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Your abuser’s trauma does not justifiy them abusing you. Your abuser’s disability does not justify them abusing you. Your abuser’s gender does not justify them abusing you. Your abuser’s illness does not justify them abusing you.

Hey, I might have found your callout via Aine’s reblog but I ignored her note until after I had read your whole thing. I have been a victim of abuse and nobody believed me, so I started reading your testimony having already decided that I was going to leave the Otherfaith. I had to know every terrible detail of who and what I had been supporting.

Nothing Aine Llewellyn wrote or said convinced me that your post was bullshit. Your testimony itself alone convinced me that your testimony was bullshit. Calling it bullshit is an insult to bovines. Every point was wrong from every angle.

As far as I know, I’m the only one who read your email. She couldn’t for emotional reasons, so I told her to send it to me and I would summarize it. It’s repugnant that after all that, you condescend to advise her in improving her life. My abusers pull that trick, too: kick me down and go, oh poor thing let me help—like they’re not the ones who did it.

That post from more than a year before your callout, when she called herself a jerk? I read that, more than a year before your callout. Since you were obviously stalking her, you must have read that. That’s how I knew you were outright lying, though you started to lose me at “snuff fanfiction” and I’m angriest at your demand that Aine make more explicit (eww so wrong, Ax, that’s an eww so wrong to demand that from me who is actually Asian) and less fungible “East Asian” cultures that…you yourself described in a way that rendered fungible, you hypocritical Westerner. That you’d considered filing a civil suit after accusing her of very serious criminal activity was dodgy too. I think you knew even then that she was no pedophile, but more than likely a CSA survivor who found religious art as an avenue to cope. None of it was of you. How dare you email with “don’t let your rapes fester” when you dragged her for expressing it at all. My abusers pull that trick, too.

Hers was a sincere admission of fault. Your apology after essentially doxxing (no apology for doxxing, none for your latest victim’s meltdown—please, you can stop pretending you ever cared about a fellow autistic person’s comfort and safety at all, the more you explain yourself the more you make it clear that you’re just a self-absorbed shitbag), and your presumption that claiming to be “nonwhite” gives you any right at all to speak over my experience and invalidate my contributions as Asian…all reek with so much fakeness and wrongness that it makes bile rise to my throat. Aine Llewellyn doesn’t do that to me, you do. You don’t think I can make up my own mind about who’s safe?

It’s hypocritical that you make a comic of her about her after her “I was a jerk” post (again, more than a year before your callout, she called herself out), when you consider it a “violation” of your autonomy with characters that bear zero resemblance to each other (or you) and you insist that it’s you—and by the way? She never saw your comic with her in it. She had no idea what you were on about. Whatever you imagined alluding to that, was just that: imagined, contrived, conceited of you. She was not stalking anybody, I think you were only so eager to leap to that conclusion because stalking is what you would do. You’re projecting.

Your works and words are nothing to hold in case bad voices must be kept away. You are the bad voices, just as poisonous as you said you aspired to be.

You have no insight. You say you have compassion all the while you damage me. Your only originality is your malicious intent.

But we were never that close that you should have been able to do this to me, and I doubt you’re curious or capable of doing anything right by those you victimized.

Your testimony and its treatment inspired me to stand against your sort of wrongdoing, you manipulative hypocritical perpetual victim-wannabe.

Because my mother broke my bones on purpose. My big sis split my head open at the scalp and only kept pretending it wasn’t happening and never happened. Terrorists bombed my school and graffitied the walls telling us to go back where we came from. My mother’s lover sexually abused me and not from the other side of the internet and not with drawings only. I ran away from home when I was younger than you are now. While I made close friends online and offline, I have never known safety as more than some abstract ideal until I let Aine into my life and my heart. To be factually wrong, to lie like you have, is to be morally wrong.

