthier for the sake of their children. Photo: Artwork

A Father’s Day advertisement in China encouraging people to take advantage of the three-child policy is facing a public backlash, with critics saying the video only interviewed men and offered no substantial support for women.

The video, by short video platform HaoKan Video which is owned by search company Baidu, was released last week to celebrate Father’s Day, which was on Sunday. It had circulated on Chinese social media over the weekend and was widely criticised.

The ad interviewed eight fathers who showed overwhelming support for the three-child policy, which was released at the end of last month by the central government, as a way for the government to combat an ageing society and declining population.

The policy has been met with national resistance, as many young people, faced with high pressure, housing prices and insufficient social benefits are unwilling to have children.

Fathers in the video listed their reasons for supporting having a third child, addressing some of the concerns raised by the public earlier, when the policy first came out.

The absence of women in the ad campaign attracted criticism. 

On the issue that education in China has become so “involuted”, meaning that resources have become so strained and the public is caught in meaningless competition, the first father in the ad said “As long as we insist on not being involuted, then nothing can make us”.

Other fathers suggested that the women should exercise and eat nutritious food to have a healthy baby, even if they might be getting older; and that some women could also use having a third child as an opportunity to change careers.

The video was met with overwhelming criticism that it addressed none of the women’s concerns about having another child.

“When men are able to have babies, then you can start talking about having a third child,” one said on Weibo. “You don’t understand how difficult this is for women.”

“All the questions raised in the video were realistic ones, but none of the answers were practical,” another said. “There’s no good solution to these issues. Having a third child will lead to immense pressure on the mother’s mental and physical health.”

Baidu did not respond to an interview request from the South China Morning Post.

However, some showed support for the advertisement, including Yang Yexin, CEO of advertising company TianYuKong, which some alleged on Weibo is the company that produced the ad. TianYuKong did not respond to an interview request from the Post.

Yang said on Weibo that a healthy society should tolerate voices that support the three-child policy.

“Since the policy was released, there’s only been voices against it online, nothing in support … I think this ad is the bravest, most meaningful advertisement of 2021,” he said.

Me- Where?

TERFs: “What?”

Me: Where are they? Were are all the trans women demanding that lesbians and other wlw have sex with them? Where are they?

TERFs-….

TERFs: “OMG LOOK AT ALL THESE-”

Oh, and TERFs? trans women and their partners making it clear that you can still be a lesbian/wlw and have sex with/date/love a trans women/NB person is NOT the same as rape or trans women “demanding” that women fuck them. 

“I’m blocking people but not deleting replies uwu”

@hazel2468 That literally accomplishes the same thing, you walnut. If you block someone, every public interaction they’ve had with you is automatically hidden on your posts.

You claimed radfems are lying about something (that we’ve been providing proof of for ages btw) and when someone gave you literally dozens of receipts, you blocked the “icky evil TERF uwu” for interacting with you without a second thought. And yes, sorry babe, this makes you look like a coward that’s trying to hide that you’re wrong.

According to journalist-cum-agriculture expert P Sainath, a significant number of women farmer suicides are excluded from the data due to one simple fact – women aren’t considered as farmers they are pushed in the column of housewives. In his speech at the XVI National Conference of Indian Association for Women’s Studies (IAWS), he also said that climate change is specifically going to affect the women more.

Key Takeaways:

   Women farmers are often considered as widows of male farmers and hence not given the title of a farmer. ‘Widow’ of male farmers becomes their main role, despite the fact that even before their husband’s death, they did 60 percent of the work on the farm.    Even in the NCRB data, the number of suicides committed by women farmers is the only area which shows zero incidences in many places.    According to P Sainath, we do not have women farmer suicides because we do not consider them farmers in the first hand. They are pushed in the column of housewives.

   The agrarian crisis not only affects the male farmers but has a double effect on the women farmers. Not only on the farm but even when it comes to domestic needs, it is women who suffer ultimately.

