Call Me By Your Name Sideblog

I am going to share some data and observations and ask questions. This post is long – sorry in advance.

Liz had 362 posts in 365 days. That is a lot less than in 2016 or 2017. She posts almost daily and is an open book.

Travel: There was some wild travel during 2018.

Jan 1 – Cayman Islands; Jan 9-10 – NYC; Jan 17-18 – NYC; Jan 23-30 – Rome/Paris/London/Crema Feb 7-10 – NYC; Feb 17-19 – San Antonio March 7-12 – Austin; March 28-31 – San Antonio Apr 1 – Denver; Apr 17-30 – New Orleans (AH filming Wounds) May 6-8 – Dallas/New Orleans; May 9-11 – NYC; May 12-17 – New Orleans; May 25-28 – NYC; May 29 – Denver   June 18-20 - Denver July 1-3 – NYC; July 4-5 – Connecticut; July 6-10 – NYC; July 11-13 – Dallas; July 14-15 – Denver; July 21 – Houston; July 22 – NYC; July 24-30 – Italy/Sardinia Aug 1-5 – NYC; Aug 9-10 – San Antonio; Aug 12-29 - NYC Sept 1-7 – NYC; Sept 8 – Toronto; Sept 9-12 – NYC; Aspen – Sept 15-16; Sept 22-27 – Milan; Sept 29 – NYC Oct 10-11 – Australia; Oct 13-15 – Oregon; Oct 28-29 – Dallas Nov 4 – Germany; Nov 5-6 – Amsterdam; Nov 12-15 – Dallas; Nov 21 – Dallas; Nov 22-24 – Denver Dec 2- 4 – India (wedding); Dec 5-6 – Paris; Dec 11 – Washington DC; Dec 11-14 – NYC; Dec 17-18 – NYC; Dec 22-26 – Dallas/Denver; Dec 28-31 – Cayman Islands

TC liked 21 of LCs IG posts during 2018. Most were of Harper/Ford and a few of sexy AH at premieres. Other likes were random. It’s interesting to note that AH “likes” the majority of LC posts during 2018. As does Andrew Gray McDonnell.

1.       CMBYN press was center stage in January. Lots of awards shows/events in LA and NYC and many interviews: Palm Springs Intl Film Festival, NY Film Critics’ Awards, Jimmy Kimmel interview, BAFTA LA Tea Party; James Franco dinner, Golden Globes, National Board of Review Annual Awards Gala, Critics Choice Awards, CNN interview, Indie Wire interview, and Screen Actors Guild Awards. Then comes Rome. I am interested in learning more about Rome because thirsty AH and shy/timid TC were on full display. My data shows they landed in Rome on Jan 23 and Oscar noms were announced the same day. I’ve heard LC did not arrive in Rome until Jan 24. I believe AH and TC crossed 2nd base in NYC in July 2017 and it’s possible they crossed 3rd base or hit a home run in Rome. LC had an interesting post on Jan 29. She showed that she and AH were in Crema and she says: “Back to where we lived for 3 months.” I don’t recall them living in Italy for 3 months. January closed out with Paris premiere (sexy brown leather jacket), French interview on Quotidien; London Film Critics Circle Awards; and dancing in the streets of Crema at midnight.

2.       February was busy. AH and TC lunched together at Soho House (Feb 1); AH posted a story of the CMBYN dancing scene (TC liked it); AH and LC attended Killers concert; AH and TC are both mysteriously at the Beverly Hilton Hotel on Feb 5; TC posted pic of AH in black tracksuit at airport on Feb 5; TC posted story of AHs sexy mag cover – “okkaayy king” on Feb 7; TC and AH and LC at Officiel Hommes Issue Lunche Dinner in NYC on Feb 8; TC and AH at Curzon Soho press interview on Feb. 8 (AH in red track suit); AH back home in LA on Feb 10; and TC had GQ cover launch party w/ Kid Cudi and AH on Feb 20. Did I say busy? TC likes LCs Valentine’s Day post to AH - odd. I also notice LCs Feb 2 post on her becoming an “emerging lifestyle guru for the Instagram generation”. Two years later her ex husband is sleeping with IG influencers right and left - sorry. 