She used to be a jerk. She knows it, knew it, said it, and grew up. You should try it sometime. Anyone still stung should have the right to complain about her nasty belligerent messages. But you are wrong about her, about the world as a person of color like me experiences it, about how to stamp down sexual violence, you’re wrong (or massively hypocritical) about accountability, you’re wrong about what compassion is, all wrong and I don’t believe you don’t know it as you spew it. I don’t believe your damaging standpoint on many of these issues comes from ignorance or misinterpretation or immaturity. You’re abusive, oppressive, pretentious, presumptuous, condescending and I don’t believe you don’t know it.

This next sentence is a futile effort, but no one should say I didn’t make it: For as long as you keep your poison and toxicity away from me and everyone I love, I’m done with you.

Hey, I might have found your callout via Aine’s reblog but I ignored her note until after I had read your whole thing. I have been a victim of abuse and nobody believed me, so I started reading your testimony having already decided that I was going to leave the Otherfaith. I had to know every terrible detail of who and what I had been supporting.

Nothing Aine Llewellyn wrote or said convinced me that your post was bullshit. Your testimony itself alone convinced me that your testimony was bullshit. Calling it bullshit is an insult to bovines. Every point was wrong from every angle.

As far as I know, I’m the only one who read your email. She couldn’t for emotional reasons, so I told her to send it to me and I would summarize it. It’s repugnant that after all that, you condescend to advise her in improving her life. My abusers pull that trick, too: kick me down and go, oh poor thing let me help—like they’re not the ones who did it.

That post from more than a year before your callout, when she called herself a jerk? I read that, more than a year before your callout. Since you were obviously stalking her, you must have read that. That’s how I knew you were outright lying, though you started to lose me at “snuff fanfiction” and I’m angriest at your demand that Aine make more explicit (eww so wrong, Ax, that’s an eww so wrong to demand that from me who is actually Asian) and less fungible “East Asian” cultures that…you yourself described in a way that rendered fungible, you hypocritical Westerner. That you’d considered filing a civil suit after accusing her of very serious criminal activity was dodgy too. I think you knew even then that she was no pedophile, but more than likely a CSA survivor who found religious art as an avenue to cope. None of it was of you. How dare you email with “don’t let your rapes fester” when you dragged her for expressing it at all. My abusers pull that trick, too.

Hers was a sincere admission of fault. Your apology after essentially doxxing (no apology for doxxing, none for your latest victim’s meltdown—please, you can stop pretending you ever cared about a fellow autistic person’s comfort and safety at all, the more you explain yourself the more you make it clear that you’re just a self-absorbed shitbag), and your presumption that claiming to be “nonwhite” gives you any right at all to speak over my experience and invalidate my contributions as Asian…all reek with so much fakeness and wrongness that it makes bile rise to my throat. Aine Llewellyn doesn’t do that to me, you do. You don’t think I can make up my own mind about who’s safe?

It’s hypocritical that you make a comic of her about her after her “I was a jerk” post (again, more than a year before your callout, she called herself out), when you consider it a “violation” of your autonomy with characters that bear zero resemblance to each other (or you) and you insist that it’s you—and by the way? She never saw your comic with her in it. She had no idea what you were on about. Whatever you imagined alluding to that, was just that: imagined, contrived, conceited of you. She was not stalking anybody, I think you were only so eager to leap to that conclusion because stalking is what you would do. You’re projecting.

Your works and words are nothing to hold in case bad voices must be kept away. You are the bad voices, just as poisonous as you said you aspired to be.

You have no insight. You say you have compassion all the while you damage me. Your only originality is your malicious intent.

But we were never that close that you should have been able to do this to me, and I doubt you’re curious or capable of doing anything right by those you victimized.

Your testimony and its treatment inspired me to stand against your sort of wrongdoing, you manipulative hypocritical perpetual victim-wannabe.

Because my mother broke my bones on purpose. My big sis split my head open at the scalp and only kept pretending it wasn’t happening and never happened. Terrorists bombed my school and graffitied the walls telling us to go back where we came from. My mother’s lover sexually abused me and not from the other side of the internet and not with drawings only. I ran away from home when I was younger than you are now. While I made close friends online and offline, I have never known safety as more than some abstract ideal until I let Aine into my life and my heart. To be factually wrong, to lie like you have, is to be morally wrong.