The Lack Of Identity Of Women As Farmers

Tens of thousands of women farmers get excluded from the data everywhere and this is because we don’t consider them as farmers. Kota Neelima, author, and researcher who specializes in rural distress says, ” There is a misconception that the farmer is always male in India. Women do not own land and, therefore, are not recognized as farmers by the government. In reality, women work in agricultural fields every hour of every day of their life. But even woman farmer suicides are rarely considered as ‘farmer suicides’. This is mainly because the government endorses this bias in data about women farmers. The National Crimes Records Bureau categorizes suicides as per ‘farmer’, ‘cultivator’ and ‘agricultural labour’, and in all cases, lack of identity of women as farmers restricts the truth about their tragic deaths.”

How Does Agrarian Crisis Affect Women?

The agrarian crisis not only affects the male farmers but has a double effect on the women farmers. Not only on the farm but even when it comes to domestic needs, it is women who suffer ultimately. “All distress, whether rural or urban, affects women worse than men. Agricultural distress has a ground-level impact on food and nutrition of women, education opportunities for girls, health and sanitation of households, and other such factors. For example, the worst-affected during drought are women, who must not only deal with irrigation for farmlands but also get drinking water for their households. Women farmers’ failing health is a testament to their lifelong struggles and social neglect,” adds Neelima.

   “Women farmers’ failing health is a testament to their lifelong struggles and social neglect.”

The Unpaid Work Done By Women On Farm

I think there is no better testament to society’s hatred for women than Bianca Devin’s still existing Instagram page, and the comments it still gets daily over a year after her death.

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Bianca Devins was murdered on July 14, 2019, by Brandon Andrew Clark, who is currently serving a sentence of 25 years to life. His motive for the crime is one we have witnessed way too much as women: Brandon couldn’t take no for an answer. Bianca had recently rejected his requests for a committed relationship and made herself available to a different man.

I’d like to note here that during the time of her death, Bianca was underage, only 17 years-old, and this man was a grown adult who’d been involved with her ever since she was much younger. He met her as a child and attacked her while she was still one.

After taking her life, Brandon posted pictures of her nearly decapitated body on Discord, Instagram and 4chan. He then tried, and failed, to kill himself. Those pictures have since been passed around and shared all over the Internet.

This is only a brief summary of the story, as there is plenty more. Still, I advise against any of you googling about this and risking stumbling across pictures or her body, since they’re still widely available all throughout the internet and super, super easy to come across. Do not underestimate this warning. Here’s a few articles and videos if you’re interested, all from safe sources: x, x, x, x, x, x

Plenty of controversy and rumors surround her death, but I don’t care for any of them. I won’t list them all here, but it’s baffling how willing the Internet was, and still is, to blame this child for her own murder. For example there’s plenty of talk about her selling her own nudes online - which are essentially child pornography, and the men who bought it are pedophiles, but no one seems to bring that part up. People will say she led Brandon on and toyed with him, and honestly, who cares if she did? He should’ve moved on and acted like the adult man he was supposed to be, instead of growing increasingly obsessed with this young girl.

It’s clear this was a femicide and that it’s mysogyny, plain and simple, that surrounds this case. He killed Bianca because she wouldn’t be in a committed relationship with him. Like so many men had done before him, like so many men have done ever since, he decided he was entitled to take her life because of being rejected. He was jealous, and he was angry, and he deserves no sympathy. And he’s not the only one.

These are only a few examples of what can be expected if you go on any of her remaining social media. This hate has started from the day she died and still goes on to this day, every single day. It’s absolutely vile, and if any of you have ever wondered just how much men can hate women, if any of you have ever wondered why they kill, assault, harass us - these comments should tell you something. This isn’t limited to Instagram either, since Bianca’s death has been talked about all over 4chan as well, and you can only imagine the kind of thing that is said about it there.

I am posting this not only to show women the realities of mysoginistic hatred and violence, but because I feel like Instagram should at least disable the comments on her still existing profiles. I think every girl and woman should be aware of this kind of thing. The men who make comments like this don’t deserve their anonymity, but instead exposure. Her family is present online, they see this. Her sister is literally still on Instagram. And I don’t know what can be done to help it, or if any of them are able to disable the comments themselves. So, here we are. I am sad and disgusted at the things I have read. Make no mistake, this is only a small sample of what is out there.

