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The inclusion of romantic / platonic love just screams “aces can still love uwu” which as an aro makes me deeply uncomfortable

More importantly though, it excludes arospec aces from using their own flag. I don’t think I have to explain why this is bad

Fuck this flag and fuck anyone who supports it

I think this might already be known but around April a Black Asexual, Ashabi (creator of Ace in Grace) (she/they), proposed a new Asexual flag. I think it would be nice to show them some support.

Here's links to the meaning of the flag: https://aceingrace.substack.com/p/new-asexuality-flag-final-updates

https://aceingrace.substack.com/p/its-international-asexuality-day (< this includes the meaning of the old flag and the reason she felt it needed some changes + an older design of their proposed flag)

Here's a link to her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_aceingrace_?igsh=dTdqMGZtMzI0MWxs

This was made after AVEN decided to stand behind the meaning of the white stripe when Ashabi gently proposed that it be rethought.

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Graphics below provided by @/blackaceculture:

[ID 2: A picture of the original asexual flag, with four horizontal stripes of black, grey, white, and purple. Text below reads, "First officially used in August 2010, the asexual pride flag consists of four horizontal stripes: black, grey, white, and purple from top to bottom. The asexual pride flag, also known as the ace flag, was designed by A.V.E.N. (Asexual visibility and education network" user "standup" after the network held a contest on its forum boards. The flag's deisgn was chosen after a month long campaign that included multiple threads and three stages of polls on A.V.E.N. as well as voting in other asexualcommunities." The color meanings are listed as: Black: asexuality. Grey: demisexuality, gray-asexuality. White: Allies and partners. Purple: community.". End ID 2.]

[ID 3: A graphic reading, "On international Asexuality Day 2026, Ace in Grace proposed a new asexual flag that centres asexual experiences. In 2023 she opened a public discussion on what the asexual community thinks about the white stripe on the ace flag representing allies and what it could represent instead. Most of the comments were in favor of changing the ally stripe. In the same year, she contacted the A.V.E.N. board on changing the white stripe's meaning and had a meeting. Some A.V.E.N. board members actively ignored her, whilst another left during the meeting. On I.A.D. 2024, she launched the ace flag revision survey to collect raw data and revealed the results on October 16th 2025. 82.7% of respondents felt it was necessary to change the meaning of the white stripe in the asexual flag. Despite promising to follow up, the A.V.E.N. board ignored Ace in Grace's data. Because of this Ace In Grace created an alternative flag which is optional to use. End ID 3.]

[ID 4: Text reading, "There's an active smear campaign against the Ace in Grace flag. "But I miss the old flag!" No one is taking away the OG flag, this is an optional alternative. "Why not update the current flag?" Ashabi tried to propose changing the white stripe in 2023 and was ignored by A.V.E.N. team members. This is her alternative. "She's being defensive / mean / rude / forcing us to use the flag!" This is tone policing and antiblack dogwhistles. Black aces have [the] right to defend ourselves against harassment and strawmanning. "There shouldn't be a love stripe / there should be aroace colors instead" The love stripe includes aromanticism and non romantic love. This argument also eraces alloaces who are also a part of the community too. "It stole the lesbian / nonbinary / MAP flag colors" These are lies. The colours across all of these are different." End ID 4.]

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For my own comment, I really do not like that aromanticism is included in the stripe for love, and only then as an afterthought, it seems like.

It does not feel like enough aroace people were properly consulted on this flag that is supposed to be for all aspec people.

I never saw any polls or surveys about this, so, obviously I didn't get a vote. I think the pink stripe being said to represent arospec aspecs really need to change, that's just erasure in a flag that's supposed to be centering all of our experiences.

These colors are also highly saturated, and are guarenteed to cause migraines if not seizures, so the "official" colors will have to be changed to make them accessible.

These are not insurmountable obstacles by any means, but this flag absolutely does not feel ready to be accepted as an "official" new flag, not when it's erasing arospec aspecs and going to cause photosensitivity issues for those of us who are disabled in this way.