She used to be a jerk. She knows it, knew it, said it, and grew up. You should try it sometime. Anyone still stung should have the right to complain about her nasty belligerent messages. But you are wrong about her, about the world as a person of color like me experiences it, about how to stamp down sexual violence, you’re wrong (or massively hypocritical) about accountability, you’re wrong about what compassion is, all wrong and I don’t believe you don’t know it as you spew it. I don’t believe your damaging standpoint on many of these issues comes from ignorance or misinterpretation or immaturity. You’re abusive, oppressive, pretentious, presumptuous, condescending and I don’t believe you don’t know it.

This next sentence is a futile effort, but no one should say I didn’t make it: For as long as you keep your poison and toxicity away from me and everyone I love, I’m done with you.

I told this one American-POC who wouldn’t stop harassing Filipinos about slavery to start helping. Since she was so passionate about the issue I figured Hey! Arguing over 2 dead people wont change the fact that so many Filipino women like Eudocia are still suffering right now!

I asked her to help me spread the message on different NGOs who are actively helping in saving these women. And what did she do?

Shut me down. Accuse me of asking for “free labor” (because donations are free labor now?).

And then I get it. Some of you don’t REALLY care about us or this issue. All you care about is lashing out in public, showing how your American-centric morals makes you a better human than people from 3rd world countries. 

You deny to listen to our voices because we are beneath you. You feel accomplished that you enforced your U.S.-centric worldview to other countries because in your American eyes YOU ARE RIGHT. But you won’t REALLY do anything about it. 

Encouraging women to mock/harras trans people of any gender identity

Telling trans lesbians that they aren’t real lesbians and that cis lesbians who date/would date trans lesbians aren’t real lesbians either

Mocking and being terrible to those with dysphoria, which a lot of lesbians, regardless of whether cis or trans struggle with

It’s a group where you feel like you honestly can’t speak out or say what you feel for fear of ostracization and rejection? There’s a huge reward/punishment system for buying into radfem beliefs and scare tactics used to keep young radfems ‘in their place’ 

I still get hate messages from people who say I have been “brainwashed into liberalism” aka I don’t hate trans women and that in and of itself is an offense to them

Misgendering  

Shunning of those who question their gender in any way, belief that those people are traitors to womanhood

Don’t believe in nonbinary lesbians so…. there’s that

Also the radfem community is just really lesbophobic in general, even to lesbian radfems. Shit like refusing to believe in compulsory heterosexuality, dismissal of lesbian issues, insistence that lesbians speaking out against lesbophobia is a bad thing AKA shit that has been happening in het feminist communities for the dawn of time. And yes, radfems will claim to be oh so pro-lesbianism so they can claim they’re for “all women” but there’s so much hate even to the “right” lesbians aka cis

Slurs. Tip to young lesbians- run far far away from people who use any kind of slurs. You may think someone using the t slur doesn’t affect you, but if they’re willing to use dehumanizing language to any marginalized group, they will turn against you. And any group that allows the use of the t slur is, in my opinion, a hate group

Being young is hard and being a lesbian is hard. If you ever feel unsafe in any community, online or in real life, radfem or other, if you feel like you can’t say what you really feel without getting punished, it isn’t the right space for you. There will be places for you where you feel comfortable, at home, and know that your morals aren’t being compromised. You will find this place someday

@codexpoesy

Seriously, what the fuck. So far as I know, the best current theory on the higher incidence of atypical gender identity in the autistic community is precisely that autistics are more likely to accept their own experiences of self over what other people tell them. And those experiences often include gender.

I am really not super fond of this thing where, in the name of trans “advocacy”, people make up claims that actively push the notion that trans people are lying fakers who aren’t really having the experiences they describe. But that’s what this does; it says that gender isn’t real, and anyone who experiences the thing is just a sucker who got fooled by external social pressures.

I highly doubt Cass believes all gender is fake. Especially considering that I, their friend, am transmasculine.

I made this design specifically BECAUSE Autistic people have a higher rate of being something other than their assigned gender, therefore the socially constructed expectation of assigned gender harms Autistic people at a much greater rate.