I’d like to end this post with a statement Bianca Devin’s family has put out about her passing. This case has been with me ever since it happened and I think she deserved so much more, just like every other young girl who has been taken from us because of rotten individuals like Brandon. Rest in peace, Bianca. This world has failed you tremendously.

In 2018, Me Too campaigner Rose McGowan was at a Barnes and Noble bookshop in New York promoting her memoir Brave, which details the sexual abuse she suffered at the hands of movie mogul Harvey Weinstein. During a question and answer session, as Rose was discussing her grief and recovery, a trans-identified male heckled her from the crowd, saying, “We get raped more often. We go through domestic violence more often. Trans women are in men’s prisons, and what have you done for them?”

The viral video depicts a trans-identifying male with hair dyed pink, wearing a pale pink hoodie, standing among a crowd of seated patrons — who observe stoically — yelling, “This is genocide! This is the AIDs crisis all over again! This is white cis feminism!” an outburst prompted by an interview with RuPaul in 2017 wherein McGowan said that trans-identified males experience life differently from women. The heckler is peacefully removed while chanting, “White cis feminism!” in an apparent attempt to rouse the audience. For their part, the men in the crowd stare at the interloper in shocked silence, and several women laugh.

After the removal of the heckler, urged on by supportive cheers, McGowan rises and shouts, “I do not subscribe to your language!” and proceeds to condemn the use of demeaning labels. A woman in the crowd responds, “We’re so grateful,” and a man offers, “We love you.” These moments of consolation would later be edited out of most of the video clips uploaded to social media and thereby scrubbed from public consciousness.

Rather than taking her side, the version of events put forward by the media was that McGowan launched into a transphobic tirade. In particular, the US Women’s March organization denounced her within the day. Women’s March stated that “denying trans women’s identities is never okay,” in a tweet that also linked to trans activist Katelyn Burns’ interview with the agitator, a trans-identified male named Andi Dier. Dier claimed that those who identify as trans women are more oppressed than women, saying “When someone pulls down her pants and sees a v-gina, she won’t be murdered for it. That is not something she fears. That’s why she’s cis.” The headline for the interview, “Rose McGowan Broke Down in a Transphobic Rage”, intentionally depicted McGowan as hysterical.    The bookshop audience’s instinctive support for McGowan gave way to a long line of commentators condemning McGowan and offering support for Andi Dier. The headline of an article for Slate read, “Rose McGowan’s Anti-Trans Bias Weakens Her Feminism,” and several other major media outlets joined in, including The Independent and Variety. As a result of the corresponding backlash, McGowan cancelled the rest of her book tour, stating that “every person sitting frozen in their chairs” had “a weakness called complicity.” In a video published by PinkNews the following year, McGowan issued an apology, stating: “I didn’t have the correct language… had I said ‘cis women’… now I understand that that’s what I should have said.”

Yet even amid the furore over McGowan’s supposed bigotry, allegations that Dier had preyed on girls quickly surfaced on social media. “Andi Dier personally sexually assaulted me and two of my friends when we were 13 years old,” read one of the claims. A disturbing amount of testimonies were posted to Twitter, with at least one dating back to 2013. So many similar claims of child sexual abuse had been made that someone took it upon themselves to create a YouTube video documenting them.

Seeing the allegations of sexual abuse pile up against Dier, I decided to do some research of my own. That weekend, I discovered damning evidence from Andi Dier’s AskFM blog, which I screen-capped and shared on Facebook. Dier deleted the blog the following day. The format of AskFM is in the style of a Q&A and several entries in Dier’s blog were responses to questions regarding sexual abuse, in which Dier admits to relationships with “younger girls” and claims that statutory rape should not be a crime. Dier’s own words paint a portrait of an openly pedophilic rationale. Q: True or false: you have been sexually involved with people of a certain age, who if the authorities were notified you would be facing jail time

A: If I had a lawyer I’d assume they’d tell me not to answer this. You can make your own assumptions.