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Update: on instagram, the creator says she explicitly does not give anyone permission to change the exact shade of these colors unless we're changing *all* of them to match. This is an accessibility issue that I'm hoping will be resolved.

geksut_n_tuuzu said 5 days ago as of this post, aka, June 3rd 2026:

[...]a quick question @_aceingrace_ you don't mind if i charge the shade of the colors if i use it for some drawings of the new flag? Just asking to keep it in mind

_aceingrace_ responded, also 5 days ago

@geksut_n_tuuzu I do mind, please keep the hues the same. If you want to see how others have made art, you can check my highlighted story.

geksut_n_tuuzu said:

and for clarity i was saying about changing the shade like doing the yellow a little lighter or something like that, I was saying about mostly keeping it the same, my bad I didn't elaborate further, sorry 😅

_aceingrace_ replied:

Where one feels repulsed, off-put, weirded out, or uncomfortable with being told "I love you" and may also feel the same saying "I love you (too)" back.

Let’s play the biggest game of kick the can on the internet.

── .✦ INTRODUCTION:

you may call me X (shi / hir and it / its) and this term was originally just a joke my friends and I had come up with and I finally got the motivation to make it a flag!

── .✦ MEANING:

the term 'intersex wrath' refers to a intersex person who is wrathful, feels represented by the concept of wrath, is a demon from the wrath ring, or literally has any connection to wrath.

── .✦ MORE INFO:

So ok look. The point is not the flared leg by itself. These cannot be yoga pants. These are, and you have to understand this if you are too young to have worn them, BLUE JEANS. And this was the last years before all jeans were 70% spandex.

They were denim, and they weren't bell bottoms. They hung loose from the knee in a way that would make a wizard envious. We all walked around like we were wearing hakama. And they dragged on the ground. That was important. Ragged cuffs. If your jeans weren't so long that they had ratty cuffs, they were embarrassingly short.

And the thing about denim is that it's a twill weave and it's cotton. So not only does it hold a lot of water, it wicks. Walking around in these suckers on a wet day could get you wet to the knees even if you never stepped in a puddle.

Then you'd go inside and take off your shoes and try to avoid letting your freezing, wet, filthy pant legs touch your skin.

A tweet stating "Gen Z can buy the butterfly clips and the track suits but you weren't there in the trenches" followed by four images of flared denim jeans so long their hems are ragged from contact with the ground, each one having wicked puddle water some way up itself- from around the hem to up passed the ankles.

A set of tags reading "#I had a pair like these except they were black yoga pants #they had bell bottoms tho"

A set of tags reading "#yoga pants could never #not in the same way #there was a heft to it #there was WEIGHT"

[PT: Art positions needed for intersex visual guide!]

Note: This is not a paid position. This is a project made with passion from participants who want to educate the world about intersexuality.

Hello! So, our intersex visual guide project is going well so far. The script is mostly complete (with occasional revisions), and we know how we want the comic to be formatted.

We did the sketches for the genitals/reproductive organ diagrams, and @/pastelroswell is doing the lineart. However, there are many illustrations that still need to be done, and this is where you can come in!

Whether you volunteer for just a single drawing, or for many drawings, all help is appreciated! People under 18 can only volunteer for segment 9, as all the other segments require illustrations of nudity.

We need volunteers for:

