My Stupid Opinions and Shit

don’t worry you’re fine! i appreciate your input. my response is as follows:

1. i think being attracted to a feminine man is less gay than being attracted to a masculine man, regardless of if they’re cis or trans. dating a trans guy who is ripped and has a full beard is a lot gayer than dating a cis guy who is a sparkly twink.

2. my point about appearances not mattering was in regards not to how gay a gay thing is, but rather whether or not it’s gay to begin with. you say you’re a feminine trans boy; a lot of people would argue it’s straight for men to be attracted to you because you were born as a woman and are still feminine, but if you’re a trans boy the appearance doesn’t matter, it’s still gay. there are, however, a lot of bisexual or bi-curious men who would be more willing to date you than a ripped lumberjack due to the latter being too gay for them. i’m sorry if it comes off as insensitive, but i feel as though it’s the truth.

this is, of course, if you think there’s any merit to classifying sexuality as a spectrum rather than a binary. ultimately i’d have a hard time convincing someone that any of this shit even matters at all. i mostly just made that video because i kept seeing people claim it’s not gay to date a cute boy and i wanted to own the straights with facts and logic.

on the topic of assessing a trans person’s validity…it’s a difficult topic. while i don’t plan on going around accusing people of being trans-trenders, the idea that we should fully accept 100% of trans peoples’ identities seems a little naive when you consider the fact that there could genuinely be some sex perverts out there lying about their identity to mingle with their targets, or confused teenagers who think they’re ready to permanently alter their body with hormones when they might regret it. i realize these are the same arguments transphobes tend to make, but i still think the arguments themselves are worth considering (just without also invalidating every other facet of trans culture by association, obviously). appraising someone’s dedication to transitioning is just one way of many to attempt to determine their validity, which, like, i realize is super fucked up in general, but i feel as though there are cases that warrant it, such as when you come across a self-proclaimed trans woman who seems creepily obsessed with getting to ogle women in restrooms or whatever. it’s something that’s not nearly as prevalent as transphobes would lead you to believe but it still happens.