cute & autistic!

September 26, 2022

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Hello and Happy New Year, everyone!! Here is (part of) my stimtoy collection as of the end of 2021!!! I'm very proud of all of it, especially the Tangles that are harder to find. Hopefully my collection will grow to be even larger in 2022. If anyone would like to see anything specific more, just send an ask :]

If something is weird then you need to have no control over it, otherwise it would be mandatory to fix it. If I said that I had control over my stimming and could stop it at any time, people would request I do so. Not for my comfort but for theirs. If I said that I had control over my gender and could be something binary or maybe even cis, people would request I do so. If I said that I have control over my sexuality and could make myself heterosexual, people would request I do so. If I said I could control my attraction and could make myself monogamous, people would request I do so. If I said that I could control my disability and could choose to stop a flair up in its tracks, people would request I do so. They would never ask out of the goodness of their hearts, they would always be asking because I was annoying, concerning, distracting, or inconveniencing them. 

Linda, it's a few Google searches away babe. Learn to communicate to your child on THEIR terms it's 100% possible.

Try and find autistic adults to whom you can ask questions. But please don't infantilize them and force em to act "normal", whatever that means. Don't tell them they're geniuses and put them on a pedestal either. Both will pressure them to perform for others and that's plain unhealthy. They have enough to worry about already.

Give autistic kids tools to navigate the world better and to accept themselves. If they're able to take care of themselves, teach them how. That's what they ACTUALLY need.

Someone: Hey, are you there? I was just wondering if you’d like to-

Me:

I find it pretty accurate.

Big thanks to myautisticsoul for making this.