[FULLY BOOKED] Segment 1: What is perisex? Humans vs non-humans. (A random example of a necessary drawing for this segment would be a person looking at a censored computer screen with a question mark above their head.) [FULLY BOOKED] Segment 2: Overarching Terms & Information. (A random example of a necessary drawing for this segment would be a group of cosexual animals.) Segment 3: "Mixed" Genitals & Reproductive Organs. Segment 4: Urethral Traits & Penile Traits. Segment 5: Agenital Spectrum & Areproductive Spectrum. Segment 6: Split/Duplicated Reproductive Organs. ^ You won't be drawing the genital/reproductive diagrams, as those are already covered by us & Roswell. Instead, you'll be drawing group of people who have specific traits that we will list for you (ie; a person who has a bifid scrotum with estrogenized traits, and a speech bubble that has XX and a drawing of a mullerian reproductive system.) Segment 7: Hormonal Traits. Segment 8: Chromosomal Variations. (A random example of a necessary drawing for these segments would be a person with dwarfism who has a macropenis, macroorchidism, androgenized traits, and a speech bubble that has XY and a drawing of a wolffian reproductive system.) Segment 9: Co-occurring Traits & Disabilities. (A random example of necessary drawings for these segments would be a person who has severe acne, a person having a seizure, a person exhibiting the symptoms of autism, etc.) [FULLY BOOKED] Segment 10: Coercive Intersex Medical Interventions & Medical Maltreatment. Specifically, you'd be doing the hormone abuse section and/or medical maltreatment section. These drawings are more sensitive in nature, but censored enough as to not be overly disturbing to viewers. (A random example of a necessary drawing for these segments would be a person looking sickly while in the fetal position on a couch, and a bottle of hormones sits next to them, implying that the hormones are causing them to become ill.)

You must be willing to:

1- Draw non-sexual nudity. 2- Draw racially diverse and disabled characters. 3- Have your work shared with the world.

Your work could be:

1- A simple sketch (yes, traditional sketches are welcome too!) that you provide for someone else to do lineart + coloring for. 2- A drawing with lineart that you provide for someone else to do coloring for. 3- A drawing with lineart and coloring.

DO NOT SIGN UP IF you are an exclusionist, radfem, believe that men cannot experience oppression, are anti-endogenic, believe in a disorder being "inherently evil (ie; narcissistic personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, paraphilic disorders [yes even the "big 3"], psychotic disorders, etc.), use ableist language (ie; misuse "narcissist", misuse "psychotic", misuse "sociopath/psychopath", misuse OCD, misuse bipolar, conflate "paraphile" with predator, etc.), think that love/sympathy/empathy are necessary to be a good person, disrespect religion/spiritual practices, pro-Israel, support Trump/Elon Musk/JK Rowling, anti-choice, or anti-homeless.

DM us if you are interested and PLEASE disclose if you have had any controversies in the past, and what the topic was about. We will be checking over your account before accepting you in.

We decided people under 18 can participate, they just cannot draw any of the prompts that include nudity. But there are many prompts in segment 9 that do not include nudity!

Speaking of segment 9 - we have a ton of prompts in there that are a simple icon-style! Sort of like this image (which is randomly taken off the internet, not an actual part of the project.)

You do not need to be an expert artist to participate! You also do not need to be educated in intersexuality beforehand!

[PT: You do not need to be an expert artist to participate! You also do not need to be educated in intersexuality beforehand!]

We have decided to move the due date to October 26th (intersex awareness day), rather than pride month, as it's become unrealistic to expect it to be done by pride.

We refuse to go another year without this project being done. If you know anyone who might enjoy participation, please share this post with them! You can also reblog on bluesky [link.]

Please, check out the available prompts on this google doc [link], and comment or DM if any of them interest you!

First part is them staring at the camera in exasperation. Caption says: "white transmascs appropriating black culture after transitioning because they associate blackness with masculinity." Theres music playing and they mouth along the words "that is not the baby!"

Second part is a response to the first. Slow piano music plays in the background. Caption says: "white queers have a weaponized incompetence problem."

The filmer says the following:

"The other day, I made a video talking about how white transmascs appropriate black culture in order to feel more masculine because they associate blackness with masculinity. And never before in my life, or posting videos about trans discourse, have I gotten so many comment from people acting completely oblivious or confused to the issue, even though the issue is a very simple statement.

I think this reflects the fact that a lot of white queer people are just incapable of thinking about issues if it is not personally affecting them.

And I think this reveals a weaponized incompetence issue in the larger white queer community when it comes to racial issues. When someone brings attention to intercommunal issues not about race, I never get these comments. I never get comments acting confused, or acting like what im talking about is so incomprehensible, or saying things like, 'well, I've never seen this happen,' because people accept 'maybe this has happened, just not to me.'