 3.       March brought the Independent Spirit Awards (think a naked, sick AH on TCs phone), Oscars (boys looking like a married couple) and TC presenting AH an award in Austin. Get out your hanky for “the man that this man is” speech. I took note of LCs post on March 15: “Having deep discussions about things that matter.” Could it be discussions were being held because of events in 2017 and #1 and #2 above?

4.       In April, TC went to Coachella with The Weekend (listens to Mystery of Love in the car) and TC lets us know he really likes AHs red velvet Oscars suit. AH in NOLA for Wounds and LC and kids join him there mid-month. During April, TC likes several of AHs posts, none of LCs posts.  

5.       Summer: In May, TC is off learning how to ride horses and joust. In June, AH is in NYC all month working on Straight White Men while it looks like LC is in LA. TC is shooting The King in June. In July, LC brings the family to join AH in NYC for 4th of July festivities. LC misses the premier of Straight White Men in July because she goes on a girl’s trip to Italy and Sardinia. My mind starts to wonder at this point whether AH being in NYC all summer was an escape route. 

6.       LC and kids spent August in NYC. I don’t know what to make of the birthday celebration pics - they make me uncomfortable. AH trying to lick LC. I think the Blind Gossip article about the sharing of clothes between two male co-stars came out this month. Are we trying to cover something up?  

7.       Then September hits. TC attends AHs last performance of SWM on Sept 4 in NYC and I think goes out to dinner with AH and his dad (LC not there). Fast forward to TIFF. TC is there for BB and AH/LC are there for Hotel Mumbai. At the BB afterparty on Sept 7 we see “the hug of a lifetime” even though TC and AH saw each other 3 days prior. Where was LC when “the hug of a lifetime” took place? AH and TC had dinner together in Toronto on Sept 8 and jointly posted romantic stories. Was LC at this dinner? If not, why not? She has pics saying she is in Toronto and Dallas on Sept 8 – I am confused. I am curious also when the “hug of a lifetime” pic got leaked. Was it this month? Was there damage control? After the “hug of a lifetime” AH and LC go to CO and then Milan and the pics are cringe. At this same time, TC has posted the thirst trap story in the dark car with the Plan B t-shirt and hat. What’s going on here?

8.       AH pens a tribute to TC in Variety in Oct. The LDR sham kicks off. TC is liking LCs posts of the kids in the pumpkin patch. AH and LC are off to Australia for a couple of days for Hotel Mumbai press. Next, TC is posting the deuce-deuce story and quickly deleting it (Oct 24) and AH is posting a splinters Tweet on Oct 25. TC shows up in Dallas for a fundraiser with AH on Oct 28 unexpectedly. LC makes no mention of him being there even though she is a name dropper.

9.       November is insane. LC headed off to Germany/Amsterdam for I think a bachelorette party. She is gone Nov 4-6. TC and AH hang out at the 22nd annual HFA awards on Nov 4 and TC wears the backless sequined top. AH puts out the New York fried chicken Tweet on Nov 6 and TC posted the “tree” pic for the Charmies on Nov 6. TC posted a sexy bathroom selfie on Nov 13. Nov 16 is a blur: LC is in Dallas having a girls night out; TC posted the sexy Twink thirst trap selfie with the hood, and TC supposedly hangs out with AH at a British GQ photo shoot in the Hollywood Hills (the one where he is in silk PJs). LC does not mention the GQ photo shoot taking place. Governor’s Awards and the “he is my lover” comment happens Nov 18. The next day LC puts out a post asking the public to join her and AH in a double date contest. What? Finally, on Nov 22, AH puts out a post letting LC know she is the best wife ever. All of this before Thanksgiving. 

