If you want to attend a pride event, ask about their accessibility plans and policies.

Ask about their covid policies. Ask if they are accessible to mobility aid users. Ask if they will have strobe lights, if there will be bathrooms, if there is water. Make the event planners consider who they may have left out, even if the person being left out isn't you. Have your friends ask as well. Help create a demand. Help get conversations started. Help people see where things could be more accessible.

Because when we, the disabled, ask these questions? We're much more likely to get ignored, and much less likely to be heard when we raise hell.

So help us raise hell when we need it. Demand to know why your local Pride event isn't requiring masks, or is charging for water, or doesn't have wheelchair ramps, or whatever other accessibility issue you catch.

spouse is listening to the Harrow audiobook

bonus, my response:

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I love this cover, honestly. The title? Perfection. It reminds me of runes and old Irish oghams, as well as rib bones and such. And usually I have nothing to say about the reviews, but this one is genuinely the best possible thing they could’ve put on there. I fucking love it. Just the “Skeletons!” is so genuine and excited. A+ choice.

And the colors!!! That’s what I’m talking about! The title matching the bones and the author name matching her hair! That pop of orange! It frustrates me so much when they choose secondary colors for subtitles and taglines and author names that don’t coordinate with the illustration.

God, and look at that illustration. There’s so much movement around her, but even though she’s swaggering towards us (and I mean that in the best way), she’s a pillar of calm and self-assurance. Like, I don’t mean to wax poetic, but she is the eye of a storm coming to wreck your shit. The aviators, man. Everything about this illustration is both technically and conceptually perfect. Note how the background gradually gets darker behind her, but still grey where her jawline is painted black—it makes her makeup stand out that much more.

- ask me things you want to know about me

- why you follow me

- what’s on your mind/what you’re thinking about

- a compliment

- make me choose between two things

- ask for advice

- tell me a secret

- things you associate me with

Second, I don’t even know what treating someone like a “man” even means. I’ve never been in a relationship with a man so I don’t even fully understand what that dynamic would be like let alone how I would treat one. So no, I don’t think I treat butches like men.

But if i’m being honest, I don’t ever really think i’m treating them like “women” either. I treat them like butches. Most butches i’ve been with are transmaculine, non-binary, or old school butch women who would honestly feel uncomfortable if they were treated like a “woman” or would not enjoy me using feminine words (pretty, beautiful, princess etc.) to describe them. So I call them handsome, let them carry my things for me because they genuinely enjoy it, let them act tough in front of me and let them express their masculinity in a way that affirms their butchness. Now this doesn’t mean that me treating them like a butch means that i treat them like a “man”. As a femme, I always want to be a safe space for any butch I’m seeing to be soft. not “feminine” or “womanly”, but soft. Softness shouldn’t be inherently gendered. I want them to feel like they can relax with me, cry with me, let me hold them in a way they may not usually be held in. This is what butch/femme is all about. There are roles yes, but I never think of how I treat butches as how i’d hypothetically treat a man.