But the second someone brings up a racial issues, suddenly it's incredibly confusing and complex, and people need to explain to them five million different ways to where they get it. And obviously other people call bullshit to this, and they say, 'This is very clearly just you refusing to understand this, not you being unable to understand.'

And a lot of people in the comment seem to be resorting to the fact they theyre neuro divergent to excuse the fact that theyre not aware of racial dynamics in the queer community. And I think this is a larger problem. People like to flee into marginalized identity and talk about how theyre queer, or theyre neurodivergent, in order to get away from complex critiques about the way they ignore racism in their own community.

There are two possibilities. Either 1: these people are aware of this issue, and are pretending not to know about it because it allows them to escape accountability; or 2: theyre just generally not aware of it. But both of these things reveal a problem, because it means that white queer people either do not notice, or do not care, about the racism happening in their own community. Because the problem identified is not a niche issue, it happens all the time. But the refusal to use critical thinking —or even just look in the comments for other explanations, before jumping to acting confused and acting ignorant of the issue— is a bigger problem that white queer people need to examine in themselves.

Remaining ignorant on issues of race and acting like you've never seen this happen, or you've never heard this before, is a result of you ignoring it, not as a result of it not happening.

The fact that tons of people in the comments who are Black queer people are saying this happens all the time, but white queer people are saying they've never seen it happen, suggests that it's not that it doesn't happen, its that white queer people dont recognize it happening because they dont actually pay attention to racial issues in their community. Which is why when it gets called out, they act so confused about it.

End video transcript.]

mayer-rokitansky-küster-hauser syndrome [MRKH/müllerian agenesis] flag

[pt: mayer-rokitansky-küster-hauser syndrome [MRKH/müllerian agenesis] flag]

MRKH is a congenital variation which results in the underdevelopment or absence of the uterus and/or vagina. typically someone with MRKH's ovaries are fully developed and functional, but may be in an atypical place in the abdomen. MRKH can also be associated with kidney, bone, and hearing atypicalities.

the basis of bismuth was chosen for MRKH due to MRKH's variation in cause (which is often unclear or unknown) and presentation (many cases look very different).

Mesosex: a person who has an intersex variation, but one which does not conform to perisex (non-intersex) ideas of what intersex is. For example, people who have intersex traits that are considered "mild", or who have variations such as PCOS Hyperandrogenism and Poland Syndrome.

Meso- for middle/in between, to refer to the state of being in between what the intersex community accepts as intersex and what the broader public (mistakenly) thinks intersex is.

This is a revision to the initial definition for the term, which I originally coined a few months back. The revised definition comes from many conversations with both identifying-as-intersex people and identifying-as-mesosex people.

In particular I'd like to highlight this long (but very productive) thread from which the revised definition was first proposed by @queercripintersex

From that thread and private conversations some key takeaways have been:

There was too much ambiguity in the initial definition.

The people I've spoken to for whom mesosex has resonated all either have intersex variations, or very good reasons to question that they could be intersex.

And a lot of those people have faced harassment and invalidation by perisex people for experimenting and/or claiming the intersex label. They have expressed a desire for alternate language by which they can communicate their relationship to being intersex.

Not everybody with an intersex variation wants to use the term intersex, or to only use it contextually. Some feel they aren't "intersex enough", even people with variations like Klinefelter's or CAIS that are widely accepted as intersex.

For people who are new to thinking of themselves as intersex, it is valuable to have a microlabel available that can capture their impostor syndrome.

There is a real and legitimate concern that the initial definition of mesosex would lead people with intersex variations like PCOS to think of themselves as neither intersex nor perisex, even though the intersex community is unanimous that PCOS hyperandrogenism is intersex.

Although there is a clear hierarchy of which intersex variations are seen as more legitimately intersex by perisex people, if we validate this hierarchy then we undermine our collective need for pan-intersex solidarity.