Q: why do u like younger girls A: I like younger girls in the same way I like brunettes. I just don’t give a sh-t. Age is an insignificant marker. I like cute girls, sometimes they happen to be a bit young. Sh-t happens. Q: I feel like thats f-cked up of you to say that because a person thinks its wrong for you to get with minors that their morals are flawed. It seems like your morals are flawed honestly A: It’s f-cked up for someone to tell me I don’t deserve my freedoms because they feel uncomfortable… We’re sending so many college kids to jail for being with someone a few years younger. These aren’t predators. And you don’t mystically wake up one day with the ability to consent. You have it before you’re 18. We’re stripping a populous of their lives. We’re kidnapping them. And many times they’ll be raped – really raped.”

Here, Dier is claiming that minors can consent to sexual relationships with adults — that statutory rape is not ‘real’ rape — and comparing the incarceration of paedophiles to kidnapping. All this while implying that these paedophiles will be sexually abused in prison and therefore are innocent victims of an unjust law.

So the evidence mounted, alongside a maddening insistence on respecting Dier’s pronouns and comments telling “TERFs” to “choke”. But in time, Andi Dier faded from social media and public awareness, while the stain on McGowan’s reputation remained.

Those who sound the alarm about the ways in which gender ideology is used to excuse or cloak predatory behaviour are often met with accusations of bigotry. They may be fired from their jobs, subjected to sustained bullying and harassment, or otherwise censored in various ways, including permanent suspensions from social media by the very same platforms where the ideology is peddled by those with questionable motives.

In December 2020, while researching the influence of pornography on gender ideology, I noticed that Dier had reappeared on Reddit and Twitter, advertising homemade ’sissy’ pornography. Over the course of the past few months, Dier has been active in several subreddits, including both the r/rapefantasies and r/rape forums; the former focuses on rape-themed pornography, and the latter is a support group for victims. Even as Dier advertised in one forum by saying, “trans lesbian rapemeat needs to be f*cked straight,” he was simultaneously commenting in a support group for rape survivors.

In one case, Dier told a victim that “you can’t compare [rape] to not wanting to do something and ‘going along with it,’” while within the same month posting in r/rapefantasies about wanting to be assaulted in the back of a van. In a classified ad posted to a meet-up forum, Dier says, “It hit me that I’m nearly 30 and would love to live out my lesbian cougar fantesies [sic] with a young teen. I’m a pre-op trans girl.” Strip away the obfuscating language, and this is an adult man nearing his thirties advertising to create pornography with a teenage girl.

Last month, in a subreddit called r/TeenAmIUgly, where predominantly teenage girls post selfies and ask to be rated on their appearance, Dier rated a 14 year-old girl a 9.5 out of 10. The image was deleted, and a pinned message from a moderator warns of “an influx of concern about creepy PMs”. In a subreddit called r/HypnoHookup, Dier offered to go over to the house of someone claiming to be an 18 year-old high school student. In r/AgeGapNSFW Dier commented, “can’t wait to have a teen cutie.” In March of this year, Dier retweeted child sexual exploitation content, including several images of pre-pubescent girls with highly sexualized captions, and one video involving what appears to be a child and an adult. (Not comfortable with simply reporting the accounts to Twitter, I have filed a formal complaint to a child sexual exploitation organization.)

Among accounts retweeted by Dier include “leggyteenfilms”, which states in their bio “I love porn and chatting about teens,” and that the account was previously suspended. (Consider that a person may be permanently banned from Twitter for referring to a male with sex-based pronouns, but child sexual abuse accounts continue to reappear.) Other names of accounts shared by Dier are “teenobsessed” which has posted images of girls as young as 14 years old. Dier is also “liking” selfies posted by accounts claiming to belong to teenage girls, as well as following accounts that claim to belong to minors, some of which state their age as 13 years old.  There are also profiles with “MAP” in their bios; “MAP” or “minor-attracted person” is a euphemism for ‘paedophile’.