10.   The year ends quietly with LC/Harper in India for the Chopra-Jonas wedding. I don’t see pics that AH was there. Was he? AH and LC meet up with Esther Garrel on Dec 6 in Paris while AH is doing On the Basis of Sex press. There is a quick pit stop in DC on Dec 11 where AH and LC meet up with Ruth Bader Ginsburg and consequently LC photoshops AHs “imperfect” nose before posting her pic on IG. They spend the holidays like normal in Dallas and Denver and Cayman Islands. I am curious where was TC during December 2018? Did he hang out with AH while LC was in India…eating fried chicken or helping him pull out splinters?

In conclusion, the pics on LCs IG account during 2018 give off the appearance of a happy family. And AH is along for the ride. Were things fine or was everything we saw, especially over the summer and after TIFF, masking something else? Cuss and discuss amongst yourselves.  

This is a superb essay that I found both profoundly comforting and challenging. I feel like it describes the past year of my life that I spent writing my recent essay. I wish I could have read it during that process; many of the things I struggled with are explicitly covered here. 

For the fanfic authors who don’t get art of their fics

For the fanfic authors who can’t get to 1000/500/100 hits

For the fanfic authors who don’t get comments/reviews

For the fanfic authors who write for small fandoms

For the fanfic authors who write rarepairs or gen fics

For the fanfic authors who get hate for the ships/characters/fandoms they write

For the fanfic authors who write in English despite it not being their first language

For the fanfic authors who don’t write in English

For the fanfic authors who don’t think anyone reads or likes their work

For the fanfic authors who aren’t big name fans

For the fanfic authors who don’t get requests in their inboxes

For the fanfic authors who can’t write stories that are more than a thousand words

For the fanfic authors who only write one ship

For the fanfic authors who are just starting

For the fanfic authors who have been writing fic for years

For the fanfic authors who use fanfic to practice writing

For the fanfic authors who write self-insert fics

For the fanfic authors who write about their OCs

For the fanfic authors who write to vent or cope

For the fanfic authors who are just waiting for their big break

I’ve seen a lot of posts on my dash tonight about users who are threatening suicide, with other Tumblr members posting in effort to try to get ahold of them. I think you all should see this:

IF THERE IS EVER A TUMBLR USER WHO HAS POSTED A GOOD-BYE MESSAGE, SUICIDE NOTE, VIDEO, OR ANYTHING OF THE SORT, PLEASE FOLLOW THIS POST.

1. Scroll to the top of your dashboard.

2. See the circular question mark icon at the top? It’s the third one over from your home symbol. Click on that, and a screen similar to the one in the picture will come up.

3. Where you can type in questions, the box with the magnifying glass at the top, type in the word “suicide.”

4. Click on the first link that shows up. It should say, “Pass the URL of the blog on to us.”

5. Type in the user’s URL and tell Tumblr admin that the user is contemplating suicide and has posted a message indicating that they are going through with it or will be attempting. Hit send! Tumblr administration will perform a number of actions to contact the user and take the necessary steps to prevent the suicide.

TUMBLR: THIS COULD SAVE A USER’S LIFE. PLEASE DO NOT IGNORE SUICIDE THREATS.

help.

No, I’m not answering anons about him or his recent activity because I have been scolded for saying anything. (because apparently I’m being watched?🤷🏼‍♀️🙄)

steviefinegan And as I think we’d always suspected, it turns out the world was saved by fanfic. So many congrats to AO3 and all who sail in her #HugoAwards

dublin2019 "All our work would be meaningless without the uncountable fan creators who share their creativity freely,“ — @AO3 acceptance speech. #hugoawards2019 #HugoAwards #Dublin2019

ruthejbooth Best Related Work is… unsurprisingly… Archive of Our Own!! “Art happens not in isolation, but in community”, and what a great tribute to that this is! They raise the lights and ask community members to share this win with them! #Dublin2019 #Worldcon2019 #Worldcon #HugoAwards

constablewrites Members of AO3 standing to be recognized #hugoawards

- painted nails

- earrings

SKAM (Italy) Rating: Mature Relationships: Niccolò Fares/Martino Rametta Additional Tags: Jealous Niccoló, Shameless Smut, Public Sex

Nico and Martino go clubbing with Fili at G I AM.