Andi Dier is not an exception to the rule.  It is imperative that this issue is understood as systemic, rather than being limited to merely a few instances; pornography is deeply entrenched at the centre of gender ideology’s view of womanhood. Recently, Reddit moderators staged a large-scale protest against the site’s employment of a trans-identified male, Aimee Challenor (née Ashton), with connections to known paedophiles. Transgender activist Dana Rivers (née David Warfield), who was responsible for organizing the protests that led to the cancellation of women-only, lesbian-centered Michfest, is currently in jail awaiting trial for the murder of a lesbian couple and their adopted son.    Many other, less visible instances of sexual abuse and predatory behaviour by those protected under the umbrella of “gender identity” go unnoticed or linguistically and statistically erased altogether. Hundreds of such instances are documented on the sites Women Are Human and Transgender Crime UK, both of which are run independently by those concerned about the erosion of boundaries and safeguarding policies under currently fashionable gender identity ideology. On these sites, you will find cases that are not widely known or reported.

To consider Andi Dier an outlier is to ignore a disturbing trend involving the normalization of dangerous sexual paraphilias and the degree to which institutions have been more concerned with protecting their public image than with defending women and children from male violence. Indeed, women are being banned from social media platforms for calling attention to male sexual abuse as well as for questioning the increasing trend of forced inclusion of male-bodied people in women’s spaces.

Rose McGowan was responsible for bringing to light systemic sexual abuse in Hollywood, and in particular for emboldening victims of film producer Harvey Weinstein. Despite this, she was publicly shamed for defending herself against verbal harassment, her book tour was cancelled, and worst of all, a man with a rape fetish who is clearly engaging in predatory behaviour was defended by a major women’s organisation ahead of her. A reversal achieved simply through gender ideology, which grants any male who claims a female identity the authority to speak over women.

The manipulation of language at the core of gender ideology is essential to its capacity for silencing victims. It is impossible to defend women’s rights if we cannot define women. It is impossible to fight against sexism if we cannot say that sex is real. We certainly cannot protect children from male sexual abusers if we are too afraid of appearing cruel to predators to name them as the men they are.

As for Rose McGowan. She provided two lessons as to the systemic nature of male power.

She was silenced by an abusive, predatory man and his enablers in the media. They said, “it must never happen again”.

Her name is Edith Windsor. 

But sure, you can just have your tumblr revisionist history of Stonewall where Martha P. Johnson wasn’t a gay male tranvestite/drag queen, somehow was the only person who mattered out of the hundreds of people involved in the uprising, and imply that gay people did nothing to fight for their own rights in the following 46 years. 

And pretend the AIDS crisis never happened and how that brought to light the gross inequality of gays in the US.

And pretend that Matthew Shepard’s murder never happened and didn’t launch the gay rights movement into the modern incarnation that eventually lead to marriage equality. 

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trans women of color throwing bricks at cops

Gender-motivated hate crimes make up only a tiny percentage of the hate crimes recorded by the F.B.I. — 0.7 percent in 2018, the most recent year listed on the agency’s website, compared to 57.5 percent deemed to have been motivated by racial bias that year.

But increasingly, organizations that study and track hate groups and violence have warned of a phenomenon called “male supremacy terrorism,” driven by aggrieved male entitlement and a desire to preserve traditional gender roles.

and the reason we don’t see accurate data on anti-female hate crimes is that the FBI’s hate crime reporting handbook provides this guidance on reporting hate crimes to the FBI:

Once the development of this collection was complete, the FBI UCR Program surveyed state UCR Program managers on hate crime collection procedures used at various law enforcement agencies which collected hate crime data employing a two-tier decision-making process. The first level is the law enforcement officer who initially responds to the alleged hate crime incident, i.e., the “responding officer” (or “first-level judgment officer”). It is the responsibility of the responding officer to determine whether there is any indication that the offender was motivated by bias. If a bias indicator is identified, the officer designates the incident as a “suspected bias-motivated crime” and forwards the case file to a “second-level judgment officer/unit.” (In smaller agencies this is usually a person specially trained in hate crime matters, while in larger agencies it may be a special unit.)

It is the task of the second-level judgment officer/unit to review the facts of the incident and make the final determination of whether a hate crime has actually occurred. If so, the incident is to be reported to the FBI UCR Program as a bias-motivated crime.