“Ni. Fili’s boyfriend split on him. We are gonna be the world’s best wingmen tonight…Now - I am, according to Fili, quote ‘dressed like a proper man, not like a sacristan’ and if you need any extra motivation, I promise to dance with you all night in Enrico Palazzo’s room.” Nico hesitates, torn between letting his jealousy run freely and the desire to dance with his boyfriend…and to see what Fili decided was ‘appropriate attire’ for Marti’s first trip to a gay dance club. Curiosity (and some well-timed ‘bambi’ eyes from his boyfriend) win out, and Nico smiles as Marti tows him towards the club.

Jesus, this man!

Some things were played up, yes. But don’t forget. After NY, they were told to cool it because they were looking too close and then the appearance directly after was like they hardly knew each other. 

They were obviously not alone in Crema for weeks, for example, as they always said, or at least tried to give the impression that it was only them, the only English speaking people around, so they spent all their time together.

Armie arrived much later than Tim, only a few days prior filming, and Liz + Harper were with him.

Tim had his friend Will over before filming started.

Liz + Harper came back, I think for the last 2-3 weeks of shooting.

Also present on set - at least for a while - were Esther and Victoire, much closer in age to Tim than Armie, and Tim speaks French (the ladies were kinda erased from promo after Berlinale, I just saw Esther again in Paris… no idea if that was due to work commitments or if promotion was more and more solely focusing on T&A).

Then, apart from the crew, there were Bill Paxton, Peter Spears, Brian, Andre… and that’s just the people we know off.

Infact, it’s more interesting that they were so close and remain so despite all of the other ‘distractions’.

The narrative may well have been played up, but their connection wasn’t or we wouldn’t have had so much post promo closeness. That serves nothing.

I’m not talking about shipping here btw, I’m simply saying that creating a false narrative around Crema would only serve to ‘back up’ a bond that is evident in a way that makes it understandable. “Oh, obviously that’s why they’re so close, there was only the two of them for company” as opposed to the alternative which is that noone can really explain how they have the bond that they do.

The bond they created in Crema was so strong that, despite all the people around them, they still wanted to rely on each other for everything. They chose to spend that time together, they weren’t obligated for “art’s sake”, not in that way.

So tired of annoying as fuck people trying to dismiss what they have as a part of a big bad plan when it is still going on after a WHOLE year since the promo ended. If you think they are fake, move on. So so simple.

Of course things were played up or exaggerated a bit in promo. Welcome to PR and welcome to Hollywood. 

Look at Timmy and Steve Carell: at TIFF and the little promo they did together, you could believe the father/son vibe, Timmy gushing, Steve teasing, and they seemed pretty good with each other. But since? I mean did they even acknowledge each other at the Golden Globes?! 

So yeah. During promo, Armie and Timmy probably exaggerated some details or stories. It’s natural during SUCH a long promo tour. You’re going to get bored and tired answering the exact same questions and telling the same stories over and over and over again. But promo ended a year ago! And you cannot deny the chemistry and connection they have. You cannot fake that, let alone fake it for SO long and SO well that the media is STILL using pictures of the two of you from awards shows, referencing your movie, and generally fawning over the two of you together for no apparent reason other than you’re cute and they like the two of you together. 

If it was all PR, there is no practical reason to STILL be bringing the other up in interviews or conversations, to BRAG about how often you still keep in touch, to KNOW the others schedule/what they’re doing, to NOT interact on social media like normal former co-stars/friends, to HUG ATTACK each other on red carpets and look like long-lost buddies who haven’t seen each other in years, not months at best, to call someone your LOVER multiple times, to both media people and another former co-star/friend. I could go on. 

Armie and Timmy are BONDED. No matter what, you cannot or SHOULD NOT deny that. If you do, you’re wrong. The particulars of the who/what/where/why do not matter. Because in the end, THEY have shown us time and again, and KEEP showing us, that they are an important person in the other’s life. We’re just over here going off of what THEY do and present to us. Almost 3 years after filming, almost a year after promo, and they still show us how much the other matters to them. 

Also you can really tell when shit they said was media sound bites vs some truly wtf shit. And even if it’s a media soundbite, polished and rehashed to perfection, because by now they have had to rehash everything into oblivion, doesn’t mean there isn’t truth in it. Just watch those early interviews before shit blew up and they had no idea what their little film would become. Watch Armie when he said it was his big summer romance at tiff and just look so, gone over it. Maybe things felt more ~PR later on but they also realized how massive this all was. But beyond that, beyond the soundbites, Armie alone said some truly wtf shit in interviews (sex fog. I mean come on lmao) and just, stuff his publicist prolly didnt want him to say Lbr. Same goes for Timmy. Also, how to explain the weird shit Luca said? Or André? (“I don’t think they are lovers” lmao what the fuck André?!?)

Everyone played up different aspects of whatever happened. I wrote a wild affaire story, but if I were asked to guess, if ever there was something actually between those two, I wonder if it didn’t happen circa Sundance and Berlinale?

Whatever they were/are - I absolutely think they are friends now, not just PR bs. If they are more, if they want more for each other and from each other, who is to say?

I was always a bit squicked by RPF, until I wrote it about them. They took on the hues of love and passion so easily and well, it makes me wonder if there is something to it.

I’m too old for fandom wank, so I vanish when it appears most of the time. But these are people who choose to lay their lives open to our gaze - and that means they need to accept what we may see when we look - very much like an author, who writes the tale but has no say in what the audience takes from it. (And for those who start in on ‘privacy’ - no. The IG acccounts, fan interactions, fashion week outings - look, I hate certain aspects of my job too, but it doesn’t make it less a part of my job and if I hated it enough, I’d pick a new job.)

I never said I don’t think they are great friends and genuinely like each other.

But someone asked for an example for things being played up - I gave that.

Now I’m an anti, a hater, annoying as fuck [quoting from the thread above], @rainbowdazzle vagueblogs about me in a rather rude way, and just one or two persons in this thread, where there are lots that I’ve talked to and joked with, reached out to me to clarify some stuff or ask a question. Many others just went through the roof, at least that’s how it feels to me.

I honestly didn’t want to anger anyone or destroy dreams or fantasies. But can’t we have a discussion? Which needs the acceptance of different opinions to create an atmosphere where these can be exchanged with respect and maybe a laugh?

If I’m so annoying just block me, I’m tired of this shit, seriously (I have blocked lots of people above because I find their stuff annyoing as well, though I didn’t feel the need to scream that in their face; but I stil see them in reblogs).

We all used to be mutuals, do you remember? We had fun. We wrote fics with and for each other. I’m even sure there was a time when we could discuss different opinions as just that, different opinions, without expletives and insults thrown left and right. I’ve no idea what happened, especially in a fandom built around at least one love story? It baffles me.

I’m here for a good discussion. I’m here for exchanging opinions. Even different opinions. This is all just speculation after all. I cleaned up a bit, that’s all I could do after today and Friday.

Some things were played up, yes. But don’t forget. After NY, they were told to cool it because they were looking too close and then the appearance directly after was like they hardly knew each other. 

They were obviously not alone in Crema for weeks, for example, as they always said, or at least tried to give the impression that it was only them, the only English speaking people around, so they spent all their time together.

Armie arrived much later than Tim, only a few days prior filming, and Liz + Harper were with him.

Tim had his friend Will over before filming started.

Liz + Harper came back, I think for the last 2-3 weeks of shooting.

Also present on set - at least for a while - were Esther and Victoire, much closer in age to Tim than Armie, and Tim speaks French (the ladies were kinda erased from promo after Berlinale, I just saw Esther again in Paris… no idea if that was due to work commitments or if promotion was more and more solely focusing on T&A).

Then, apart from the crew, there were Bill Paxton, Peter Spears, Brian, Andre… and that’s just the people we know off.

Infact, it’s more interesting that they were so close and remain so despite all of the other ‘distractions’.

The narrative may well have been played up, but their connection wasn’t or we wouldn’t have had so much post promo closeness. That serves nothing.

I’m not talking about shipping here btw, I’m simply saying that creating a false narrative around Crema would only serve to ‘back up’ a bond that is evident in a way that makes it understandable. “Oh, obviously that’s why they’re so close, there was only the two of them for company” as opposed to the alternative which is that noone can really explain how they have the bond that they do.

The bond they created in Crema was so strong that, despite all the people around them, they still wanted to rely on each other for everything. They chose to spend that time together, they weren’t obligated for “art’s sake”, not in that way.

So tired of annoying as fuck people trying to dismiss what they have as a part of a big bad plan when it is still going on after a WHOLE year since the promo ended. If you think they are fake, move on. So so simple.

Of course things were played up or exaggerated a bit in promo. Welcome to PR and welcome to Hollywood. 

Look at Timmy and Steve Carell: at TIFF and the little promo they did together, you could believe the father/son vibe, Timmy gushing, Steve teasing, and they seemed pretty good with each other. But since? I mean did they even acknowledge each other at the Golden Globes?! 

So yeah. During promo, Armie and Timmy probably exaggerated some details or stories. It’s natural during SUCH a long promo tour. You’re going to get bored and tired answering the exact same questions and telling the same stories over and over and over again. But promo ended a year ago! And you cannot deny the chemistry and connection they have. You cannot fake that, let alone fake it for SO long and SO well that the media is STILL using pictures of the two of you from awards shows, referencing your movie, and generally fawning over the two of you together for no apparent reason other than you’re cute and they like the two of you together. 

If it was all PR, there is no practical reason to STILL be bringing the other up in interviews or conversations, to BRAG about how often you still keep in touch, to KNOW the others schedule/what they’re doing, to NOT interact on social media like normal former co-stars/friends, to HUG ATTACK each other on red carpets and look like long-lost buddies who haven’t seen each other in years, not months at best, to call someone your LOVER multiple times, to both media people and another former co-star/friend. I could go on. 

Armie and Timmy are BONDED. No matter what, you cannot or SHOULD NOT deny that. If you do, you’re wrong. The particulars of the who/what/where/why do not matter. Because in the end, THEY have shown us time and again, and KEEP showing us, that they are an important person in the other’s life. We’re just over here going off of what THEY do and present to us. Almost 3 years after filming, almost a year after promo, and they still show us how much the other matters to them. 

Also you can really tell when shit they said was media sound bites vs some truly wtf shit. And even if it’s a media soundbite, polished and rehashed to perfection, because by now they have had to rehash everything into oblivion, doesn’t mean there isn’t truth in it. Just watch those early interviews before shit blew up and they had no idea what their little film would become. Watch Armie when he said it was his big summer romance at tiff and just look so, gone over it. Maybe things felt more ~PR later on but they also realized how massive this all was. But beyond that, beyond the soundbites, Armie alone said some truly wtf shit in interviews (sex fog. I mean come on lmao) and just, stuff his publicist prolly didnt want him to say Lbr. Same goes for Timmy. Also, how to explain the weird shit Luca said? Or André? (“I don’t think they are lovers” lmao what the fuck André?!?)

Everyone played up different aspects of whatever happened. I wrote a wild affaire story, but if I were asked to guess, if ever there was something actually between those two, I wonder if it didn’t happen circa Sundance and Berlinale?

Whatever they were/are - I absolutely think they are friends now, not just PR bs. If they are more, if they want more for each other and from each other, who is to say?

I was always a bit squicked by RPF, until I wrote it about them. They took on the hues of love and passion so easily and well, it makes me wonder if there is something to it.

I’m too old for fandom wank, so I vanish when it appears most of the time. But these are people who choose to lay their lives open to our gaze - and that means they need to accept what we may see when we look - very much like an author, who writes the tale but has no say in what the audience takes from it. (And for those who start in on ‘privacy’ - no. The IG acccounts, fan interactions, fashion week outings - look, I hate certain aspects of my job too, but it doesn’t make it less a part of my job and if I hated it enough, I’d pick a new job.)

guilty pleasure song: giving me life by mariah carey 

love making song: rock lobster by the b-52′s

I mean… who would make love to this song? It’s great and all but… I mean… not really sensual.